Pornography, why do men do this?

[Gordon_Sims]

He needs to surround himself with men who do NOT believe that everyone does this. Those who know it is a sinful, nasty habit.

The only difficulty with this is finding people who honestly believe this way and don’t just talk the talk. I had a friend who was extremely outspoken on the issue. He finally stopped talking about it after his wife found out about his frequent visits to strip clubs and his massive hidden porn folder on their PC, then told all their family and friends about it.

 

[DL82]

Men and Women out there, if you know a boy just entering into middle school, tell him what pornography is, what it does to people, and other reasons why not to do it. Tell him before his “friends” in school encourage it. Its like a drug; people their own age telling them it is natural for men to do. Filters are also good. This current generation has exposed 60% 11 year olds to pornography. I believe if we start now, we can reduce that number.

I wonder if a good strategy for Catholic schools or youth groups would be to take the boys to a refuge to meet with women who have escaped from the exploitation of pornography and prostitution, to meet the women, hear their stories, find out about their struggles with drugs, homelessness, abusive families, violent clients and bosses, people trafficking, etc. Maybe that would put a human face on the whole issue before it becomes ingrained?

 

[GODISLOVE1970]

QUIT POSTING THIS SATANIC IMPURE TRASH ON A FORUM THAT SHOULD BE DEDICATED TO GOD - AND WHO CARES WHY MEN DO THIS - THEY WILL BE WONDERING TO WHEN THEY ARE ROTTING IN HELL AFTER THEY DIED OF AIDS AND ARE GETTING PLEASURED BY SATAN AND HIS MINIONS - LOSERS!!!

For one thing, this is not an “addiction” it is a bunch of spineless, satanic weasels who can’t be in a real relationship so they created this new “men’s problem”. Keep this kind of garbage off of a religious website and go to a satanic chat room - you scum!!! I am sick of trying to go on this forum to PRAISE MY GOD and seeing threads like this. If you are that much of a low life that you are interested in AIDS ridden satanic pig women then my advice to you is to go a black mass where you belong.

People like you and the pieces of subhuman trash in the garbage you look at and glorify deserve what is coming to them - AIDS and DEATH of body and soul. SO GROW UP and close the magazine and turn off the computer - if you were really interested in my BEAUTIFUL GOD you wouldn’t have these problems anyway - you would be too busy WORSHIPPING and PRAISING my BEAUTIFUL GOD!!! instead of insulting him by putting garbage like this on HIS forum - go vomit your satanic filth elsewhere!!!

 

[FanChan]

QUIT POSTING THIS SATANIC IMPURE TRASH ON A FORUM THAT SHOULD BE DEDICATED TO GOD - AND WHO CARES WHY MEN DO THIS - THEY WILL BE WONDERING TO WHEN THEY ARE ROTTING IN HELL AFTER THEY DIED OF AIDS AND ARE GETTING PLEASURED BY SATAN AND HIS MINIONS - LOSERS!!!

For one thing, this is not an “addiction” it is a bunch of spineless, satanic weasels who can’t be in a real relationship so they created this new “men’s problem”. Keep this kind of garbage off of a religious website and go to a satanic chat room - you scum!!! I am sick of trying to go on this forum to PRAISE MY GOD and seeing threads like this. If you are that much of a low life that you are interested in AIDS ridden satanic pig women then my advice to you is to go a black mass where you belong.

People like you and the pieces of subhuman trash in the garbage you look at and glorify deserve what is coming to them - AIDS and DEATH of body and soul. SO GROW UP and close the magazine and turn off the computer - if you were really interested in my BEAUTIFUL GOD you wouldn’t have these problems anyway - you would be too busy WORSHIPPING and PRAISING my BEAUTIFUL GOD!!! instead of insulting him by putting garbage like this on HIS forum - go vomit your satanic filth elsewhere!!!

Wow, troll much? So, you don’t have any sins that you struggle with at all? You’re a living saint?

 

[sseason]

QUIT POSTING THIS SATANIC IMPURE TRASH ON A FORUM THAT SHOULD BE DEDICATED TO GOD - AND WHO CARES WHY MEN DO THIS - THEY WILL BE WONDERING TO WHEN THEY ARE ROTTING IN HELL AFTER THEY DIED OF AIDS AND ARE GETTING PLEASURED BY SATAN AND HIS MINIONS - LOSERS!!!

For one thing, this is not an “addiction” it is a bunch of spineless, satanic weasels who can’t be in a real relationship so they created this new “men’s problem”. Keep this kind of garbage off of a religious website and go to a satanic chat room - you scum!!! I am sick of trying to go on this forum to PRAISE MY GOD and seeing threads like this. If you are that much of a low life that you are interested in AIDS ridden satanic pig women then my advice to you is to go a black mass where you belong.

People like you and the pieces of subhuman trash in the garbage you look at and glorify deserve what is coming to them - AIDS and DEATH of body and soul. SO GROW UP and close the magazine and turn off the computer - if you were really interested in my BEAUTIFUL GOD you wouldn’t have these problems anyway - you would be too busy WORSHIPPING and PRAISING my BEAUTIFUL GOD!!! instead of insulting him by putting garbage like this on HIS forum - go vomit your satanic filth elsewhere!!!

This is on this forum because it is a serious problem that affects both the person involved and everyone around them (not to mention society and the entire body of the Church). And problems need to be dealt with, with the help of God. If we took sinners and just shoved them in a closet, well that closet would be in hell and we would all be in it. So I praise God that this issue is being dealt with as it should. And I pray that those involved get the help that they should, through Jesus’ Divine Loving Mercy. I would rather see problems being dealt with and resloved, not pushed away and hidden, so they can fester and multiply.
There is a spiritual outreach for people struggling with pornography. And I pray for them.
JESUS IS MERCY. Mary Magdelen is one of our greatest examples of His ever Loving Mercy to us. She was an impure sinner (as many of us are or were), so much so that those of her time believed she should be stoned to death. But Christ embraces her and Loves her. And she falls in Love with His Mercy so much that she follows Him to His death.
I recommend a book that I cannot say enough about. It is by Blessed Anne Catherine Emmerich. She is a visionary of the 19th century. The book is called “The Life of Mary Magdelen”.

Peace to you all, and may God’s Mercy continue to rain down upon us!

 

[Jesuslives]

I wonder if a good strategy for Catholic schools or youth groups would be to take the boys to a refuge to meet with women who have escaped from the exploitation of pornography and prostitution, to meet the women, hear their stories, find out about their struggles with drugs, homelessness, abusive families, violent clients and bosses, people trafficking, etc. Maybe that would put a human face on the whole issue before it becomes ingrained?

That is a great idea!! As a young single woman I find it very hard to want to marry any man because I fear this problem. Even Catholic men I know do it. It’s sickening.

 

[BlueShadow123]

Well at least he KNOWS its wrong. Most people who watch it don’t acknowledge that its not right.

how long till you guys get married?

 

[HumbledCatholic]

I must say that I haven’t read through all 11 pages, so perhaps this has been said before.

Nevertheless, a certain poster opined that it was not prudent for a man who struggles with sexual sin to seek marriage.

I answer that Scripture and the Teaching of the Church have held as a general rule that staying concupiscence is one of the great goods of marriage; knowing himself, his weakness, he should not seek out a celibate life until he has completely mastered his sexuality, but if he can control it and use it to its proper ends in marriage, by all means he ought to be about doing that!

I think the devil can work through overmuch piety, too, telling men who struggle with sin that they cannot possibly be worthy of marriage, and so cutting them off from seeking that state which St Paul prescribes as the very cure for their spiritual illness.

 

[BlueShadow123]

I know of women who watch it. Anybody who watches it gets off to it. That is why they do it. What else is there to say? Yes its wrong, but that doesn’t change the fact that they do it to get off.

 

[belovedandbless]

If your boyfriend is genuinely praying and struggling with porn addiction and he is in the church, making use of the acraments, going retreat, etc. then unless there are other obvious mismatches in temparement, lifestyle etc, I would not necessarily advise you to break up with him.

I am in the same situation as you, but with a boyfrined who is farther along the continuum in terms of his addiction. He has stopped the porn but is still masturbating. We are, however, in a chaste relationship. I do pray for lot for him and it is difficult sometimes to hear him fall but I also know that he is genuinely fighting it.

What makes it easier for me, though, is that I myself, a woman is a former porn addict. Becuase of this, it makes it easier to forgive him and have compassion for him when becuase I know the struggles which he faces. We both maintain with a lot of dialogue and prayer this chaste relationship and he has confirmed to me that the graces we have obtained through having a chaste relationship with him as well as praying with and for him has helped him to diminish the incidences of falling back into sin and he gets better and better.In addition he is demonstrating a deeper and more mature understanding of what the marital embrace will be when we engage in it.

One of the sites that helped my dear bf greatly is Shelley Lubben’s site. She is a former pron star who testifies about how she was converted and got out of the prorn industry with the help of her dh, Garrett.
shelleylubben.com/

Another great site to help him is this one

pornnomore.com/Serenellians.htm

*As a side bar to the people who have an understanding of this as only a sin. Yes, porn addiction is a grave sin, a mortal one. But it is also an addiction and with all addictions, there is the fruit, the sin of porn addcition *and ** there is also the roots. Until I did a lot of work on my past hurts (having a dad who was unfaithful to my Mom, low self esteem, absentee father, sexual abuse, etc), I made some headway with avoiding the sin but not with eradicating it. Only now that I have done a lot of inner healing work with my excellent spiritual director that I am now able to have long periods of complete chastity -no porn, no fornication, no masturbation,very few if any sexual fantasies - and be joyful and free. So in dealing with this issue one should not only depend on the outer things to prevent such a sin from happening ( prayer, fasting, accountability partners, internet filters) but also do any inner work in terms of deep inner wounds needing to be healed to effect lasting change and chastity and freedom

 

[BlueShadow123]

You yourself need to put the blocks on your computer, and if he figures out how to undo those blocks, you need to change your password so he cannot log on. I only say this because you said he agrees that its wrong. So if he agrees that its wrong and doesn’t want to do this, then time off from the computer shouldnt be an issue to him right?
you could make a seperate account for him with parental controls on that you’re able to know what hes doing online. i know it sounds like you’re being his parent, but if he agrees to it, i dont see the problem.