In the discussion about the Cana Passage as ti relates to Mary, It seems to me that the bolded section gets overlooked in it’s significance within the passage and what is recorded later in Scripture. Consider…
3 When the wine failed, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.” 4 And Jesus said to her, “O woman, what have you to do with me? My hour has not yet come.” 5 His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever he tells you.”
First, when Mary brings the concern to Him what is His response…If anything it is a rebuff. Jesus, being God, knew that the wine would fail and that He would take care of the situation…Mary did not need to tell Him. So her request to him was superfluous. In fact later, we are told that God knows what we need before we need it, so we are not to worry and be anxious about things.
Second, Look at what Mary tells the servants…“Do Whatever He tells You”. Wonderful advice from our Dear Mother. Now - Look later at what He tells us when asked about how to pray in Mt 6:9-15
9 Pray then like this: Our Father who art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. 10 Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, On earth as it is in heaven. 11 Give us this day our daily bread; 12 And forgive us our debts, As we also have forgiven our debtors; 13 And lead us not into temptation, But deliver us from evil. 14 For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father also will forgive you; 15 but if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
and in Luke 11:1-4
1 He was praying in a certain place, and when he ceased, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, as John taught his disciples.” 2 And he said to them, "When you pray, say: “Father, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. 3 Give us each day our daily bread; 4 and forgive us our sins, for we ourselves forgive every one who is indebted to us; and lead us not into temptation.” (RSV)
So - Mary’s last statement recorded in Scripture was to “Do whatever He tells you” and Jesus “Tells us” to pray “Our Father”…
As another point on your statement above that Mary knew Jesus “would honor her request”…Something often used to signal that Jesus can’t say no to Mary…
Did Jesus perform the miracle to “honor her request” or did He do it because “His Hour” had come?? If it was to honor her request, then why did he say “what is this to you and me??” No - Jesus performed the miracle because it served the purposes of His ministry and mission. He did not do it to honor His mother’s request.
I too believe that Jesus is pleased when we honor His Mother. After all, she’s our Mother too. Do we, God’s servants, not honor her best by doing what she told the servants at Cana - in her final recorded words in Scripture?
My Mother has told me (a lowly servant and least among the brothers) to “Do whatever He tells you to do” - and, in regards to prayer, He has told me to pray…“Our Father…”
So, in this I do NOT ignore Mary, but Honor her and am obedient to Her in the proper order of salvation.