Premarital Sex - Regret

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rayne89:
Compatible how? Uh unless someone is missing some biological part it ya take a man and woman and put 'em together and works just fine. I just don’t get that, are ya doing something different than the rest of us?:confused:
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Well from a purely mechanical standpoint you are mistaken. there are men and women who do NOT fit together based on how they are made.

But beyond that there are all the issues of appetites, tastes, preferences, etc. Just as there are a hundred ways to kiss and 30 of them may drive you wild and 70 of them may put you to sleep the same is true of sex.
 
I liked a lot of your comments on here. Especially the first couple.

Well, I didn’t wait. I was with my future husband, and we wanted to be togethor all the time, night and day, and we both lived alone, and then we started sleeping togethor (just sleep) and one thing led to another thing, which eventually led to you-know-what.

So, I do regret it now. Cause now I have a daughter and someday I’m going to have to be the “do as I say not as I did” kind of mom. I really hate that. I feel sorry for it in a lot of ways.

I’m not taking any responsibility off myself here, but I do blame my family and society for it in a way. We should have got married a lot sooner. We were trying to wait so we could plan the “big white wedding” and invite everyone. But we were in love and it was painful to be apart. We ended up not being able to have it anyway, and it’s really just as well. If we had just gotten married right away, I know we would still be married right now, and probably happier too. But society says it is irrepsonsible and selfish to rush into marriage, always, and that it is a public affair, when in reality it is fundamentally a committment between two people.
 
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Tlaloc:
Actually it was out of respect that I treated her as an adult. She made a comment and i reacted to it the same as with Lisa, by pointing out the logical flaws. Thats my raison d’etre if you will.
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Well I won’t but I am not going to argue about you being rude, I have more important things to argue here…
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Tlaloc:
Tyler everyone here but me (and possibly steve) are Catholic and hence not representative of the population in general. If you’ve taken a look outside you’ll notice the general consensus is much closer to my position than yours. That being the case you may want to avoid such argument tactics.
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“The truth is not determined my a democratic vote” -Cardinal Ratzinger

“Jesus never intended that eternal Truth was to be determined by a democratic vote or a consenes. The Truth is what it is whether you like it or not or believe it or not.” -Fr. John Corapi SOLT

I really could care less what society thinks about sex and marriage, we can see how that is effecting everyone can’t we. Abuse abortion, contraception, divorce, unhappiness divorce, loss of hope saddness dispare. I could go on…but whats the point?
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Tlaloc:
No. Call it Iconoclastic Spiritualism if you like.
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Sorry I don’t even know what that means.
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Tlaloc:
No. there’s no ex post facto to marriage. Indeed since my own (soon to be) marriage is an open relationship it doesn’t even have to be unfaithful to sleep with others after the marriage (depending of course on your relationship with your partner).
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An open relationship? I can’t believe that I am hearing this! You don’t have a marriage if you go into it saying that its ok to be unfaithful! What is that going to do with the trust in you marriage? There will be none! Open relationship indeed, that is called divorce!
 
Tlaloc doesn’t have many Puritan values…like chasity or propriety…interesting…
 
I am not even going to get in a debate about this, but that really depresses me to know that people like Tlaloc exist. He obviously has no idea what the word “commitment” even means.

Like you can have an open marriage and not have consequences. Right. Unless you are sterile, you are in for a reality check if you think that. Just wait till someone besides your wife comes to you for child support. Have fun when your kids start asking you who those people are that keep coming around. Hope you have a really great time when your wife decides she doesn’t like one of your lovers and demands you not see her.

I feel sorry for you. You will never know the intimacy and specialness of being the only one, for life.

And I’m not a Catholic, either.
 
P.S. Tlaloc, have fun getting (and giving) std’s.

If I were you I’d look some of them up and find out all the really fun things in store for you on the path you’re on right now.
 
Ok, if you want to treat me like an adult, I’m fine with that. This is an adult topic and one most my age wouldn’t be in.

I think that if you marry someone and want to be with them for your whole life, and you’re both virgins, I don’t think you’ll be able to classify the ‘bad’ sex from the ‘good’ sex.

Think about it. If you sit down next to a guy/girl you like (yeah, yeah, ‘like’ is a kid word, ah well) then you get that whole warm, fuzzy feeling, and you get self-concious and butterflies in your stomach. Well, I’m assuming it’s the same with sex. You love the person, so of course it’s going to be good. Holding hands with someone you like is not the same as holding your younger brother’s hand as you cross the street.

And you are being disloyal to your future spouse by having sex before you’re married. Sex binds two people together in a way only two people that should be together until death should be bound.

By having sex before you’re married you’re saying that (In Tlaloc’s view), “I love you, I am all yours… only I’m going to leave later. Go on to another’s house. Say the same thing. But, don’t worry… I’ll get better at it, and come back.”

No, you just don’t say that.

Anyway, sex is special. Not even going to say that it’s holy again. But it is special. A bit of yourself to give to your husband/wife, to create a new life and to help your love grow. Using condoms and sleeping around… what was once special, sacred and a secret to share between two at night… is now something to do at parties, with a few people maybe. The special part is gone then. The secret has been told and now that everyone knows it, it’s common knowledge.

Steve, Tlaloc, think as you wish. But well… I’m not going to tell my secret to anyone, save my husband.
 
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Pro-Life_Teen:
Ok, if you want to treat me like an adult, I’m fine with that. This is an adult topic and one most my age wouldn’t be in.

I think that if you marry someone and want to be with them for your whole life, and you’re both virgins, I don’t think you’ll be able to classify the ‘bad’ sex from the ‘good’ sex.

Think about it. If you sit down next to a guy/girl you like (yeah, yeah, ‘like’ is a kid word, ah well) then you get that whole warm, fuzzy feeling, and you get self-concious and butterflies in your stomach. Well, I’m assuming it’s the same with sex. You love the person, so of course it’s going to be good. Holding hands with someone you like is not the same as holding your younger brother’s hand as you cross the street.

And you are being disloyal to your future spouse by having sex before you’re married. Sex binds two people together in a way only two people that should be together until death should be bound.

By having sex before you’re married you’re saying that (In Tlaloc’s view), “I love you, I am all yours… only I’m going to leave later. Go on to another’s house. Say the same thing. But, don’t worry… I’ll get better at it, and come back.”

No, you just don’t say that.

Anyway, sex is special. Not even going to say that it’s holy again. But it is special. A bit of yourself to give to your husband/wife, to create a new life and to help your love grow. Using condoms and sleeping around… what was once special, sacred and a secret to share between two at night… is now something to do at parties, with a few people maybe. The special part is gone then. The secret has been told and now that everyone knows it, it’s common knowledge.

Steve, Tlaloc, think as you wish. But well… I’m not going to tell my secret to anyone, save my husband.
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This is worth re-reading. Sounds like a slam dunk to Tlaloc & Steve. Thanks for sharing your wealth of wisdom (and at such a tender age). :clapping:
 
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