Preventing abuse

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Better vetting of seminary candidates
Regarding this, science today is light years ahead of what it used to be.

It is not only the vetting, it is the entire seminary from 10 to 23 of age. Many priests, even today, enter very early on the journey of their vocation. The entire way they are taught to see themselves, has been revised.
 
We have mandatory Virtus/Safe Environment training in my Archdiocese for everyone who works/volunteers in any capacity with the Archdiocese.
As do we. And when I was a catechist, I had to spend a couple classes going over the “Circle of Grace” with my students. For my fourth graders, that meant appropriate use of technology.

Our Archdiocese does not accept anyone who cannot be Safe Environment trained, and they continuously have classes going on.
 
Please, read “Royal Commission”, “Case study 50”, “Evidence 50-0002 Dr.Marie Keenan” for the scientific state of the art countering your assertion.
 
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There are so many shades of abuse these days. Prayer intentions would have been a good place for a thread seeking to counter it. For now, it is a woman’s world and in another thread we are discussing men’s struggle. Victims of murder and the falsely accused go to the top of my list, especially those without religion.
 
Around age 10, I realized Priests were every bit as human as us. The Priest at my Parish suffered from depression and heart problems and would often lash out at parishioners. It didn’t matter if they were kids or adults.
I suspect when I was growing up that our parish was considered an “easy assignment” as they seemed to send us many priests who were ill or having problems. We had one who was alcoholic and got involved with some woman, one who seemed to have a mental or nervous disorder, one who had some chronic physical health problems throughout his whole life and was in and out of the hospital, and I think one or two more with issues. At that time there were usually 3 or 4 priests in residence at the rectory so these guys didn’t cause a big disruption but I remember my mother saying it was like our parish was the priest hospital.

Edited to add, to my knowledge our parish never had a child molesting priest though. Two of the parishes bordering us did, and I am pretty sure if we’d had one the word would have gotten out like it did with the other parishes. I am also pretty sure that our two longtime pastors would not have put up with such a thing under their watch.
 
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Celibacy for priests has nothing whatsoever to do with abuse. Nothing. A simplistic canard. A failed theory.

To prevent abuse:
  • weed out fragile, homosexual prone young men from the seminary. Priesthood is hard enough.
  • have the men of a parish do more to befriend the priests…ballgames, beer nights, male friendship. We men have failed the priests.
  • better supervision, rotation of priests.
  • bring back “the discipline”, means of corporal mortification. Since VII this has all but stopped. Self mastery over one’s passions is necessary and it makes for better priests.
  • the lay need to pray more and more specifically for priests. We need to offer fasts for our priests, etc.
 
“nobody can be trusted 100%”

That is a sad way to live life. I have dozens and dozens, likely hundreds if I made a list, of people whom I trust 100%.
I was raised in general not to trust anyone 100% outside the immediate family, so I would say in my life I maybe trusted 5 or fewer people 100% about everything, and two of them were my parents and one is my spouse.

However, if we’re talking specifically about child molestation, I have many friends who I am reasonably sure would not do such a thing, but at the same time I have seen other people - fortunately not in my immediate friend circle, but friends of friends who knew a lot of people - who suddenly were busted for sex abuse of a minor, child porn, peeping, or something gross like that, which nobody thought they were doing until the bust happened. Basically if you are not living with someone 24/7 for years and seeing how they live their life on a daily basis, you do not know everything they might be doing (which would include things like drugs, porn, gambling as well as abuse), and that includes the priests.
 
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You have definitely experienced a far, far different culture than I.
 
But, traditionally all catechists are women, single, mothers, grandmothers. More times than not, they know absolutely nothing about what they are supposed to teach. But the matter of fact is: no abuse ever occurred !!..
There are female pedophiles out there. The Church may be fortunate in that it has not had a high-profile case of this happen in a way that made the news, but the sheer number of female teachers being busted for child sex abuse in the US is staggering (you don’t hear about most of this in the mainstream media; there are websites that track arrests and put the mug shots up however), and there was at least one well-publicized case where a woman who I believe was affiliated with a Protestant church sexually abused and killed a young girl. Often the women’s cases are not treated with the same severity by the courts.
 
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I’m not sure you can stop it. Some people have disordered, deranged, degenerate, disgusting urges. There’s no way to prevent them from slipping through the cracks in any sector.
Full ordination of a priest, until final vows, takes around 12 years. With the right filters put in place, not even James Bond could get through. The problem was a complex set of human and social circumstances, that all brought together contributed to corrupt them. [Here lies the paradox, the seminary, their place in society, contributed to making them sick. They were most likely not sick before entering the seminary, although they may have been predisposed to a lesser degree.]
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What seminary are you talking about? I went to a Franciscan’s ordination. He was 25. I’m pretty sure he didn’t start at 13.

My friend who was a seminarian (already had his BA) was set to take 4 years before ordination and then 2 years of “shadow” before he became a pastor.
 
Well, “padre” in the parish next to mine (younger than me) went to seminary after grade school…Do the math 😇🤔😇🤔😇🤔😇🤔😇🤔😇🤔

“Padre” in my parish went to seminary at beginning of high school 😇🤔😇🤔😇🤔😇🤔😇
Uhhh yeah.

I know this guy. He didn’t even go to a seminary high school. 4 years of seminary (he first became a brother) + 2 years of shadowing = Priest

I don’t know of any seminaries that train for 12 years.
 
The teaching profession unfortunately seems to attract a lot of people, male and female, who do not know how to draw the line with their students or seem to have a mindset of still being in high school themselves the way they act. I’m not saying all teachers are bad; many are good, responsible folks who do not do anything untoward with the students. But especially once you get to the teenage level, it seems like an awful lot of teachers get enamored of the idea of having a Lolita or a “Tracy’s Mom” sort of situation.

I went to an all-girl high school. We had a grand total of 5 male teachers and 1 male teaching assistant while I was there. One of the six males was a Jesuit priest, he was okay. Another one quite clearly had mental problems such as nervous tics and was avoided by the students (he also could barely teach). The other four all ended up either dating students or trying to. I saw this firsthand and was also one of the students that one of these guys (“Teacher A”) was trying to “get to know better”. My mama swooped in like a hawk.

“Teacher B” and “Teacher C” dated my classmates until Teacher B was found murdered in his home and Teacher C married my classmate who was about 15 years younger than him. To their credit, they stayed married until he died, and they had a bunch of kids, so I guess it worked out. The classmate in question had previously had a very close (not sure if sex was involved but way too close by normal standards) relationship with a female teacher who had been let go by the school.

“Teaching assistant D” hit on a close friend of mine. I heard about and saw all of this.

My mother who went to high school back in the 40s had a story about catching one of her male teachers in a clinch with one of her classmates. She was scared/shy and didn’t say anything and the teacher “rewarded” her by giving her a much higher grade in his class than she had actually deserved, according to her.

Having grown up with all this, when I see teachers in the paper getting fired because they were caught in the park making out with their student in a car, I’m sadly not surprised. Parents, watch your kids. My mom probably saved me from a lot of grief as “Teacher A” was married and I was too naive to see all what he was doing until many years later.
 
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I don’t know of any seminaries that train for 12 years.
I referred to evidence “50.0002” higher up in the thread. At the first half of the 20th century, there were no schools (beyond grade school) in most part of the world!!! All schools (to be free schooling without tuition) belonged to the church and were run by religious.

So, any poor kid wanting to try his luck at studying, had to go to the seminary…It was strict and rigorous, drop-out rates above 95% especially at college level [only the best would pass the first years of philosophy. Normally, they’d be sent 1 year to a top university abroad for they final year. After that, 10 years somewhere in the jungle or Savannah in Africa, Asia, or South America. The world map is what it is today, because of celibate ascetic man like these.
But TODAY men get through seminary in 4 years. (After about a year of discernment and tests)

Saying 12 years is misleading.

Not only that, but training children is NOT the same as forming adults…and the idea that priesthood was only for the very intelligent and those who could “stick it out” could be ordained would be likely to cause MORE problems, not less.
 
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Xanthippe_Voorhees:
I know this guy. He didn’t even go to a seminary high school. 4 years of seminary (he first became a brother) + 2 years of shadowing = Priest
You mean the geniuses defending PhD theses in Rome before Cardinals and Bishops at 21 years of age.
A PhD is Bachellors (4) +Masters (2)+ Dissertation (2-4) years. That’s 8 minimum…for a 18yo HS graduate they’d be at least 26, not 21. That said, a PhD is NOT a requirement of priesthood.
 
You lack general culture on this historical matter. All I said was fact!! I won’t go through refuting. And your math on the years is wrong (those numbers changed over the years). This very day, many seminaries are functioning with students below 18 years of age.
There are “Seminary” high schools, but real seminary does NOT begin with minors in 2017
 
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In my Parish the Catechists are Certified by the Archdiocese, Master Degree level Teachers in Theology. They also are or were teachers in the Secular & or Religious schools. Some are PhDs, not all are women. Also, many are Third Order Franciscans & Dominicans (which involves many years of religious Formation). All are very well educated in the area of Catechisis.
 
I think the best way is to educate the public on the kinds of opportunities that sexual predators look for and the kinds of situations that lead to innocent people facing accusations they cannot defend themselves against. Eliminating those will make predators not look to the Catholic Church for opportunities. It will also help Catholic parents identify safe out-of-church programs for their children and youth: that is, they will have an idea of what coaches, trainers and others with access to their children–even their relatives!–should not be allowed to do. After all, the main thing is to prevent all abuse of children and young people, not just keep those associated with the Church from facing allegations.
 
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