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They are not failing because of academics. They fail for lack of students, and there are a plethora of reasons for that–mainly because the majority of Catholics are really secular-paganists like the majority of the population. Catholic parents (today) see no value in a Catholic formation, so they don’t bother. That is the failure…not academics.
This is a chicken-and-egg problem. But mediocre academics at Catholic schools are an essential element of this vicious cycle.

In a situation where everyone must do their part, those representing Catholic schools should not be sitting on their hands complaining about the lack of Catholic children as if they were innocent bystanders in all this.
 
Parents don’t pay tuition to public schools.

Parents who can’t afford tuition will send their children, for free, to public schools.

Parents who can afford tution will look for the best academic experience for their children. If that is not a Catholic school then they will rely on CCD and home for religious education.

If Catholic schools were at least doing a bang-up job on religius education they might at least have a chance.
I challenge you to go to google and search for, “Do Catholic schools outperform public schools.”

The majority of Catholic schools perform better than public schools in academics–that is just a non-debatable fact. Now, as for the faith, that is an area of weakness in many RC schools, because many RC schools fail to properly form and educate their students in the faith–and THAT is what I am saying must change.

Also, all Catholics (read that again, all Catholics) are bound to help build the kingdom of God. We must act as one House, one Body, one Church–we must find ways to convince adults to give more to the schools so more kids can attend…and we must place proper and respectful pressure on our parishes to make sure Catholics schools return fully to faithfulness.
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If we do that, we will help change the world for Christ!**
 
This is a chicken-and-egg problem. But mediocre academics at Catholic schools are an essential element of this vicious cycle.

In a situation where everyone must do their part, those representing Catholic schools should not be sitting on their hands complaining about the lack of Catholic children as if they were innocent bystanders in all this.
STOP posting lies. Look at the facts. Catholic schools (in general) well outperform their public school counterparts…it is a known fact, not a guess. So, please, stop with the constant lies…do some research.

Beyond the academics, many RC schools are failing regarding the faith, but attendance is down because of the parents, not because of any other reason. Catholic parents are just as pagan and just as secular as the rest of the culture…they see no value in being truly Catholic, they want only to be parttime social Catholics, which means they just do not care if their kids are truly Catholic. The Church has failed in many ways, no doubt, yet the majority of this lies at the feet of adult Catholics, who in huge numbers have wandered into genuine apostasy from the faith–and a person in apostasy has no desire to have faithful children.
 
It’s a question of defining excellence, really. Does excellence require that each student have a $4,500 laptop (obsolete every other year, of course), that the gymnasium have NBA quality wood floors, that the theater be of a quality that would make Shakespeare faint, etc? That’s what youre REALLY paying for at a $15k/year school. That’s not the basis of educational excellence.
I don’t know a single parent who chose to send their kids to a non-Catholic private school because they require parents to buy laptops for their kids or because they have the best sports facilities. I know plenty of parents who have brushed aside my suggestion of Catholic schools because there are better private altnernatives. I would be very surprised if my experience was unique.
Academic achievement arises from a love of learning and the cultivation of self discipline. This requires dedicated teachers and committed parents. If you have those, you can do without a LOT of the expensive fluff. If you lack those, all the expensive fluff in the world won’t help outcomes.

But for catholic schools, the point is NOT to make parents and students feel that they are smarter and worthier than public school kids. That’s a snake pit, actually. The point is to educate in an environment that cultivates and reinforces the faith.
You are going off on another excellence=snobishness tangent. Is there some fear of knowledge or success here? Are children with a mediocre education holier?
My kids catholic school is 3 years old and is full to the rafters. They keep tuition under control, keep a lid on frivolous spending and maintain a laser focus on cultivating a wholistic catholic culture in the school. Other regional catholic schools that have taken the tack of bragging about their test scores and college results of alumni (while having an anemic catholic identity) are struggling to stay open. We’re full to the max.
Our school works hard to achieve academic excellence. But it’s not the main marketing hook we use or want to use. In fact, people not active attendees at weekly mass are assigned lower priority for admissions precisely in order to maintain the culture desired in the school. We don’t want to be a place whose mission is to get the kids ahead in commerce. We want to be a place that teaches the faith, the whole faith.
I’m glad your school is succeeding. Academic excellence may not be “the main marketing hook” but it is an essential critieria. The whole faith includes the essential elements of secular success. That, in turn, leads to parents who can afford to have many children and pay for their Catholic education and maybe even to help others too. That is what’s called a virtuous cycle.
 
STOP posting lies. Look at the facts. Catholic schools (in general) well outperform their public school counterparts…it is a known fact, not a guess. So, please, stop with the constant lies…do some research.

Beyond the academics, many RC schools are failing regarding the faith, but attendance is down because of the parents, not because of any other reason. Catholic parents are just as pagan and just as secular as the rest of the culture…they see no value in being truly Catholic, they want only to be parttime social Catholics, which means they just do not care if their kids are truly Catholic. The Church has failed in many ways, no doubt, yet the majority of this lies at the feet of adult Catholics, who in huge numbers have wandered into genuine apostasy from the faith–and a person in apostasy has no desire to have faithful children.
The parents of today’s school-age Catholic children are the former students of Catholic schools.
 
Folks,

Secular-paganism has been growing for the last four decades, perhaps longer. There is only one counter…we all must turn back to the Lord and follow His Church in all ways. We must become prayerful and sacrificial…that is how the early Church grew in the face of persecution.

If we do not respond now, I fear the future of the Church will be quite rough. It will go something like this:
  1. The Church in the USA will decrease in size each year.
  2. Pressure will be increased to force the Church to do things that are contrary to its teachings.
  3. Catholics will begin to experience real persecution, though the secular-pagan culture will call it equality and fairness.
  4. Church buildings and parishes will close.
  5. Catholic schools will close.
  6. Catholic hospitals and charitable organizations will change hands to secularists.
  7. The Catholic Churches and schools will lose tax exampt status and will be required by law to do all things a state school does.
Those, and more, are the things of our future, if we do not act now.

I fear Catholics in the USA are too passive, and that they will not respond to the present call and need.
I don’t have an immediate answer but it’s a shame it’s turning/turned out like this, especially since the Church made such powerful strides since the mid-19th-century when Catholicism had practically been non-existent in the U.S. It’s debatable when this tide turned from building to closing and there were many reasons for it. To say only contraception caused it is oversimplification. One can then ask what caused people to contracept in the first place.
 
The parents of today’s school-age Catholic children are the former students of Catholic schools.
The vast majority are not–that is part of the problem. The baby boom generation is to blame here. They walked away from the faith beginning in the late 60s and extending out from there…they handed their apostasizing mess down to their children, and those children grew-up and became parents and it all became worse. That is the horrible mess we are in right now, forty plus years of apostasy has lead us to this place.

The Church has a role in this too–it became too lax, and it allowed the abuse crisis to happen, which hurt the faith even further. However, we either live in the past, or we move into the future. We have to view things with open eyes and see things as they are. Probably 15% of all Catholics are truly “Catholic.” The rest are in various stages of apostasy by creating their own teachings, ignoring major teachings, or have outright walked away.

We need to get this generation of children back under Jesus’ wing. It will take lots of work, for the harvest is plentiful, yet the laborers are few.

We need to demand that our schools be faithful–period. And, we need to start giving sacrificially to others so more kids can attend. If we do that, then in ten years everything will be different–to the good.
 
I don’t have an immediate answer but it’s a shame it’s turning out like this, especially since the Church made such powerful strides since the mid-19th-century when Catholicism had practically been non-existent in the U.S. It’s debatable when this tide turned from building to closing and there were many reasons for it. To say only contraception caused it is oversimplification. One can then ask what caused people to contracept in the first place.
I agree…the reasons are many. However, the solution is clear–Jesus. We need more Jesus, not less.

We walked away from Jesus–it is beyond time to return to Him, for He is our only hope.).

Jesus loves children (of course He loves everyone–we must help children know Him, for if children truly get to know Jesus, if they truly begin to love Him, then the future is set.
 
You are going off on another excellence=snobishness tangent. Is there some fear of knowledge or success here? Are children with a mediocre education holier?
Nonsense. The elite private schools that cost $15k-20k / student aren’t spending that cash on better books. It largely goes to the sort of frills I mentioned. Go look at some. The high price isn’t the cost of academic excellence, it is the barrier to keep out the “riffraff.” By setting the tuition sky high, they weed out many of the parents that don’t really care about their kid’s education all that much.

One can achieve the same sorts of academic exellence if one is intolerant of parents apathetic to the faith as you can achieve via intolerance of poor and middle class applicants. Faith - filled parents are even more likely on average to instill diligence and discipline in their children than parents willing to shell out low five figures.

In the end, THAT’s what you really need first for an excellent learning environment: a critical mass of kids whose parents are actually good at parenting.
 
Nonsense. The elite private schools that cost $15k-20k / student aren’t spending that cash on better books. It largely goes to the sort of frills I mentioned. Go look at some. The high price isn’t the cost of academic excellence, it is the barrier to keep out the “riffraff.” By setting the tuition sky high, they weed out many of the parents that don’t really care about their kid’s education all that much.

One can achieve the same sorts of academic exellence if one is intolerant of parents apathetic to the faith as you can achieve via intolerance of poor and middle class applicants. Faith - filled parents are even more likely on average to instill diligence and discipline in their children than parents willing to shell out low five figures.

In the end, THAT’s what you really need first for an excellent learning environment: a critical mass of kids whose parents are actually good at parenting.
Indeed–Catholic parents who take their personal vocation as their number one task in life, as a sign of their love their love for God.
 
I don’t know a single parent who chose to send their kids to a non-Catholic private school because they require parents to buy laptops for their kids or because they have the best sports facilities. I know plenty of parents who have brushed aside my suggestion of Catholic schools because there are better private altnernatives. I would be very surprised if my experience was unique.
The question to ask is how do they define “better”? It’s easy to say that the Catholic schools are watered down or aren’t very Catholic. But can these parents say with a straight face that a non-Catholic private school is “better” at providing a Catholic education for their children? Remember providing a Catholic education is **required **of Catholic parents. That doesn’t necessarily mean Catholic schools but it is still a requirement to provide a Catholic education. (and 50 minutes a week of CCE isn’t going to pass muster.)
 
They are not failing because of academics. They fail for lack of students, and there are a plethora of reasons for that–mainly because the majority of Catholics are really secular-paganists like the majority of the population. Catholic parents (today) see no value in a Catholic formation, so they don’t bother. That is the failure…not academics.
I’m a Catholic, and I send my kids to public school. My children are very intelligent, the public school has much better education, and I’m not going to sacrifice their future for the sake of sending them to a school with Catholic stamped on it. Sorry, not going to happen, and many other Catholic parents agree.

If the sell is inferior schools are okay as long as Catholic is stamped on it, it’s time to step aside and get someone else to create a new marketing plan.
 
The vast majority are not–that is part of the problem. The baby boom generation is to blame here. They walked away from the faith beginning in the late 60s and extending out from there…they handed their apostasizing mess down to their children, and those children grew-up and became parents and it all became worse. That is the horrible mess we are in right now, forty plus years of apostasy has lead us to this place.
Just do the math. If Catholic schools had done their job then those students would have grown up, had big Cathlic familes, and would now be sending their children to Catholic schools. Catholic schools would at least be growing with the increase in the population of Catholic school attending Catholics regardless of what other Catholics are doing.

The fact that Catholic schools are struggling is thus proof of their failure.
The Church has a role in this too–it became too lax, and it allowed the abuse crisis to happen, which hurt the faith even further. However, we either live in the past, or we move into the future. We have to view things with open eyes and see things as they are. Probably 15% of all Catholics are truly “Catholic.” The rest are in various stages of apostasy by creating their own teachings, ignoring major teachings, or have outright walked away.
We need to get this generation of children back under Jesus’ wing. It will take lots of work, for the harvest is plentiful, yet the laborers are few.
We need to demand that our schools be faithful–period. And, we need to start giving sacrificially to others so more kids can attend. If we do that, then in ten years everything will be different–to the good.
If I were to enlarge the problem to the Church in general I would look at the failure of Vatican II. The goal of Vatican II to successfully resolve “relations between the Roman Catholic Church and the modern world” (mainly secularism but increasingly paganism). But let’s stick to the more focused topic here.
 
The question to ask is how do they define “better”? It’s easy to say that the Catholic schools are watered down or aren’t very Catholic. But can these parents say with a straight face that a non-Catholic private school is “better” at providing a Catholic education for their children? Remember providing a Catholic education is **required **of Catholic parents. That doesn’t necessarily mean Catholic schools but it is still a requirement to provide a Catholic education. (and 50 minutes a week of CCE isn’t going to pass muster.)
If the choice were between good academics and good Catholic education this might be a hard choice. But if Catholic schools are not good at either then parents might as well send their children to good academic schools and take on the challenge of religious education themselves.
 
Nonsense. The elite private schools that cost $15k-20k / student aren’t spending that cash on better books. It largely goes to the sort of frills I mentioned. Go look at some.
I have. Far and away the biggest cost is teacher salaries.
The high price isn’t the cost of academic excellence, it is the barrier to keep out the “riffraff.” By setting the tuition sky high, they weed out many of the parents that don’t really care about their kid’s education all that much.
This is certainly a consequence of the higher price but this is also true of Catholic schools. If a school charges any tuition it will not be the choice of parents who don’t make education a priority because they can always send their children to public schools for free.
One can achieve the same sorts of academic exellence if one is intolerant of parents apathetic to the faith as you can achieve via intolerance of poor and middle class applicants. Faith - filled parents are even more likely on average to instill diligence and discipline in their children than parents willing to shell out low five figures.

In the end, THAT’s what you really need first for an excellent learning environment: a critical mass of kids whose parents are actually good at parenting.
The choices that parents make about instilling diligence and discipline are very complicated and I’ve certainly seen plenty of over-indulgent wealthy parents. But what I’ve noticed is that, today, Catholics are only marginally better than secularists but they pale in comparison to immigrant Asians (including Indo-Asians).
 
I’m a Catholic, and I send my kids to public school. My children are very intelligent, the public school has much better education, and I’m not going to sacrifice their future for the sake of sending them to a school with Catholic stamped on it. Sorry, not going to happen, and many other Catholic parents agree.

If the sell is inferior schools are okay as long as Catholic is stamped on it, it’s time to step aside and get someone else to create a new marketing plan.
You are just flat wrong about Catholic schools (in a general sense). They typically outperform public schools by a very significant margin. Perhaps the public school your kids attend is different than most public schools, yet in general public schools cannot touch the academic performance of most Catholic schools.

You might want to take a look at results of standardized tests in your area, and across the nation, you might be quite surprised. I am not guessing…these are not opinions, they are facts. Some public schools perform very well, most do not.

As a parent, you have every right to make those decisions, but I sure hope you are making certain that your kids receive a deep Catholic formation–that** IS **your true vocation in this life. 🙂 While academics is important, it pales in comparison to God and Heaven. It is important that all Catholics remember that.

Everything we see and everything we do is passing away. Soon, it will all be gone, and all we will have left is two things: (1) How much do we love God; (2) How much do we love others.
 
If the choice were between good academics and good Catholic education this might be a hard choice. But if Catholic schools are not good at either then parents might as well send their children to good academic schools and take on the challenge of religious education themselves.
Again, stop lying about Catholic schools. In studies, it is found that Catholic students score higher on Sat’s and on their ACT’s, than do public school students…again, not a guess, these are facts.

*A 2009 comparison between public and Catholic school SAT scores show that public school students had an overall average of 496 points on the critical reading portion of the test while Catholic school students scored 533 points on the same portion. Catholic school students outscored their public school counterparts by an average of 23 points. What makes the numbers more impressive is that Catholic high schools spend more than $2,000 less per pupil than public schools. *

*The composite average for these private schools on the ACT was 23.6 for 2012 graduating seniors, as compared to the 21.7 average of the nine-county region’s 81 public high schools. The private school scores also topped the state (21.8) and national (21.1) averages of students at all institutions for 2012.
Please, stop with the attacks on the Catholic schools academic performance. They are doing a far better job at educating with far less money.
 
This thread shows how much work there is to do. There is almost as much ignorance about Catholic school academic performance present here, as there is ignorance of the Catholic faith in the general population. Both issues tell us how much work needs to be done…but it won’t get done talking about it–reversing a massive apostasy will not be easy or fast, and it will take a great deal of Grace from God.
 
Again, stop lying about Catholic schools. In studies, it is found that Catholic students score higher on Sat’s and on their ACT’s, than do public school students…again, not a guess, these are facts.
Why do you insist on accusing me of comparing Catholic schools unfavorably to public schools? I have nowhere made that comparison. I am comparing it to other tuition schools, i.e. non-Catholic private schools.
Please, stop with the attacks on the Catholic schools academic performance. They are doing a far better job at educating with far less money.
As I noted above that is a useless and misleading measure of performance.

Parents who are looking at cost will tend toward public schools because they do not charge tuition. (Of course the bloated costs are borne by tax payers but that is not a margial cost to parents.)

Parents who are looking for the best education for the dollar are going to, in far too many cases, choose non-Catholic private schools.
 
Just do the math. If Catholic schools had done their job then those students would have grown up, had big Cathlic familes, and would now be sending their children to Catholic schools. Catholic schools would at least be growing with the increase in the population of Catholic school attending Catholics regardless of what other Catholics are doing.

The fact that Catholic schools are struggling is thus proof of their failure.
No, it proves my point–that Catholic parents have apostasized. The Church is to bear some blame too, no doubt…yet the majority falls on Catholic parents who snubbed their noses at Church teachings despite the Church making those teachings clear. Every Catholic is bound to know and follow the full faith, no matter what any other person is doing. The Catholic parents who have apostasized did so intentionally, they knew the faith, they rejected the faith, and they handed that down to their kids. The parents became social Catholics, and they “stuffed” their kids in Catholic schools to make themselves feel good–yet they did not get involved, they did not bring their kids to Mass, they did not teach their kids the faith, they did not go to Confession, etc…that has lead to this mess.

Once I read a study that stated 75% of children from families who had a father who was inactive in the faith, would grow up to be inactive in the faith. Conversely, in that same study, 75% of children who grew up with a father who was active in the faith, would be active in the faith as adults. The influence of fathers on the faith of their children is enormous–we are reaping what we sowed for forty years of attacks on men and fatherhood. Catholic men and fathers have walked away from the faith, they have not been active in large percentages, and it has been devestating for their children. So, while this apostasy has been between both genders, it is men that have created the crisis we are in because they left the faith and 75% of their children did the same.
 
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