This is no game my friend. This a very serious sobering topic for Catholics and Protestants alike. Orthodoxy that does not grow our love and affection for God is suspect, requiring deep self-examination. Again ths is no game for any of us.
I agree with you that those who belong to Christ will grow in love and affection for God. This love and affection is demonstrated in our relationships here on earth. As Jesus teaches us in the Beatitudes, whatsoever we do to the least, we do unto Him. As to the Church, those who receive the authority appointed by Him, receive Him.
You seem to want to have your own private affection fest for God that does not need to manifest itself in love for the Church, and love for the world.
Let us see what the Apostle has to say about this increase of affection:
2Pe 1:3 His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence,
2Pe 1:4 by which he has granted to us his precious and very great promises, so that through them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped from the corruption that is in the world because of sinful desire.
2Pe 1:5 For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge,
2Pe 1:6 and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness,
2Pe 1:7 and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love.
2Pe 1:8 For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
2Pe 1:9 For whoever lacks these qualities is so nearsighted that he is blind, having forgotten that he was cleansed from his former sins.
2Pe 1:10 Therefore, brothers, be all the more diligent to make your calling and election sure, for if you practice these qualities you will never fall.
2Pe 1:11 For in this way there will be richly provided for you an entrance into the eternal kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
He says that brotherly affection is one of the signs that shows that we are effective and fruitful in the knowlege of God.
Love for the Church goes hand in glove with love of the Lord, and growing in His grace. There is no “bridegroom AND NOT bride”. This is a false dichotomy, and contrary to Scripture.