You think today was tough, watch the rest of the 2012 election cycle. In addition to the probable Obama victory, several states will pass pro marriage equality laws. Only a matter of time before gay marriage is legal nationwide.
Church are doing a horrible job explaining to the secular world what is wrong with it. In jurisdictions where it’s legal, there’s no evidence that the fears opponents have are coming true (marrying pets, poligamy, etc.)
Personally I think we’re fighting the wrong battles here and should focus our political efforts on poverty where 99% of Americans would agree with us and follow our lead.
I think many churches, Catholic and Protestant, are trying their best to teach traditional Christian doctrine about homosexuality.
The problem is that in most workplaces, a person can be fired for voicing anything that can be construed as “bigotry” or “homophobic.”
I work in a hospital. According to the policies, most terminations must be preceded by a series of warnings, suspensions, re-education of the employee (e.g., anger mgmt classes, or substance abuse programs), etc.
But there is one thing that we can be fired ON THE SPOT for, with no warning–bigotry. Even if something we say or do is merely perceived by someone else as bigotry and we are “creating a hostile environment,” we can be fired for it.
So if I were to join in a lunchroom conversation about gay marriage, and in response to a question from someone, I explained the Catholic Church teaching about homosexuality, and someone in the room perceived my comments as “bigotry” and felt “harrassed” or “uncomfortable,” or felt that the environment was “hostile,” I could be fired that same day, in that same hour, with no warning, no suspension, and no re-education opportunties.
All my plans for paying off various debts and providing for my old age would be down the toilet. This would be devastating to our family–I really can’t afford to lose my job, especially if my words probably wouldn’t make the slightest difference–the people in the lunchroom would simply denounce the Catholic Church teachings and call me a bigot.
This type of thing is true in many workplaces. It is virtually impossible to talk about Christian teachings concerning sexuality because of the very real threat of being fired. Some Christians might say, “So what?” But when a parent, especially a father, is supporting a family with a wife and several children, they can’t just purposely lose a job for idealism.
This kind of thing also happens in volunteer situations. A very happy and productive volunteer with many friends can lose it all by simply voicing the truth about homosexuality. They will be perceived as a bigot or homophobic, and this is unacceptable in many social settings. The person will be asked to not return, and their “friends” will stop calling them. This is pretty painful.
I don’t know what the answer is. I agree that perhaps the best thing to do is concentrate on being good and kind, and doing good works among the poor and misfortunate. In other words, putting I Peter 3: 15 and 16 into action.