The GF is getting the ring. I am having my quiet evening disrupted. It is about consideration for the audience who doesn’t care to see itYeah, but you’re probably getting a diamond ring in the process.
If some woman wants to gift me a few thousand dollars worth of stereo equipment, she can do it however she pleases, public, private, whatever—fine by me!
Although you are right that the answer should not be a surprise, it is still more considerate to make it feel like it is a free choice.
And the choice isn’t made when the ring is presented and the question is asked. The free choice is on the wedding day.
Oh, that’s what you meant? I’m surprised to hear that. I’m usually quite happy for those celebrating such an occasion. It is so wonderful to see a couple in love!
On CAF? Never assume. Never assume.
That’s very true, but I also think if you’re going to propose to someone you’d probably better have a good idea that she’s going to say yes, and have discussed marriage with each other before. The method of proposal can be a surprise, but the proposal itself really shouldn’t be.
Don’t stress out too much about it- if she wants to marry you, she’ll say yes and won’t really care if the proposal is something out of a movie or not. Best wishes!Me too. If I need a an evening that quiet, I’ll go to the library. Or adoration. Or alone in the woods. I won’t go to a restaurant and expect the world to hush up for my benefit. A one-minute proposal shouldn’t mess up anyone’s dinner.
The problem is that if there isn’t a lot of freedom to say no to the engagement (because it’s in public in front of dozens of people and it would be embarrassing to say no or “we have some issues we need to work on”), and then there isn’t a lot of freedom to back out of the engagement (because embarrassing) and then there is really even less freedom on the day of the wedding itself, when umpteen thousand dollars have been spent already and everybody’s going to be mad/disappointed/etc.
I agree. It is very contrary to the Catholic faith to imply, by word or action, that a father has any say in the daughter’s consent. In fact, canon law makes it clear that a parent pressuring a child into marriage can invalidate the required consent…
And all this time I thought you were a girl.Yeah, but you’re probably getting a diamond ring in the process.
If some woman wants to gift me a few thousand dollars worth of stereo equipment, she can do it however she pleases, public, private, whatever—fine by me!
Read my past post. I said the same thingThat’s very true, but I also think if you’re going to propose to someone you’d probably better have a good idea that she’s going to say yes, and have discussed marriage with each other before. The method of proposal can be a surprise, but the proposal itself really shouldn’t be.
To the OP- you know your girlfriend better than any of us. If she doesn’t like the limelight, definitely don’t do it in front of anyone else. I sort of ruined my husband’s proposal plans (unintentionally…I had no idea he was planning it on the particular day he was) so it didn’t go “as planned”. But it was still nice and now we have a funny story.
You just made a huge point for annulment.
Sorry, I missed you previous post somehow.
OK, maybe I gave a bad example. I was not thinking of a 1 minute proposal. I was thinking about those proposal I saw on youtube, where the guy has all the waiters, perform a dance, hires a band, gets a violinist to play a love ballad and it is a whole 30 minutes before he actually shows himself and proposes
I think those diners should have had their meals comped!
