Protestant women and contraceptives, my weird jealousy?

[Anicette]

I think your jealousy is normal.
we always compare us to others. It is a normal tendancy. We see the natural differences as injustice. Because we believe in justice.
but human justice is not God’s justice. It is not egalitarism.

I am a very jealous person myself, and experienced this feelings. It improove a little as a get older and built my life. But i have not hard burdens to carry.

It is more than normal as we are young, children, or " a baby in the faith". Later we may become more focused on our own life and maybe stop compared our situation to others who don’t experience the same challenges.
because theses people can not have theses moral problems, and a more happy life, but could be in grave moral wrong.
We should sometimes sacrificed ourselves for a better society and more justice.

 

[MarthaSo]

Thank you. My question was a bit different though, relatated to culpability, conscience, better deal…Protestant woman vs Catholic.

 

[MamaJewel]

Hi MarthaSO,

I hope you are doing well.

I think what you are feeling in your post is perfectly normal.

When I originally came into the Catholic faith, I didn’t wonder about the number of children other families had. I naturally assumed everyone was practicing NFP or had some type of fertility issue if they had smaller families. I also recognized that my sola scriptura protestant brethren rejected the “no pharmacopoeia” clause in the Bible, but I was like "go figure’.

Because I already had a good number of kids when I converted, fellow Catholics were not very nice about it. I didn’t understand the resistance (because I naturally assumed married couples were open to life).

It wasn’t until infidelity struck my marriage the first time and my priest was so rude about the number of kids I had, that I realized that people don’t necessarily believe in church teaching. I was still pretty naive though because it would be several more years until I realized how many Catholic people use contraception and that they were way better off financially because of it. So then jealousy reared its ugly head.

But I had to let it go, give it to God, and understand they were on their own walk with God and I was on my own journey as well. I developed the perspective that I had to follow my conscience and they had to follow theirs. I had my own crosses to bear. I didn’t know their hearts nor their crosses, so I wasn’t going to judge.

Giving it over to God helped me to let go of the insecurities, anger, and frustration (and jealousy) when trying to practice NFP and be faithful to God.

 

[MamaJewel]

If I cut my hours I lose tuition benefits. Yes ofcourse I’m sad to leave baby but I will because we need my income and benefits.

Could you work from home part of the time? Or transfer to a different position that allows you to do so?

 

[MarthaSo]

This was very nice and helpful. Thank you. I will keep this perspective in my heart. They are on their own walk with their own crosses. I need to follow my own conscience without the nagging thought of my burden is heavier. That thought is definitely not from God. Even if it were true I hear Jesus saying “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You follow me.” I live to follow Him so it is what I must do. Thank you for the gentle reminder. God bless you.