I found this that sums up what I believe much better then I could:
“Do we need to confess our sins to those we have sinned against?”
“Walking in the light” (1 John 1:7) means that we are living in obedience to God’s commandments. In the same verse we have references to forgiveness through Christ and “fellowship one with another.” So, there is a connection between having a “clean slate” and our relationship with other people.
Every sin is ultimately committed against God (Psalm 51:4). The Bible consistently emphasizes our need to confess our sins to Him (Psalm 41:4; 130:4; Acts 8:22; 1 John 1:9). As for the confession of our sins to people, the Bible gives no blanket command. We are told many times to confess our sins to the Lord, but the only direct command to confess to someone else is in the context of church elders praying on behalf of the sick (James 5:16).
This does not mean that we are never to seek another person’s forgiveness. The Bible gives examples of confession to other people. One is Joseph’s brothers asking for his forgiveness in Genesis 50:17-18. And person-to-person confession is implied in such passages as Luke 17:3-4; Ephesians 4:32; and Colossians 3:13.
The principles here seem to be 1) We should seek forgiveness from the Lord for every sin. He desires “truth in the inward parts” (Psalm 51:6). 2) If our relationship with the Lord is right, our relationships with other people will fall
So, while our forgiveness
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Part of being truly repentant is to attempt to make things right to the best of your ability. If we are not willing to go that extra step then are we truly repentant? I think AL
So, in answer to the scenario you described… The victim is dead, right, and cannot actually hear the confession or extend forgiveness, right? So, if the perpetrator is truly repentant, they cry out to God for forgiveness. (Repentence is not just about saying the words, it is about turning away from sin.) So, the perpetrator turns away from the sins that drew him/her to committing the murder and very well may be prompted by the Holy Spirit and godly council to ask forgiveness from the family members or friends of the victim. That would just be a logical response I would think??? I’m not an expert here on all this…but that would be my off the top of my head thought in this scenario. Now, would the perpetrator likely talk to a pastor/chaplain or other Christ-follower sharing the way God is moving in his/her life and sharing the sorrow felt over the sin? Will the perpetrator need support and help from fellow believers? Likely!!! We’re not created to be islands are we??? We’re a family of believers. Do we believe that the perpatrator “needs” the words “you are forgiven of your sin” by either the victim’s family/friends or the godly council/pastor/chaplain in order to actually be forgiven by God? No! God is the one who forgives and cleanses us of our sins. However, it is certainly prudent to be more accountable to others for our actions and “confess our sins to each other”.
Am I making sense? I probably didn’t do this scenario justice in my response. As I said it is my first thoughts. Probably a few holes in it. But I think what I say reflects the fact that we do believe there is a need for accountability and support from other believers. Don’t you even do this within the catholic church to a degree? If not, that would be very sad. Where we don’t agree is the requirement for forgiveness to be granted based on the words from a priest.
We do get this support and accountability from the priest who is a believer.
This person who commits murder is definitely out of the Holy Spirit range, the thief on the cross had the dying Jesus right there next to him and he was seeking forgiveness. But he was still accountable for his sin, he still died on the cross.
If what you are saying there would be no need for pastors or ministers or chaplains or priests, this is what I think is disturbing All for Him, she feels alone and not trusting.
Do you think that ministers etc. don’t use comforting words to minister the people on death row? So do priests and they give absolution by the power (authority) vested in them.
If a person is facing the penalty and they don’t ask for a counselor then that is pretty arrogant and then your idea is right that is sad.
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