I But I went to RCIA EVERY SINGLE WEEK. Making a commitment to show up and BE Catholic is the act of becoming Catholic for real. I wasn’t playing at it, and I still am not playing at it.
I’m not sure I understand the feeling in this thread that RCIA is a truly necessary step for entring the Church. It wasn’t there in its current form until Vatican II, and AFAIK it wasn’t there at all for centuries. Holy converts such as Bl. John Henry Cardinal Newman didn’t go through it. It’s not required now.
I am not saying it is not good. I am not saying that we should not follow the recommendation of the Church to enter this way if we can. But OTOH, the Church does not require that people come in to the Church that way, so it is not fair for us to be more strict about that than the Church is.
Also the picture that seems to be emerging of RCIA as some sort of unofficial, untrained group therapy session is very troubling. Knowledge of instruction techniques and Catholic doctrine do NOT qualify someone as a group therapist. Just because you want to be Catholic does not mean you have to tell a group of people things about your history or even your spiritual journey. Nickybr38’s story is extremely troubling, as serious psychological damage could have been done to her cousin by someone who was not in any way qualified, but nonetheless felt they could push for personal revelations in a group setting. If RCIA is really like this, it may be doing more harm than good. I’m hoping in most instances it isn’t like this.
RCIA is not supposed to be primarily a fellowship activity. It is primarily supposed to be a learning activity. There is some sense in which can be a test of obedience to attend if possible, but there is NO precept or even recommendation that people have to reveal their personal histories in public in order to enter the Church. Shy and private people ARE allowed into the Church without having to do violence to their personalities. You MAY refuse to share your history with people if you want to, and if people push you to reveal it you can tell them it makes you uncomfortable and ask them to stop, and if they don’t stop, take it up with the pastor.
And sitting through a bunch of classes that teach the very basics of Catholicism when you already know them is not inherently good, just because you are doing it with a lot of other people who may or may not become Catholic. HOWEVER, the problem is that you don’t always know what you don’t know. Unless you go through it (life or with the text), you don’t know for sure that you aren’t missing something you could have a problem with. Maybe in your case, DarkLight, that isn’t an issue, but it’s one of those things that is hard to know ahead of time.
DarkLight, God is infinite and the Church is vast. You will not know all about God in this lifetime, and you won’t know all about the Church before you become Catholic. If you believe that the Catholic Church is the Church that was founded by Jesus Christ, and that the Holy Spirit has caused Her to teach dogma infallibly, then you will have to accept some things on faith before you know all about them. Sometimes in questions of faith, you have to accept something before you can understand it, and sometimes, like with transsubstantiation, it’s not really possible to understand this 100% before death. You can know what it means, but you won’t be able to understand 100% how it works. Most things are not like this, but there are some.
When I came back to the Church, there were a lot of things I didn’t know then, that I know now. When I die, God willing, I will know a lot of things I don’t know now.
God bless you, DarkLight–may He give you comfort and peace about the things that you have suffered in the past, and bring you joyfully into His Church.
–Jen