But none of us can “voluntarily accept” the first grace without grace!
If we all received grace, then it is an irrelevant technicality. If we don’t all receive grace, then that is God’s extremely mysterious will.
Assuming we do all receive God’s grace, from there it depends on our thought and behavior, whether or not we accept it as a whole, and is manifested by our committing mortal sin along with lesser sins – or not committing them.
The difference you see, I think, is in the fact that adults can, in fact, explicitly reject it, while it is nearly impossible for a baby to do so.
This is the heart of the matter. Infants don’t get the chance to reject. Suppose at the very moment of conception the soul “decides” one way or the other to not decline grace. It then dies. If, in that moment of its existence, it has an inherent and intrinsic ability to choose, then it must be inherently, intrinsically bound to what it chooses. If it exists only for a moment and decides to decline in that brief time, it could not have chosen anything else. (and if it could have chosen differently at a later time we have the one of the problems that I outlined at the start of this thread. It all randomly depends on the time of death)
*If you admit that something can exist only for a moment and choose, then you admit that it is conceived in one state or the other, God-rejecting or not, good or evil. * Its will is not free and that is Calvinistic. If it can’t choose, it is merely fortunate if infants are systematically sent to heaven. If God decides its fate on an individual basis, it is again Calvinistic.
This is unimportant for a few reasons:
First, because it is not “not sinning” that gets us into heaven. It is not “non-rejection” of grace, because nothing merits heaven like that. It is a free gift. We can reject the gift by sinning, but we certainly don’t “earn it” by not sinning. They aren’t two sides of the same coin. If I were dead I would not be able to type this to you. But it certainly would be foolish to say that I am typing this to you “because I am not dead”. That is confusing causation. My death would certainly be the reason I wouldn’t be talking to you if I were dead, but that doesn’t mean my “non-death” is the reason I am talking to you while I live.
Granting the correctness of your wording, it makes absolutely no difference. With the prospect of hell via rejecting grace, a deceased infant avoids the risk of generous gifts versus possible devasting penalties.
Life then is like going to a party serving alcohol and drugs (with the opportunities to sin) that offers free gifts at the door, but if one misbehaves at the party you get thrown in jail. Yet if you make your way to the party but don’t actually enter the door you still get a free gift. Why enter the door? Why bother with that kind of milieu?
Once conceived, the infant is at the door, receives gifts, but accidently (or via arrangement by God) escapes the pitfalls by not getting past that door.
So God is under no obligation to put anyone through any sort of test to get to heaven. If he sees that letting someone live and be tempted could possibly bring greater good out of them…then he will let them live. If he sees that letting them be tested would only damn them…then he won’t put them through such a test.
Remember, each of us is NOT put through millions of possible tests each day. Like I said, I am not tested to see whether I’d steal a million dollars from my brother. Because God has arranged it so that is impossible (my brother doesnt have that much!).
No one person is put through every possible situation to test for every possible sin. God puts us through the tests that have the possibility for the greatest good. And for some people…a lot of people…this is having no tests at all (ie, dying as a baby)
If God sees that testing them would damn them, then absolutely no one can go to hell, because God prevents them from getting the opportunity, unless God can only foresee some people’s choices and not others.
If God arranges things like that, then He is even more responsible for life events than I think theoretically as an atheist and actually thought when I was a Catholic. Which implies that deceased babies would have likely been plainly evil or at least not having any prospect of doing any good. If that were true, they are even more personally fortunate if they go to heaven.
But it can’t be true because people do exist that do great harm. There are mass murderers, allowed to have full length lives, somehow doing things for the greater good, perhaps solving the problem of overpopulation (and I say that a bit sympathetically, because I’m worried about the environment.) Realistically, we again converge on absurdity if such were the case.