Regret becoming a Catholic?

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HSD, what I struggle with in the CC is the same thing I’d struggle with in any church - the failures driven by our innate sinfulness. But I don’t regret belonging to the CC. Because when the church fails, it fails because it fails to live up to what and who it really is. In my opinion, other churches fail in what they are, in addition to failing to live up their beliefs. Perhaps the greatest miracle of all is God continually shepherding the church to a true and pure faith despite not having a single perfect and sinless person to do it through for 2 millennia now.
 
No regrets at all. I did go through some issues for a while after the Easter Vigil, but I survived. My RCIA did not have much follow-up, but I was recently added to the Parish council and hope to bring attention to that.
 
No, I was confirmed decades ago. No regrets from becoming Catholic. IMO Catholicism represents the fullness of Christianity. I’ve struggled with the whole concept of FAITH for the past 10 or 15 years. I’ve concluded that I am not called to FAITH. But when I had faith, Roman Catholicism was complete (for me). I mean no disrespect to anyone.
 
I converted four years ago in college, and I can honestly say that I made a poor choice. At the time I converted I believed Catholic teaching was true. It is only three years later that after reading more and practicing Catholicism did I realize that I believed that Catholic teaching was wrong on specific issues.

Looking back, I should have never joined. I should have waited and given myself more time to learn more before I made that choice. However, I made the choice I made, and I can’t take that back even if I don’t agree with the Church.
 
newconvertcatholic said:
From my own experience and sorry to say this, but unless the new convert goes out of his way to get involved, there is no support whatsoever.

Given how much the convert had to give up to become Catholic, this is a shame.
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This has been my experience as well. I was just received this past vigil. After mystagogy, I have had very little contact with anyone at my parish. I am a part of one ministry, but it is service oriented in a way that means I never actually interact with anyone. It’s lonely especially since I don’t know any practicing Catholics.

I certainly do not regret becoming Catholic. The Catholic Church is the one true church. I can’t unknow the truth. There isn’t anywhere else I’d rather be.
 
I didn’t convert (baptised as a baby), but i do regret being one, if that makes any sense at all.

Not what you’re asking for, though. My mother was a convert and she had expressed similar thoughts. I think she realised how many rules there were compared to her previous religion. Her family didn’t approve of it too. But overall she had a good relationship with God and she had that with her throughout her life.
 
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In the parishes were I have been active, across three states stretched from the Atlantic to west of the Mississippi, I have never known any of them to have formal Mystogia. One parish tried I was at attempted it, one person showed up for the first and second sessions, it ended after that.

The staff/volunteers seem to then be so slammed with First Communion prep that they are not going to press for more things to do.
 
Horton said:
I don’t know if there is an RCIA program out there that doesn’t include this.
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Mine did not include this…

Clarification: we had mystagogia, but no groups or ministries came to see us or encourage us to join. In fact, no one ever talked about how to get involved.
 
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MiserereMei said:
A few years after I had initially converted, I left. It wasn’t regret (and I’ve been trying to “catholicize” every church I’ve been in since–my first Lutheran pastor and I had a long conversation about the Rosary, he condemning it and I defending it. We argued both in person and email.), but a foolish, youthful compromise between my wife and I.

No, what I regret is that compromise I made. I’ve gotten myself into more trouble because of it than I would have if I had just been patient and waited for my wife to come around.
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? 🤔 which was the compromise?
 
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steve-b said:
? 🤔 which was the compromise?
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I was Catholic before my wife and I were engaged. She was not. She refused to become Catholic (she was from a rather “Romophobic” denominational background), refused to have anything to do with Catholicism. I couldn’t answer her concerns. So I doubted. And we compromised, and became Lutheran.

Though, to be fair, it is rather hard to answer someone’s concerns when one has misunderstood things in a legalistic and triumphalist manner. I had come across as arrogant to her quite often in the conversations we had (and looking back, I probably was, though I didn’t recognize it at the time).
 
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steve-b:
? 🤔 which was the compromise?
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I was Catholic before my wife and I were engaged. She was not. She refused to become Catholic (she was from a rather “Romophobic” denominational background), refused to have anything to do with Catholicism. I couldn’t answer her concerns. So I doubted. And we compromised, and became Lutheran.
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Thanks for the clarification
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MiserereMei:
Though, to be fair, it is rather hard to answer someone’s concerns when one has misunderstood things in a legalistic and triumphalist manner. I had come across as arrogant to her quite often in the conversations we had (and looking back, I probably was, though I didn’t recognize it at the time).
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have you now gotten answers to those tough questions , that you didn’t have answers for THEN?
 
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Never regretted it, it hasn’t always been easy but the joy will last to my last breath even if I am the only one in my family who believes this.
 
Have you read Rod Dreher’s story? It is sobering. I’m sure you can find a version of it online. As I remember, a major component of his leaving the Catholic Church (for Orthodoxy) was the continuous internal strife of the Church, where every day and everything was a battle. Liturgy wars, doctrinal wars, endless dissent.
 
Lea101 said:
I didn’t convert (baptised as a baby), but i do regret being one, if that makes any sense at all.
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Can you explain why you regret it?
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Lea101:
Not what you’re asking for, though. My mother was a convert and she had expressed similar thoughts. I think she realised how many rules there were compared to her previous religion. Her family didn’t approve of it too. But overall she had a good relationship with God and she had that with her throughout her life.
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Did she get answers to why the rules, and where the rules came from?

Did she remain Catholic?
 
newconvertcatholic said:
From my own experience and sorry to say this, but unless the new convert goes out of his way to get involved, there is no support whatsoever.

Given how much the convert had to give up to become Catholic, this is a shame.

But this shouldn’t stop any convert from seeking out the faith on his own. This is when I discovered prayer and now I’m in a much better position.
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IYO, what is the biggest issue a convert gives up to be Catholic?
 
steve-b said:
have you now gotten answers to those tough questions , that you didn’t have answers for THEN?
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I am beginning to get the answers I needed then, and the answers I need for problems that have arisen since.

Not everything has yet been answered. They may well be with further study. On another thread, there have been numerous recommendations for books and other resources. I have started to read the CCC, keeping in mind the Book of Concord, trying to trace where things stand. It would be dishonest to return when I cannot affirm that I believe the doctrines of the Catholic Church, especially when the questions that remain are so critical.

I live within a 10-minute walk of a Catholic parish, and will be seeing about making an appointment to speak with a priest come Monday. I will ask them as well if I can spend some time in prayer before Christ in the Tabernacle.
 
How can anyone regret being in the true church of Our Lord Jesus Christ?
 
If the Church is open, you may pray before the tabernacle anytime! Also see if the parish or a nearby one has adoration. And why not attend Mass tomorrow? You are invited!
 
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