Religion: No Hooters shirts in Mass, please

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To be honest, causing scandal for the Protestants is the absolute last thing on my mind when I dress for Mass, any day of the week, not just Sunday. I don’t care what other denominations think about me as a Catholic.
Causing scandal is a sin no matter what a person’s denomination. For many sects, Catholics are a curious lot. Don’t want to scare them off. Looking at it from their perspective: " If Catholics truly believe it is the Real Presence, why do they dress so slovenly? We don’t."
Ditto for leaving Church early. Joke is you can always tell the Catholics because they’re the first ones out of Church and into the parking lot. True.
 
It’s not a matter of meeting someone else’s standards. The point is that the way we dress reflects what is in our hearts. I think in some cases it’s not even that people don’t make an effort to dress appropriately, they actually perversely deliberately “dress down” to go to Mass to try to “impress” people that they’re hip or they identify with the poor or they think they’re asserting their independence in some puerile way because “I’m not going to let anybody tell me that I have to conform to some minimum dress code.”

If a bride walked down the aisle and saw her groom standing there in the same clothes he would wear to a barbecue, she would naturally conclude that he thought that marrying her is really no big deal, no matter what he said, his clothes do the talking for him. And surely she would be right to conclude that.

Our clothes “talk” for us all the time, whether we consciously mean them to or not.
Unless the bride and groom like a BBQ theme. What if they are perfectly happy with dressing for a picnic and get married in their bluejeans but they take the Sacrament of Matrimony more seriously than say the bride and groom that are dressed like they’re going to meet the Queen of England but haven’t a clue really about the Sacrament?

The point is, some people will always believe the way a person dresses ALWAYS reflects what is in their hearts, and some will not. You can’t convince either side that they are wrong. And neither may be right or wrong.

If clothing “talks” to you, then by all means, dress accordingly. But realize not everyone thinks about clothing that way. Actions, rather than the way a person is dressed, may mean more to somebody else.
 
Causing scandal is a sin no matter what a person’s denomination. For many sects, Catholics are a curious lot. Don’t want to scare them off. Looking at it from their perspective: " If Catholics truly believe it is the Real Presence, why do they dress so slovenly? We don’t."
Ditto for leaving Church early. Joke is you can always tell the Catholics because they’re the first ones out of Church and into the parking lot. True.
Leaving Mass early, seen it done by people dressed in their finest. Clothing had no bearing on that action. Seen people dressed in t-shirt and jeans and even shorts, stay for adortaion after mass. Where’s the scandal again?
 
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wearing a Hooters shirt. Hooters gets a negative attitude, in my opinion. I’m not surprised because it’s called Hooters and has waitresses in tank tops and short shorts, but the thing is, that’s not provocative at all. This whole issue of what we should be wearing is Church is just nonsense. I don’t think Jesus cares that much about clothes in Church. To quote Jesus himself;

“Do not judge by appearances, but judge with righteous judgement”

John 7:24
 
My thought is that your outward appearance is a reflection of your inner attitude. You wouldn’t show up for work dressed like a slob. Try telling your boss “hey, ain’t you glad i showed up?”.

We live in a lax, slob culture and so we get short-shorts and t shirts at church.
 
My thought is that your outward appearance is a reflection of your inner attitude. You wouldn’t show up for work dressed like a slob. Try telling your boss “hey, ain’t you glad i showed up?”.

We live in a lax, slob culture and so we get short-shorts and t shirts at church.
Exactly so. When I was a newlywed in the early 70s, and my wife and I went to Mass, this sort of a conversation would be preposterous. No one then would have gone dressed to church as though they were going to shovel manure when they got there.

I think there’s a real connection with a loss of belief in the Real Presence on the altar. It’s nothing special, is it? Just symbolic, right? Why dress special? 🤷
 
Exactly so. When I was a newlywed in the early 70s, and my wife and I went to Mass, this sort of a conversation would be preposterous. No one then would have gone dressed to church as though they were going to shovel manure when they got there.

I think there’s a real connection with a loss of belief in the Real Presence on the altar. It’s nothing special, is it? Just symbolic, right? Why dress special? 🤷
I just don’t see the connection. I’ve had plenty of people dressed in fancy suits and fancy dresses argue with me that they no longer believe in the Real Presence as I’ve seen people dressed in less than stellar clothing every week at adoration. I just don’t see what you are seeing.
 
I grew up Protestant. I don’t see any substantive difference in the way they dress. Catholic parishes are generally larger than Protestant congregations so you are more likely to get the outliers wearing a hockey jersey etc… How seriously does someone take Christianity if they regularly jump between denominations with wildly different and conflicting doctrines because one has better music, donuts and the like?
Can you give a concrete example of someone who chooses what Church to go to on the basis of which Church has the best donuts?
 
Can you give a concrete example of someone who chooses what Church to go to on the basis of which Church has the best donuts?
My neighbor switched from the Methodist church to the Episcopalian one because they had more toys for the kids in the cry room.
:rolleyes:
 
This is anecdotal in that it does not give the full names and identity of the child, not does it give his age. Was he three years old or four years old?
What adult jumps from one denomination to another on the basis of which Church has the best donuts? I am not talking about comments from children.
From the linked post:
We’ve been church hopping and shopping, trying to decide where we would best fit this year. We’ve been to the Lutherans on high and low liturgy Sundays. We’ve been to a mission Episcopal church meeting in a strip mall. We’ve been to the hopping Evangelical Presbyterian church where “all the kids go” in town. We’ve even enjoyed a Great Commission Network church meeting in a school gym.

The final decision is forthcoming in the next couple weeks, but Joseph has made it pretty clear.

The church with the best donuts will be his choice.
:rolleyes:
 
My thought is that your outward appearance is a reflection of your inner attitude. You wouldn’t show up for work dressed like a slob. Try telling your boss “hey, ain’t you glad i showed up?”.

We live in a lax, slob culture and so we get short-shorts and t shirts at church.
:eek: You must have gone to the same Catholic high school as I did. A certain Sister of Charity had a profound effect on me when I was a junior. We heard, time and time again, (verbatim) “the outward appearance is indicative of the inner dispostion!!”

In other words, do not walk into my classroom with your shoes untied, your shirt tail hanging out and your hair mussed up, because I will know your thoughts are not recollected enough to understand what I am about to teach.
 
If clothing “talks” to you, then by all means, dress accordingly. But realize not everyone thinks about clothing that way. Actions, rather than the way a person is dressed, may mean more to somebody else.
There are certain social standards that people normally respect and obey out of consideration for others, but God will read your heart and be the judge if you are or are not showing proper reverence. I admit we cannot know the motivation as to why people dress the way they do, but if their sloppy jeans and flip-flops are worn in a spirit of defiance or jealousy against the way others are dressed, or if the grunge look is adopted as an “in your face” attitude, then I’d say something is spiritually amiss. I also wonder when I see people wearing the same clothes they must have worn when they cut the grass that morning, if they truly understand the Celebration, the Sacrifice and the Awesome Mystery that is the Mass.
 
My neighbor switched from the Methodist church to the Episcopalian one because they had more toys for the kids in the cry room.
:rolleyes:
Now that’s a fine way to determine what is best for your eternal salvation. 🤷
 
:eek: You must have gone to the same Catholic high school as I did. A certain Sister of Charity had a profound effect on me when I was a junior. We heard, time and time again, (verbatim) “the outward appearance is indicative of the inner dispostion!!”

In other words, do not walk into my classroom with your shoes untied, your shirt tail hanging out and your hair mussed up, because I will know your thoughts are not recollected enough to understand what I am about to teach.
I don’t know why, but that reminds me of a scene in the Korean movie “Chingu” (“Best Friend”) where the teacher’s chewing them out—actually slapping them, because Korean teachers rule with an iron fist—for their bad behavior in school.

And he says to one kid, “What does your father do for a living?”
Kid (quietly): “He’s an undertaker” (considered an “unclean” profession in Korea)
Teacher (screaming): “Your father grooms corpses to send you here, and you can’t do better than this!?” (actually punches him)
 
Now that’s a fine way to determine what is best for your eternal salvation. 🤷
Most don’t explicitly admit to choosing one Protestant denomination over another because of toys or donuts, their criteria is often fellowship which is code for donuts and coffee. :doh2:

If someone is waffling between Lutherans, Episcopalians, Evangelical Presbyterians and Great Commission Network, then doctrine is obviously not that important, especially when they mention things like it’s where “all the kids go” in town, and their families’ donut preference.
 
There are certain social standards that people normally respect and obey out of consideration for others, but God will read your heart and be the judge if you are or are not showing proper reverence. I admit we cannot know the motivation as to why people dress the way they do, but if their sloppy jeans and flip-flops are worn in a spirit of defiance or jealousy against the way others are dressed, or if the grunge look is adopted as an “in your face” attitude, then I’d say something is spiritually amiss. I also wonder when I see people wearing the same clothes they must have worn when they cut the grass that morning, if they truly understand the Celebration, the Sacrifice and the Awesome Mystery that is the Mass.
Yes, it all comes down to God being able to read our hearts and the judge of if we are or are not showing proper reverence. That’s what I’ve been saying the whole time.

Some people gave up impressing people long ago, some people hold onto that until the day they die. Some people see “the grunge” look as “in your face”, others see it as being frugal and not buying into one MUST buy the latest fashions. Its what makes the world go round.

I’m not impressed with the way people dress up or down. That hasn’t been my main focus for quite some time.
 
From the linked post:
We’ve been church hopping and shopping, trying to decide where we would best fit this year. We’ve been to the Lutherans on high and low liturgy Sundays. We’ve been to a mission Episcopal church meeting in a strip mall. We’ve been to the hopping Evangelical Presbyterian church where “all the kids go” in town. We’ve even enjoyed a Great Commission Network church meeting in a school gym.

The final decision is forthcoming in the next couple weeks, but Joseph has made it pretty clear.

The church with the best donuts will be his choice.
:rolleyes:
Who is Joseph?
 
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