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Pax_et_Caritas
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At the risk of being called a “heartless heartless person” let me give my thoughts for your consideration.great you all are wonderful with your statements and quotes…You are so elegant at making your point…I am amazed at the intelligence and the gift of writing out your points…But you know what …THe Mercy of our Lord is far more broader then your understanding of the laws…Thank you God …Lets all pray that woman who have been reading this who feel terrible and lost dont go into a complete depression and spiral downward…unless you have walked the walk of losing a child to still born or been a repentent woman from abortion.lets remember Romans 8:28 I say to these woman…Forget all these arguments…You know your child is with the Lord…You can feel him or her…You cant explain it but you know…“we walk by faith not by sight”
…let the phrasees…argue in court…but you know what you know…and no one can take that from you…Your child is waiting for you…
Firstly, I don’t see any point in telling a women that her aborted baby is in heaven, since that is contrary to what the Church teaches, unless, of course, abortion is now the 8th sacrament. A child who dies without baptism does not go to heaven.
Secondly, have you considered the damage you could cause by telling people that abortion sends their baby to heaven? What if a very poor women who lived in the ghetto became pregnant. All of her other children were either in gangs or on drugs. And what if the women thought to herself “I do not want to bring another person into this cruel world only to loose their soul. Therefore, I will abort the baby and send him to heaven to be withe Jesus”. I can guarantee that such “reasoning” is not out of the question, and in fact has probably contributed to some abortions.
Let me tell you how I would handle a women who has had abortions, since there may indeed be some reading this.
First of all, I would explain that everyone has done things they wish they wouldn’t have. Their having an abortion was indeed very bad, but since the world that we live in does all it can to make people think that abortion is simply a “medical procedure”, what they did is somewhat understandable. I would explain that God is extremely merciful and want more than anything to forgive them for this sin.
Now, I would in no way make them believe that abortion is the 8th sacrament. On the contrary, I would let them know that aborted babies die without baptism, and as such are not saved. However, I would explain to them, God can do all things. It is certainly possible that He could perform a miracle in which he could use extra-sacramental means to infuse grace into the soul of the child at the last minute. This is certainly possible for God, but also certainly not the norm.
I would then explain that God is outside of time, and can apply our prayers to those of the past and future. I would then tell the story of Padre Pio who was asked who he was praying for at a particular time. Padre Pio answered that he was praying that his father - that he would have a happy death. The person responded by saying “your father has been dead for years”, to which the Saint replied “yes, but God is outside of time and can apply these prayers to the time of my father’s death”.
I would then explain to the mother that there is still something she can do for her child. She can pray every day that God will perform a miracle by which the child received the state of grace through extra-sacramental means known to God alone.
Whenever the mother began to feel guilty for what she has done, she should use this as an opportunity to remmeber to pray for her child. This would bring her closer to God and reduce the possibility that she would fall into despare, since she actually has something that she can do. We fall into despare when we feel as thought there is nothing we can do and the situation is hopeless. This would give the women something to do, and would give her hope.
I would then explain that if she is faitful to this prayer for her child, and perseveres, she can have great confidence that God will answer the prayer.
In my opinion, this will be the best way to handle it. Any temptations to depare would be met with prayer - prayer for her child. Thus, each time she feels guilty will be a time that she is drawn closer to God through prayer.
There is no reason to lie to them in order to make them “feel” better. If we want to make them feel better, why not tell them that abortion is not so bad? Obviously no one would do that.
Therefore, don’t lie or mislead the person, instead give them a positive way to respond to this situation - that is, to pray that God will perform a miracle by which the child receives the state of grace through extra sacramental means.