(Bob,
Cover your entire being with the Blood of Christ…and the Blessed Mother has great power as our advocate. She has the grace to form Christ in her womb. Mary has the grace to re-form us to the point that we can come to a point that completely eradicates anything any wrong has done to our psyches.
There is a book out by a Protestant minister, ‘Clergy Killer’. People in ministry in all denominations can go through alot of abuse by psychopathic and obsessive personalities. I was hit several times in two different locations by lay people, and the injury can really damage one to the point of loss of faith in God…let alone one’s church. A cover-up church is a very dangerous place because people are told not to talk, to put it all in God’s hands, and the abuser continues on.)
To be honest with you, I’ve never really had a problem with lay people (yet), although there were a couple I think who used to talk behind my back.
In my own case, I think I was led to join the Presbyterian Church at the very time my old pastor and his family had recently started in that parish. Although I’ve said before that he discouraged me, I also learnt a great deal from him. As for his personal effectiveness, he built up an inner city church from a membership of about 4 regular attenders to an overall membership of about 150, which is realistically about as much as a single pastor can handle. In his own words, “Anyone who knows anything about church building knows that inner city church building is deadly. If you want to build a big church, you go to the outer suburbs where the young families are.”
I also think I was led to the particular Catholic psychiatrist. For example he was the one who told me that he’d treated eight Presbyterian pastors for stress related breakdown due to the same pastor / moderator who caused me trouble. Mind you he wasn’t the only factor.
Even my old pastor himself predicted that the ‘moderator’ would “get hold of this church after I’m gone and wreck it! But he can’t touch the people”. Sure enough the old pastor died from cancer at 3am and bug-a-lug (as he called him) convened a meeting at 6am to get control of the church as I later found out. Nor did the Assembly even have the courtesy to send a representative to the funeral.
I’m afraid I think the Presbyterian Assembly in Queensland is a peculiarly ***gutless ***bunch, too scared to rebuke a single member of their fraternity, while he himself goes around wrecking churches built up over years, and destroying the careers and damaging the lives of their fellow pastors. But that’s just my personal opinion.
Within a few months he’d so alienated the congregation that 80% of them left, and a lot of them joined the Wesleyan Methodists, at the time. As the old pastor predicted, he wrecked the parish church, but couldn’t touch the people.
But that’s by the by.
I do have a book on the shelves, “Surviving Friendly Fire”, another Protestant book about the same sort of thing, dealing with both pastors and lay people. I’m afraid my bookshelf tends to be still Protestant dominated, partly due to the fact I’ve retained a lot of books from pre-conversion days, but also there are far more Protestant book shops around here, and as a consequence they are easier to get to. I may be wrong, but in Brisbane I can think of only one major Catholic bookstore and that is associated with the Cathedral. So unless one is in the city itself, the only other option is to go browsing through the large well equipped Protestant book stores in the suburbs.
And a part time job I’ve recently started puts me within about 400 metres of a Creation Science bookstore. Where’s our Catholic representation?
But Paul had the same experience of “friendly fire”, and that was a long time ago. As my old pastor used to quip, “So what’s new?”