Same-sex couple says priest denied them communion due to relationship

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Because homosexuality is the chosen field of conflict at this time from those advocating sinful sexual activity. Fornication was discussed in the 70s-90s with the likes of Hugh Heffner and Larry Flynt. This is today’s battle, which is why it is discussed more often. Fornication and adultery are still discussed, but that isn’t what’s hitting the major political wave tops right now. You fight the fight where the opposition is fighting, not somewhere else, unless your goal is to let them win.
Fornication≠porn

Should we really sacrifice the many for the few? How can we win by forfeiting?
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But to humor JdV,

I didn’t say romance, I said romantic, which Webster defines as:

love = erros, not love=agape or fillial love
I actually wanted to know what definition you were using specifically in that sentence.

Eros, agape and philia are all forms of love, at least according to the ancient Greeks and Catholic theology.
 
Fornication≠porn

Should we really sacrifice the many for the few?
This was on the heels of the “sexual revolution” and “free love” of the 60’s. That was reinforced by widespread access to pornographic material. Anyone who has spent any time pondering or studying the influence of pornography to strong sexual urges resulting in actions of sexual promiscuity to include fornication and adultery understands the connection.
How can we win by forfeiting?
I apologize, but I do not understand what you are saying here. No one has forfeited anything. As I stated previously, those sins are still taught to be sinful.
 
Not the same solution, but it could be wait until they have stopped engaging in sexual relations (assuming they were at the time). Honestly I think the priest should have inquired as to whether the relationship as sexual or not, if so inform them that it is mortal sin and give them an opportunity for confession before the rosary so that they can receive in a state of grace and after that go into more detailed talks
He did them the courtesy of calling them the day before the funeral, so it was not an awkward event at the funeral. Actually, you don’t know whether the conversation involved a discussion of their intimate relations. However, if they were just friends or room-mates, I doubt she would describe it as a “same-sex relationship.” You cannot go to confession if there is no repentance and a decision to stop the sinful behavior. It’s also called the Sacrament of Reconciliation. In the case of a same-sex couple, they would need to decide to turn towards the Lord and to live chaste lives.
I admit I’m sort of baffled how a priest didn’t know of their relationship given them being there twelve years especially considering the town has only a couple thousand families especially considering their level of involvement with the Church
He was ordained in May and then spent some time at another parish, so he has been at this parish for a short time, maybe only a few weeks. I suppose unless some told him, the only way he would find out would be from reading the obituary.
 
This was on the heels of the “sexual revolution” and “free love” of the 60’s. That was reinforced by widespread access to pornographic material. Anyone who has spent any time pondering or studying the influence of pornography to strong sexual urges resulting in actions of sexual promiscuity to include fornication and adultery understands the connection.

I apologize, but I do not understand what you are saying here. No one has forfeited anything. As I stated previously, those sins are still taught to be sinful.
Porn is linked to those, but it is not those, fornication can still be rampant without porn.

More souls can be saved through deal with fornication yet you ask us to abandon them.
He did them the courtesy of calling them the day before the funeral, so it was not an awkward event at the funeral. Actually, you don’t know whether the conversation involved a discussion of their intimate relations. However, if they were just friends or room-mates, I doubt she would describe it as a “same-sex relationship.” You cannot go to confession if there is no repentance and a decision to stop the sinful behavior. It’s also called the Sacrament of Reconciliation. In the case of a same-sex couple, they would need to decide to turn towards the Lord and to live chaste lives.

He was ordained in May and then spent some time at another parish, so he has been at this parish for a short time, maybe only a few weeks. I suppose unless some told him, the only way he would find out would be from reading the obituary.
We live in a day and age where people “friend” people on “Facebook” who they’ve never met so they can get more from games, that some might use terms like "couple to describe a relationship with someone they’ve been with for twenty years isn’t that surprising nor is using “partner” to discuss the other person terribly unreasonable. Of course you cannot be forgiven if there is no desire to stop it, that is why I said “give them an opportunity for confession”.
I. WHAT IS THIS SACRAMENT CALLED?
1423 It is called the sacrament of conversion because it makes sacramentally present Jesus’ call to conversion, the first step in returning to the Father5 from whom one has strayed by sin.
It is called the sacrament of Penance, since it consecrates the Christian sinner’s personal and ecclesial steps of conversion, penance, and satisfaction.
1424 It is called the sacrament of confession, since the disclosure or confession of sins to a priest is an essential element of this sacrament. In a profound sense it is also a “confession” - acknowledgment and praise - of the holiness of God and of his mercy toward sinful man.
It is called the sacrament of forgiveness, since by the priest’s sacramental absolution God grants the penitent "pardon and peace."6
It is called the sacrament of Reconciliation, because it imparts to the sinner the live of God who reconciles: "Be reconciled to God."7 He who lives by God’s merciful love is ready to respond to the Lord’s call: "Go; first be reconciled to your brother."8
Of course they’d need to turn to the Lord and live a chaste relationship. Funny thing is that if we go by Patristic writing and that of other saint a chaste same sex relationship centered on Christ is far more rewarding than marriage.

I said a priest, not the priest. Surely the previous priest should have told the new guy about the couple at least to help them grieve.
 
Surely the previous priest should have told the new guy about the couple at least to help them grieve.
“Surely?” Why are you so determined to criticise priests? Now you suggest that the woman died when the old priest was still there and should have told the new one when we don’t know the chronology of events. You are imagining scenarios in order to find fault.
 
“Surely?” Why are you so determined to criticise priests? Now you suggest that the woman died when the old priest was still there and should have told the new one when we don’t know the chronology of events. You are imagining scenarios in order to find fault.
I was going along with your line of thought that the new priest has maybe only been there a few weeks.
 
Porn is linked to those, but it is not those, fornication can still be rampant without porn.

More souls can be saved through deal with fornication yet you ask us to abandon them.

We live in a day and age where people “friend” people on “Facebook” who they’ve never met so they can get more from games, that some might use terms like "couple to describe a relationship with someone they’ve been with for twenty years isn’t that surprising nor is using “partner” to discuss the other person terribly unreasonable. Of course you cannot be forgiven if there is no desire to stop it, that is why I said “give them an opportunity for confession”.

Of course they’d need to turn to the Lord and live a chaste relationship. Funny thing is that if we go by Patristic writing and that of other saint a chaste same sex relationship centered on Christ is far more rewarding than marriage.

I said a priest, not the priest. Surely the previous priest should have told the new guy about the couple at least to help them grieve.
I get the feeling you are being purposely obtuse because you are attempting to make us sound as if we are saying something we are not, so I leave you to your views. I appreciate the discussion, thank you.

I reiterate the priest did the right thing and the women were and are in the wrong.
 
Surely the previous priest should have told the new guy about the couple at least to help them grieve.
Perhaps, but that would depend on a smooth hand-over of responsibility for the parish. I am not sure that took place.

At his previous parish, Fr. Kneib was listed as the associate pastor. However, at this new church, he is listed as the administrator (not the pastor, or even associate pastor). Admittedly, I am reading between the lines, but I wonder if Fr. Kneib was transferred to the new church because the previous pastor had become unavailable with little prior notice, e.g. illness, death, etc.
 
Perhaps, but that would depend on a smooth hand-over of responsibility for the parish. I am not sure that took place.

At his previous parish, Fr. Kneib was listed as the associate pastor. However, at this new church, he is listed as the administrator (not the pastor, or even associate pastor). Admittedly, I am reading between the lines, but I wonder if Fr. Kneib was transferred to the new church because the previous pastor had become unavailable with little prior notice, e.g. illness, death, etc.
In some diocese a priest isn’t given the title of “pastor” until he has been a priest for some number of years.

It might have been an unexpected transition, as you said, or the prior pastor might have simply wanted Fr. Kneib to form his own relationships and opinions in the parish without any pre-conceived ideas.
 
What astonishes me is that they were parish members for 12 years yet never considered the fact that they were ineligible to receive communion due to living in an illicit relationship? I’ve known people in irregular marriages who voluntarily refrained from receiving communion for years because they knew they should not.
 
Oh, I know a person like that.
He knows very well that the way he lives is considered sinful, but he decided his God loves him as he is (who ever said otherwise?) and he can ignore everything else he hears and do what he concludes is right. :rolleyes:
 
The place where this happened is my hometown. I actually know the couple who were denied, although not very well at all. I will try to present the facts as unbiased as possible as that will be more helpful for people who are confused about what happened and why it happened.

The couple had not “publically” come out until the obituary, however, everybody and I mean everybody knew that this was a lesbian couple and had been for a very very long time. One of the persons in the couple had been very very active in the ministries of the church (choir, lector, music, etc.). The previous couple of priests knew about the relationship and did not deny the couple communion at any time that anybody is aware of. Whether or not they are/have been engaged in a sexual relationship at the time or at any previous time is unknown, however, many think it is likely that they are in a sexual relationship.

The new priest, Father Kneib, has been in his position since April 2013. He was ordained in 2012 and previously served as an associate pastor. Upon speaking to some local parishioners, it seems that most are of the opinion that Father Kneib knew that they are a lesbian couple. However, this is mostly speculation, but given the involvement of the couple in the parish, it seems unlikely that he would not know. However, once the couple “came out” in the obituary as being a couple, the priest called them and told them they would not be able to receive communion.

What has ruffled the feathers of some is that the priest chose a very poor moment to enforce the rules, so to speak and was not very pastoral. It seems that the parish had been operating under a kind of “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. Furthermore, there are other active homosexuals who are involved at this parish, well-known ones I might add, and they are not nor have been prohibited communion.

It seems to me, if the parish priests would have been consistant from the beginning (many decades ago), this whole situation could have been avoided.
 
It seems to me, if the parish priests would have been consistant from the beginning (many decades ago), this whole situation could have been avoided.
My thoughts. This is why it’s most charitable to tell people the truth, and enforce it, from the get-go. Someone somewhere takes the hit; in this case I think its the young priest (for following Church teaching), and the couple (for not having it enforced more clearly). A lot of young priests have their work cut out for them.
 
The place where this happened is my hometown. I actually know the couple who were denied, although not very well at all. I will try to present the facts as unbiased as possible as that will be more helpful for people who are confused about what happened and why it happened.

The couple had not “publically” come out until the obituary, however, everybody and I mean everybody knew that this was a lesbian couple and had been for a very very long time. One of the persons in the couple had been very very active in the ministries of the church (choir, lector, music, etc.). The previous couple of priests knew about the relationship and did not deny the couple communion at any time that anybody is aware of. Whether or not they are/have been engaged in a sexual relationship at the time or at any previous time is unknown, however, many think it is likely that they are in a sexual relationship.

The new priest, Father Kneib, has been in his position since April 2013. He was ordained in 2012 and previously served as an associate pastor. Upon speaking to some local parishioners, it seems that most are of the opinion that Father Kneib knew that they are a lesbian couple. However, this is mostly speculation, but given the involvement of the couple in the parish, it seems unlikely that he would not know. **However, once the couple “came out” in the obituary as being a couple, the priest called them and told them they would not be able to receive communion.
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What has ruffled the feathers of some is that the priest chose a very poor moment to enforce the rules, so to speak and was not very pastoral. It seems that the parish had been operating under a kind of “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. **Furthermore, there are other active homosexuals who are involved at this parish, well-known ones I might add, and they are not nor have been prohibited communion. **

It seems to me, if the parish priests would have been consistant from the beginning (many decades ago), this whole situation could have been avoided.
As uncomfortable as this situation is, I still think this priest did the right thing. Church teaching is that we are to interpret peoples actions in the most favorable light. Having other “well known” homosexuals in the parish is not a call for immediate action. He may indeed be counseling them behind the scenes. As for the couple in the OP, his hand was forced once they published publically their relationship. And he **did **counsel them privately. The only reason the rest of the parish (and the rest of blogdom) know what he said is because one of the women went to the press.
 
It was a Roman Catholic Church. This couple would be welcomed in most American Anglican parishes.
They would be** welcomed** in any Roman Catholic Church, which also loves them enough to prevent them from taking the Eucharist in an unworthy manner.

How dare us stingy ol’ Catholics actually try to preserve the holiness and pureness of the Real Presence of God in the Eucharist!

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:
 
They would be** welcomed** in any Roman Catholic Church, which also loves them enough to prevent them from taking the Eucharist in an unworthy manner.
Perhaps I worded that poorly, but what I meant is that they would be welcomed to participate in the full life of the parish and Eucharist in most American Anglican parishes.
How dare us stingy ol’ Catholics actually try to preserve the holiness and pureness of the Real Presence of God in the Eucharist!
I never made any judgements in any of my posts about the appropriateness of what the RCC parish did vs. what the average Anglican parish would do. That said, I find it a bit odd that a gay couple couldn’t receive the Eucharist , yet a politician that supports late trimester abortions can…seems like some sins are placed above others. :confused:

I can sympathize with some of the anger on the part of the gay couple in this case. If the couple had been allowed and taught that it was okay for them to receive and then they were denied on the day of her mother’s funeral, it might rub a person the wrong way. If the previous priests did a poor job of communicating the RCC teaching on the matter, then it is really hard to be upset with the gay couple. The couple also might be upset due to the fact that there are a number of well-known and active homosexuals in that parish who have not been denied communion. These other gay persons are also very active in the parish. At the end of the day, the current priest did exactly what he was taught to do in this case, however, considering the circumstances, it is hard not to sympathize with this couple. Clear and concise teaching and catechism could have prevented this whole thing, however, as an Anglican, I know all about bad catechism and inconcise teaching. 🙂
 
Perhaps I worded that poorly, but what I meant is that they would be welcomed to participate in the full life of the parish and Eucharist in most American Anglican parishes.
Well, I’d respond that the couple in particular are more than welcome to do so in the Roman Catholic Church, too; it’s their choice to live how they are, and thus their choice to deny themselves the Real Presence of Christ in the Eucharist. 🤷
I never made any judgements in any of my posts about the appropriateness of what the RCC parish did vs. what the average Anglican parish would do.
Well, I’ll apologize for my tone, then…the wording in your last post sounded a lot like judgement in general. Sorry I snapped so quickly.
That said, I find it a bit odd that a gay couple couldn’t receive the Eucharist , yet a politician that supports late trimester abortions can…seems like some sins are placed above others. :confused:
The priest in question came across irrefutable evidence that this couple was living in sin, regardless of what may or may not have been suspected beforehand.

And if you think the attention to abortion is being short-shrifted by the Church, I would gently posit that you don’t pay much attention to the media in general these days. The U.N. just blasted the Church in one of the most hate-filled diatribes I’ve ever seen over its stance on abortion, among other things.
I can sympathize with some of the anger on the part of the gay couple in this case. If the couple had been allowed and taught that it was okay for them to receive and then they were denied on the day of her mother’s funeral, it might rub a person the wrong way. If the previous priests did a poor job of communicating the RCC teaching on the matter, then it is really hard to be upset with the gay couple. The couple also might be upset due to the fact that there are a number of well-known and active homosexuals in that parish who have not been denied communion. These other gay persons are also very active in the parish. At the end of the day, the current priest did exactly what he was taught to do in this case, however, considering the circumstances, it is hard not to sympathize with this couple. Clear and concise teaching and catechism could have prevented this whole thing, however, as an Anglican, I know all about bad catechism and inconcise teaching. 🙂
I think it more likely that the priest, not being a mind-reader and not wanting to withhold the Real Presence of Christ if there was no concrete proof of their actions, had no reasonable ground on which to act until now.
 
Well, I’d respond that the couple in particular are more than welcome to do so in the Roman Catholic Church, too; it’s their choice to live how they are, and thus their choice to deny themselves the Real Presence of Christ in the Eucharist. 🤷

Well, I’ll apologize for my tone, then…the wording in your last post sounded a lot like judgement in general. Sorry I snapped so quickly.

**The priest in question came across irrefutable evidence that this couple was living in sin, regardless of what may or may not have been suspected beforehand. **

And if you think the attention to abortion is being short-shrifted by the Church, I would gently posit that you don’t pay much attention to the media in general these days. The U.N. just blasted the Church in one of the most hate-filled diatribes I’ve ever seen over its stance on abortion, among other things.

I think it more likely that the priest, not being a mind-reader and not wanting to withhold the Real Presence of Christ if there was no concrete proof of their actions, had no reasonable ground on which to act until now.
Um, that obit isn’t actually “irrefutable evidence that this couple was living in sin”; it didn’t say they were sexual involved and it didn’t claim they were married. Plenty of heterosexual pairs have been considered couples.
 
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