so how does the essence of homosexuality, the bonding with another of the same sex out of mutual love attraction respect, devotion, trust, and with believers a shared faith in christ for a committed shared life together come against the commandment?
if you say it violates god’s law or is disobedient to the law, then
your understanding is led by the law which is of the old covennant.
No, brother - God’s commands (though not the Levitical law) are for all time, not just for the Old Covenant. Which is why Jesus told the rich young man that he had to OBEY the ten commandments of Moses if he would have eternal life, and loved him for his faithful obedience to them, and that is why theft, murder etc are just as sinful today as they were in Moses’ day!
True, Jesus gave the two GREAT commandments - but remember there are TWO of them, not just the one that you love to quote. And note the first and most important is loving God with our heart, mind, soul - and yes, our body. Our bodies belong to God first and foremost, not to ourselves, not to others, and our sexual faculties are to be used as HE mandates, not simply as we desire, yes?
Note too that this FIRST and greatest command sometimes conflicts with ‘loving’ (as we mistakenly perceive love) our neighbour. To underline this, Jesus said we must be prepared to HATE our family and friends for His sake, so the two commands aren’t equal and our mistaken ideas of ‘love they neighbour’ sometimes breaks the GREATEST command to love God above all else.
What I say is that if you TRULY love someone, then above all you want them to be saved, you want heaven for them. Nothing else in terms of making them feel good, or making yourself feel good, even the most wonderful emotional relationship with them, matters in the slightest if in gaining it you’ve damned your own soul and theirs.
So if you truly love someone, above all you don’t want them to sin and you don’t want to lead them into sin. This is the supreme good and the ultimate form of love.
Now if God’s commands, including the command against homosexual sex, still are applicable, as Christ says they surely are, then you are in fact in serious danger of damning your own soul if you disobey them, by engaging in homosexual sex among the other sins, and dragging anyone else who you influence to disobey them into damnation with you.
so what is the spirit in being attracted to, wanting to have a shared committed relationship of sharing life’s joys and difficulties, successes and failures, wanting to be physically and emotionally close, which involves sexual intimacy which of itself is an affirmation of the devotion of the committed relationship, come against the summation of all the law. loving ones neighbor as oneself?
The spirit comes against it because it is a sinful spirit - one which mocks God’s laws regarding sex and marriage, which laws still apply every bit as much as the Ten Commandments do, as St Paul teaches us.
It is not a true spirit of love, nor is it true love either of self or neighbour, because it goes against how God bids us to express our love. And remember not all expressions of love are according to God’s will, not all are of His spirit, adulterous love certainly isn’t.
You can understand, surely, that an adulterous relationship may fulfil all the criteria you have listed, but is nonetheless wrong and NOT of God because it breaks one’s marital vows. One is bound to love one’s wedded spouse and forsake all others, so any adulterous relationship, no matter how wonderful, is NOT confoming to the command to love our neighbour.
So it is with homosexual sex - it fulfils your criteria but nonetheless is NOT of a true spirit of love of self and neighbour, since it goes against how God bids us express that love.
Above all - if one truly loves oneself one desires salvation above all else - one desires it above even an emotional or any other relationship with others. As Christ warned us, one must be prepared to hate and offend all the world rather than do anything which is even potentially offensive to God, which homosexual sex certainly is.
Brother, think about these things. People have NOT changed so much since their creation that marriage and sex serve different functions today than they did in Adam and Eve’s time. And above all God certainly hasn’t changed HIS plans for sex and marriage, nor His laws about them.