Sexual concessions to married couples and homosexuality

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The Church has made NO statement.Various authors and moral theologians have offered their analysis and opinion though but there are no canon laws or documents. I have looked and the most authoritive statement I can find is in the Catechism. It is a misrepresentation to claim the Church has studied this and made any judgement.
Hey, I’m not here to fight! Like I said, I believe your position (that there’s no dogmatic statement) is the right one. Apart from Fr. Jone’s quote, all the others are from Denzinger, which is a collection of theological documents from the Church and is fairly representative of the “ordinary Magisterium”; some of them (like the prohibition on completed heterosexual anal sex) are authoritative, I guess.
 
" Does the fact that Catholic married couples are now permitted to engage in various activities – including activities that were once considered sodomy, like oral stimulation – make it more difficult for us to provide a consistent witness to the sinfulness of homosexual acts?"

First, the Church itself has not put forth any canonical laws on what constitutes acceptable acts in a marriage, other than the man must finish inside of the woman. We have been given the guidance that sex is:
  1. Within sacramental marriage
  2. Must be unitave and open to life and
  3. Not objectifying the other person for self gratification.
Item 3 relies on the consent of the heterosexual couple under item 1 and is none of my business.

Item 2 in regards to homosexual sexual relations is nor possible.

What happens in a sacramental marriage cannot be compared to homosexual acts of lust that are not procreative.
 
Hey, I’m not here to fight! Like I said, I believe your position (that there’s no dogmatic statement) is the right one. Apart from Fr. Jone’s quote, all the others are from Denzinger, which is a collection of theological documents from the Church and is fairly representative of the “ordinary Magisterium”; some of them (like the prohibition on completed heterosexual anal sex) are authoritative, I guess.
representative of the ordinary Magisterium? The Catechism is supposed to reflect the Magisterium ! If the Catechism calls homosexual acts disordered and depraved I think that pretty well reflects the magisterium.The catechism is about as authoritative as you can get.I will stick with that thanks
 
What disturbs me about this whole issue is that many are misrepresenting the Churchs position in regards to what is acceptable in marital relations.They are then twisting this so called blanket acceptance that "as long as the man ejaculates in the vagina anything consensual is OK! It is a fallacy.The Church has NO teaching only moral theologians offer opinions.I don’t think that would be called the "ordinary magisterium at all.
 
I have a question and hope someone with real knowledge (not just their own opinion) can answer.
What if husband and wife are 60. Wife has had a total hysterectomy at 46 and is no longer able to bear children (so the sex act for pro-creation no longer exists). Is it being said that no matter what age you are, whether you can pro-create or not, that anything other than intercourse is a sin-specifically speaking of oral sex.
Please advise. Thank you.
 
" Does the fact that Catholic married couples are now permitted to engage in various activities – including activities that were once considered sodomy, like oral stimulation – make it more difficult for us to provide a consistent witness to the sinfulness of homosexual acts?"

First, the Church itself has not put forth any canonical laws on what constitutes acceptable acts in a marriage, other than the man must finish inside of the woman. We have been given the guidance that sex is:
  1. Within sacramental marriage
  2. Must be unitave and open to life and
  3. Not objectifying the other person for self gratification.
Item 3 relies on the consent of the heterosexual couple under item 1 and is none of my business.

Item 2 in regards to homosexual sexual relations is nor possible.

What happens in a sacramental marriage cannot be compared to homosexual acts of lust that are not procreative.
I think a number 4 is missing.
4. The act cannot be intrinsically disordered.
 
" Does the fact that Catholic married couples are now permitted to engage in various activities – including activities that were once considered sodomy, like oral stimulation – make it more difficult for us to provide a consistent witness to the sinfulness of homosexual acts?"

First, the Church itself has not put forth any canonical laws on what constitutes acceptable acts in a marriage, other than the man must finish inside of the woman. We have been given the guidance that sex is:
  1. Within sacramental marriage
  2. Must be unitave and open to life and
  3. Not objectifying the other person for self gratification.
Item 3 relies on the consent of the heterosexual couple under item 1 and is none of my business.

Item 2 in regards to homosexual sexual relations is nor possible.

What happens in a sacramental marriage cannot be compared to homosexual acts of lust that are not procreative.
👍 Well said and very clearly put.

CJ, “homosexual acts” in the Catechism means just that - sexual acts between people of the same gender, with no specific anatomical reference intended. Admittedly, that doesn’t answer the question completely, but it does provide some context for this discussion.
 
I have a question and hope someone with real knowledge (not just their own opinion) can answer.
What if husband and wife are 60. Wife has had a total hysterectomy at 46 and is no longer able to bear children (so the sex act for pro-creation no longer exists). Is it being said that no matter what age you are, whether you can pro-create or not, that anything other than intercourse is a sin-specifically speaking of oral sex.
Please advise. Thank you.
The lack of fertility does not change whether the act is ordered toward procreation. There is no Church teaching that the marital act is only permitted when one is fertile.

A more thorough treatment of this can be found in the Catechism beginning at article 2331
 
If anyone wishes to understand what conjugal love is PLEASE READ THE CATECHISM.You cannot go wrong.These beautiful spiritual teachings were approved by Bl John Paul 2,soon to be a saint!This holy man had such a deep and profound understanding of theology and morality.

As I stated before there are many offering opinions but the authority is in our Catechism.Too many people neglect this authoritative compendium of our beliefs and teachings.
 
👍 Well said and very clearly put.

CJ, “homosexual acts” in the Catechism means just that - sexual acts between people of the same gender, with no specific anatomical reference intended. Admittedly, that doesn’t answer the question completely, but it does provide some context for this discussion.
I disagree,historically and biblically the ACTs are sodomy. The catechism does not have to be explicit anatomically,It goes on to state that these acts have always been considered depraved. How could introducing fecal bacteria into your spouse not be depraved?Because you are married that makes it morally acceptable?
 
I disagree,historically and biblically the ACTs are sodomy. The catechism does not have to be explicit anatomically,It goes on to state that these acts have always been considered depraved. How could introducing fecal bacteria into your spouse not be depraved?Because you are married that makes it morally acceptable?
I’m not defending the act (God forbid!); I’m just providing food for thought. None of it (and especially not the private opinions of theologians, even if they have the Imprimatur) is authoritative.
 
I’m not defending the act (God forbid!); I’m just providing food for thought. None of it (and especially not the private opinions of theologians, even if they have the Imprimatur) is authoritative.
Exactly,because an imprimatur can be withdrawn.It has been done before by the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith,the highest moral and theological teaching body of the Church.
 
Didn’t St. Alphonsus Maria de’ Liguori condemn it in Theologia Moralis?
 
The lack of fertility does not change whether the act is ordered toward procreation. There is no Church teaching that the marital act is only permitted when one is fertile.

A more thorough treatment of this can be found in the Catechism beginning at article 2331
I thank you for answering. I have read it, and I may be dense, but it still doesn’t specify whether “oral sex” between a husband and wife is a sin. Is there a definitive answer?
 
I have other things to say, but I should say this right away…
“Pederasty is not prohibited by natural law. Therefore, if God had not forbidden it, it would often be good and sometimes obligatory under pain of mortal sin”
  • Innocent XI, Errors of a Doctrine of Moral Laxity, 1679 (!!!)
I looked into this, since it was so shocking, and my results:
  1. I did not find any such quotation, referring to pederasty. I did find one referring to voluptuousness and masturbation. Could you cite your source?
  2. My sources quite explicitly said that the relevant proposition was a proposition of certain Jesuits which Innocent XI condemned. So Innocent didn’t believe this, at all.
And rightly so. :o
 
I thank you for answering. I have read it, and I may be dense, but it still doesn’t specify whether “oral sex” between a husband and wife is a sin. Is there a definitive answer?
Depends on what you mean by “oral sex”. My opinion is that most things people label as oral sex would be properly labeled sodomy or mutual masturbation. In which case, these are clearly defined as immoral by Church teaching.
 
Unfortunately and curiously sodomy is not even listed in the Catechism of the Catholic Church.

You would think, so great a sin it is, that it would be listed. :confused:
 
I’m going to ask my question in broad terms, and then fill in some of the details. The question is this: Does the fact that Catholic married couples are now permitted to engage in various activities – including activities that were once considered sodomy, like oral stimulation – make it more difficult for us to provide a consistent witness to the sinfulness of homosexual acts?

I bring this up because of a comment by a poster in another thread, who said something that (frankly) shocked me: he said that certain theologians were considering whether anal sex “without consummation” could be licit among married couples, if it had a canonical conclusion. Now throughout history this act of anal sex has been resoundingly and repeatedly condemned by the Church – and now we are supposed to believe that the Church’s objection applies only to the depositing of seed in the anus, and not to the action of anal penetration? :confused:

Now I don’t think those theologians are mainstream, but it got me thinking. When we tell homosexuals that “homosexual activity” is wrong, I always thought we were saying that a particular activity was wrong – an activity that would be wrong for straight people too. I have heard a distinction made between fornicating couples and sexually active homosexual couples, and this distinction too made sense to me, so long as the fornicating couple was only engaging in intercourse, since intercourse is naturally fecund.

But once we say that married couples may have oral sex as foreplay, and so on, it becomes very hard to understand how there could be something intrinsically wrong with certain acts, as opposed to the gender of the people who commit those acts – and it was always Church teaching that sodomy was a specific sexual act that was not concerned with the gender of its participants.

But now I feel like Church teaching has become fuzzy, since oral sex is permitted within certain limits. And the caveat that it not be done to the point of orgasm is not a real distinction, because (among homosexuals) both oral and anal sex are often done without any orgasm being involved. It’s obvious, historically, that one commit sodomy without ejaculating.

How can we explain why gay sex is wrong in this landscape? Have theologians been wrong to tolerate such changes in Catholic moral teaching? What should we do now?
 
The underlying false premise from the idea of immoral sexual acts is the false idea of “consent”.

The idea of “consent” necessarily implies ownership.

The false idea is that we “own” our bodies and therefore have the right to “consent” to have things done to us or for us no matter how objectively immoral they are.

We don’t own our bodies. We did not create ourselves, our bodies, like our souls, and our time, and everything else we have is a pure gift from God.

Therefore we cannot “consent” to immorality, nor can mutual “consent” justify immoral sexual acts.
 
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