Shaking Hands

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wifeandmomoftwo said:
I noticed 1/2 way through that i was typing in caps…not yelling just to lazy to unlock the caps.😃
So dont take it personally linnyo.

So shaking hands is an emotion now???
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Perhaps not an emotion, rather a show of warmth or a sign that you care, love or feel something.
Solitude in worship does not show warmth or caring. Reaching out to shake a hand could be the closest some people get to warmth and caring. Think of how it must be to be the lonliest person in the church. You are brave enough to stretch your hand towards somebody and you get snubbed. Ouch! I am not a huggy cuddly person - not in the slightest but I love tha feeling that I am united in some way with the people around me. A handshake is a simple sign of unity and peace but it is not OTT. It does not put anybody at risk.
I am presuming that handshaking is not an issue in Scotland as I have never known anybody to not participate. In fact, many participate so fully that they shake hands with up to 10 people. Maybe Scots people are friendlier than other nationalities. That would be a great honour to be amongst the friendliest of people.
 
BeeSweet said:
It is pity, whether I feel that way or not. Pity is not as negative a word as it’s made out to be. I am pitied because I have to wait for people to first share the sign of peace with the people they genuinely care for and know well, then they turn to those whom they don’t know like me standing alone. Tell me water, when you attend mass with someone you know, do you share with them first, or the stranger who is standing alone near you? It’s a matter of being second best in a way.

Honestly, it feels like junior high school gym class when they paired up girls and boys who didn’t know each other and taught us how to two step around the gym floor. The dancing and the music are nice, but you totally miss the point when it’s forced.
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ahh, I had always thought the word was negative. Thanks for explaining. (English is my second lanuage).

You are right. When I go to mass with my girlfriend, I would give peace to her first then others. Your thought makes sense to me because sometimes it came across my mind that I should give peace to others first then family. But then, because she is next to me, I do that with her first. Once in awhile, I and my g/f hand shake others first. But the thought of feeling pity never came to mind.

However, does the meaning of sharing peace degraded if I share with other people after I share with my family members? I doubt it. Perhaps, it is the way of our thinking that “first is the best, and last is good”.

Should we think this way?
 
Linnyo said:
Perhaps not an emotion, rather a show of warmth or a sign that you care, love or feel something.
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Ah I see…so to care, love or feel something you need to be physical.

Saying an honest “PBWY” is not good enough, not loving enough etc. You need to get physical.:eek:
Solitude in worship does not show warmth or caring.
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Saying the words and not getting physical is not solitude.:confused:
Maybe Scots people are friendlier than other nationalities. That would be a great honour to be amongst the friendliest of people.
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I have a feeling that has more to do with hitting the bottle than anything else:D (just kidding)
 
wifeandmomoftwo said:
Ah I see…so to care, love or feel something you need to be physical.

Saying an honest “PBWY” is not good enough, not loving enough etc. You need to get physical.:eek:

Saying the words and not getting physical is not solitude.:confused:

I have a feeling that has more to do with hitting the bottle than anything else:D (just kidding)
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lol - i should hope you are kidding. I am tee-total! We are known as a frindly nation. Physical is not always a bad thing. I am sad that some people think it is. Imagine the child who has never had a hug. I know about that - I teach them. A physical touch can be a great thing in the right place. At Mass when everyone is safe is a good place. In the toilets at the pub is a bad place. It just takes a little common sense.
 
wifeandmomoftwo said:
Ah I see…so to care, love or feel something you need to be physical.

Saying an honest “PBWY” is not good enough, not loving enough etc. You need to get physical.:eek:
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You don’t have to.
I looked at the pole, and it said that 59% voted for “My Goodness, Get Rid of It!!!”

Are you in this 59%? Does it need to be get rid of?
 
Linnyo said:
lol - i should hope you are kidding. I am tee-total! We are known as a frindly nation.
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Take your word for it:D
Physical is not always a bad thing. I am sad that some people think it is.
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Your right it is not a bad thing…but Mass, IMHO is not the place to get physical with your neighbor;)
 
water said:
You don’t have to.
I looked at the pole, and it said that 59% voted for “My Goodness, Get Rid of It!!!”

Are you in this 59%? Does it need to be get rid of?
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I would be interested to see if there is a difference in the percentages in different cultures. I suspect there would be huge differences between USA and Scotland
 
water said:
I am confused by your celebrating icon… 😃
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was loking for jumping for joy…but no icon like that:( so the celebrating one was the next nearest one…celebrating not having to shake hands!
If one doesn’t get bother by something, why he wants to get rid of it badly.
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Why? Becuase I travel and many people do this in Church.
 
Linnyo said:
I would be interested to see if there is a difference in the percentages in different cultures. I suspect there would be huge differences between USA and Scotland
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Just keep them outta the pubs before they vote Linnyo:D

Actually it has been my experince that HS is done in the less traditional churches.
 
wifeandmomoftwo said:
was loking for jumping for joy…but no icon like that:( so the celebrating one was the next nearest one…celebrating not having to shake hands!

Why? Becuase I travel and many people do this in Church.
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So, does it bother then?
 
Linnyo said:
I would be interested to see if there is a difference in the percentages in different cultures. I suspect there would be huge differences between USA and Scotland
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wifeandmomoftwo said:
was loking for jumping for joy…but no icon like that:( so the celebrating one was the next nearest one…celebrating not having to shake hands!

Why? Becuase I travel and many people do this in Church.
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Back in my country, we bound to each others. No handshake. They might be doing it now - i don’t know.
 
Linnyo said:
The Scots are not generally known as a nation of drinkers. The Irish are though and many Scots have an Irish background. I don’t much like the rep we are getting!:rolleyes:
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Linnyo…

I was joking. No need to get offensive
 
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