Should I marry a non-catholic or be single forever?

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TC3033 said:
It could be parish by parish, but his promise is also not a required promise. We are made known of the Catholics written promise “to do the best they can” to raise the Children Catholic.
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That is correct.

This is universal, not parish to parish. Non Catholic party acknowledges the Catholic party’s promise as you said.
 
That may be overly scrupulous. I was scrupulous about that kind of thing too, and it only delayed my vocation, which gets harder to find over 30. Looking back I’d rather not have created these barriers to meeting women in the church. But, it’s important that you keep your peace, as long as you don’t sacrifice your joy.
 
Have you thought about running this notion past your priest?
I wonder if he might find it tending towards scrupulosity. I would hate to see you miss out on a wonderful spouse because you missed the opportunity to meet him. Perhaps a spiritual director who is more familiar with you and your community might be able to give you some guidance, more tailored to you as an individual and to your situation.
 
maybe I should do that. I don’t get a lot of face time with our priests because they are all very busy but after the virus is over maybe I should make an appointment to discuss.
 
We are over 400 posts and running in circles.

Original question: should I marry a non Catholic or stay single forever?

General answers: both (single status or married with a non-Catholic) are possibilities not condemned by the Church.

OP’s answer: I am not called to single or consecrated life, I want to marry a very devout Catholic man and homeschool a bunch of kids

Following answers:
Try to know more Catholic men

Suggestions>> OP’s reply

Online dating>> no thanks
Catholic people outside OP’s town>>no thanks
People in OP’s immediate Catholic circle>>no thanks
People in Catholic Conferences>>no thanks
People not fitting 100% of OP’s requirements for a future husband>> no thanks
Get to know people in a more casual setting without grilling them at the first date>> no thanks

Oh boy, I think we are stuck.
 
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AdamP88 said:
For me the single most important thing was that they were Catholic.
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This is prudent.

Finding a person who’s on the same page as you regarding a worldview, values and morals on how to live life will go a long way when it comes to building a solid marriage.
 
  1. I’m going to be 30 in 16 months. I know I’m not old, but I’m not exactly young either. And I’ve done everything I want to do before I get married, so there’s no reason for me to delay at this point, other than not knowing where the marriage-material men are. @Jzeajules if you read the prior posts you will find that
  • I don’t believe I am called to consecrated life
    -I feel called to marriage with someone who loves the Church as much as I do
    -I feel I have exhausted all my options for meeting someone
I guess I should have titled this post “Is it morally questionable to stay single forever if God does not put a marriage-material person in my life and if I feel I’ve exhausted all my options.” Rather than “Marry a non Catholic or stay single forever,” as I have deemed the former is out of the question for me.

However, I feel like I have started some great conversations on this post. I’m grateful for discussions! I have indeed learned a lot.
 
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Jzeajules said:
I’m the same age and I don’t worry about it much
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The OP said above that she isn’t particularly worried about it. The discussion is more about whether one should try to marry within the faith.

Different people worry about it to varying degrees. When I was in my 20’s I really wanted to meet someone and get married before I was thirty. Not everyone is like that though.
 
DivineMercy01 said:
Any Catholic conferences. I’ve stated above that I always think about going to one and immediately my mind goes to “I could meet someone” and then I don’t go because I don’t think my intentions are pure.
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Dancing was obiously in the past for yougs people a place to met someone, more tha simply dance.
If you like what is propose, what is the problem to go in the hope you would met someone? The worst that can happened is to be disapointed.

I think it may time to active your networks. To make clear to your relatives, friends, priest etc that you search a spouse and are open to met someone they know who is serious about this.

If AdamP88 succed with creating is matrimonial agency and you are open to met people far away, even border, why not enrolled in the programm? if you are ready to support this, why not let it to support yourself?
 
One point to add and it’s important.

there is more women in the Church than men. For youngs people i am sure the disportortion is great. So mathematically, more catholic faithfull women would have to either be single for a long time or choose to marry or live with someone that is not a practicing Catholic.
 
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Anicette said:
If AdamP88 succed with creating is matrimonial agency and you are open to met people far away, even border, why not enrolled in the programm? if you are ready to support this, why not let it to support yourself?
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I was on to my Bishop and he encouraged me and asked me to get in touch with a Deacon who he thinks could help. 👍
 
Great news @AdamP88! I am happy for you that you find support locally!

Do have find some exemples of questionnaires? (I find that not transparent that some matching online ask for inscription before asking any questions…)

Do you have any idea of the possible legal status?
 
Anicette said:
Do have find some exemples of questionnaires?
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I’m working on an application form type questionnaire and I think this will be free to begin with as we’ll need to get people on board.
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Do you have any idea of the possible legal status?
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Not sure what you mean but I’m going to be running this as a “ministry” rather than a profit-making enterprise so the only thing I might do is register as a charity. But for now, I’m just going to see if it can get going.
 
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