I think this is by far the exception rather than the rule. And I only agree that the negative effect, if is occurs at all, is only to those too young to have applied mature reason to the whole process. If mature catholics are adversely affected by such discussions, maybe there is something lacking on both sides.
Pat, in all charity, I couldn’t disagree more. There is a difference between “discussion” and dissent and disobedience. I’m in RCIA and one of the inquirers asked me about whether it was ok to not follow a teaching of the Church is his conscience conflicted with the Church with NO understanding of what the Church teaches about formation of conscience. Learned it from reading National Catholic Reporter which is a dissenting publication. He’s confused and has doubts on who to believe.
I agree with you but your examples are rare and unique to the extreme. I wouldn’t do what you are describing even if I were such a person of authority.
You might not. But many do. I’d love to replay the conversation I had with my (adult) daughter as she was in formation to become Catholic after she read about Francis Kissling from Catholics For Choice.
That’s what I’m searching for…
Nope, it shouldn’t affect you at all - it’s between me and God. And I will never tell you that you shouldn’t be obedient.
Nothing regarding disobedience and dissent from what the Church teaches as truth is between just you and God. You are a member of the Body of Christ. And if any of us, as members of the Body disobey in even the most private way, it effects all of us. First, in my most private sin I harm myself. Second, I spiritually harm you and everyone else by not being one with you and the Church (Christ’s body). My pastor likened it to having gangrene in your toe. It poisons all of us spiritually, and prevents us from moving forward to what we’re called to.
No, because if they are seeking the truth then we are in the same situation. How can anyone say it is good to be absolutely obedient to something when you’ve never heard it questioned and never had to defend it? Such controversy should make you stronger. But if it makes you start doubting, then maybe what you believed in wasn’t so “right” in the first place.
There is nothing wrong with questioning, the Church does not ask us to check our brains at the door. Dissent and Disobedience is something else. And you’ve got to be kidding about the doubting comment you made. Satan is the father of lies and creates doubt in our minds to lead us to sin. That is precisely when we turn to the teaching of the Church, and regardless of what we feel, we obey so that we can be transformed as Christ calls us to be. If one chooses to perpetuate doubt on a clear teaching of the Church by word or example, then one is damaging the Body of Christ whether they know it or not.
I agree it is not my business to lead children in any direction other than that determined by their parents.
Parents aren’t in total control. The media, groups (particularly ones who call themselves Catholic) who openly oppose Church teaching all impact children regardless of the efforts of the parents.
Thanks