How dare you question if this marriage is valid or even throw that into the mix.
Trust me, brother, run and don’t look back.
What?
i apologize… but please understand that i do not know the situation… which comes to teh point of who does… God… People here are in varying degreess of depth in relationshiop to Him… but that doesn’t mean they have answers for you… All i know is that the Church teaches certain things about what makes up a valid marriage… Maybe yours is valid & maybe not… But again, it doesn’t sound like you are getting along, doesn’t sound like there is much respect, for sure… so why live with that kind of thing? To me, life is hard enoguh as it is… Being separated does not mean not speaking to each other…
if all that is true… and i assume it is… I would definitely leave… To abuse yourself (allow someone to abuse you) is about the same as abusing someone else… if not worse… after all, you can’t save anyone but yourself… and according to the bible, you can barely do that…
Jesus said that the road to eternal life is narrow and there are few who find it. He also said that many people will not be “strong enough” to enter the gates of Heaven…Jesus said to do whatever you have to in order to enter heaven… leave everything else behind… (st. mark 10:17)…
Yes, and I may plan on doing that more. I’m also going to a Spiritual counselor, but haven’t talked much about my marriage yet (we’ve only met twice).
the only thing that makes me wonder is… Anyone who would go to Church just so she could ridicule it and be disrespctful toward her husbnad…
)Yes, you really don’t know the whole story. I think it’s obvious to both of them that there is a problem - to what extent we’ll never know unless we’re an earwig in their ears.the only thing that makes me wonder is… Anyone who would go to Church just so she could ridicule it and be disrespctful toward her husbnad…
but again, i don’t know the whole story…
I guess if she is interested in Jesus… and tries to center her life around him… that is what… and the only thing, that would make her a 'keeper"…
If she is just trying to find ways to down her husband and his Chruch… that’s… well… at least a sign that something needs to change somehow…
Not being God… i am not sure waht to say…
(and yet… Since when did that stop me?
I can speak for that since what attracted me was her moral upbringing. Both her parents are devout Fundamentalist (Bible Protestants). Which brought me sort of closer to the Protestant faith, I agreed with most of it: Papal fallability, Hirearchical Corruption, not based on Scriptures (partly), the seemly apparent worship of Mary, etc. I even partially attended her church, and once held that it didn’t matter what church we attended, be it Lutheran, Bible Church, etc., as long as the Pastor gave good sermons. Until one day I decided to read in the Gospels and truly test my Catholic faith against it (as she constantly challenged what I believed) and ever since then, there is no doubt in my mind this is the One True Church, the Apostolic Church.
I don’t mean to sound insensitive to both of your religious ideals; however, marriage is a covenant before God – our Lord will not care what denomination you choose to go and worship Him in; but He will care if you and your wife get a divorce – and use Him as a reason. This is not a valid reason for divorce. You’re both Christians & both accept the fundamental doctrines of the Christian faith (belief in Christ as our Savior). You both knowingly entered into this marriage knowing your denominational differences. Thus you have a duty to reconcile these differences; and there may have to be compromise.
Was there a fly in your breakfast? You seem to be a bit on edge.
Well, you don’t usually keep asking questions about a religion if you don’t care about what the truth really is. The reason I suggested they study the faith together (with someone else or in a class) is that I get the feeling that M0nkey is feeling he is under attack and may have trouble answering her questions. So if someone else was giving her the answers that would take the pressure off him.the only thing that makes me wonder is… Anyone who would go to Church just so she could ridicule it and be disrespctful toward her husbnad…
but again, i don’t know the whole story…
I guess if she is interested in Jesus… and tries to center her life around him… that is what… and the only thing, that would make her a 'keeper"…
If she is just trying to find ways to down her husband and his Chruch… that’s… well… at least a sign that something needs to change somehow…
Not being God… i am not sure waht to say…
(and yet… Since when did that stop me?
You are correct in the sense that she’s very close to her parents, being ridiculed by her parents, as they are very vociferous about their beliefs will definetly have her running back. In fact, that’s another one of our problems since I’m constantly having to deal with her parents, her mom in particular.
I’m just curious – do you think the OP presents a valid reason for divorce (under God’s law) if she will not become Catholic?thiss is not good advice… You are not Catholic so you have no buisness telling him such things… like don’t go to a Catholic counselor. What - is he suposed to go to a counselor who believes somethign entirely differnt??
A non-catholic like yourself does not understand this man’s devotion to his faith…
I do… because i believe & feel the same way… about its importance in one’s life…
on the lighter side…
I wish people would become Cahtolic before they go thinking they understand Catholicism…
Very presumptive statement. And no I was not, no way, no how, in any way, shape or form a die hard Catholic (if I was, then I wouldn’t have jumped in marriage). My dad was actually an atheist for the longest time (I don’t know what he is now) and that kinda rubbed off on me. I’ve believed in God since I was 19, but never really had any convictions until recently.
Not real sure where they stand in their Catholicity. Last I heard her dad thinks that you pray for our dead, which is a very Catholic teaching. But other than that, I’m not sure.