I totally agree, James!!!
Here is something on the subject:
*The Church and Forgiveness
Question Hello Sister Marie:I do not expect you to publish this or even answer it, to do so is your choice. It is a comment about the “ask the sister” function.I fully agree with you that the Catholic Church is human, and a church that has made mistakes, however, I take great exception when you indicate that the church “has asked forgiveness for those mistakes” some mistakes yes they have, but a great many they have not.I am not perfect, far from it. I have suffered some of those “mistakes” the church have made, but instead of help, I was told to leave. What forgiving church does that?You ask us to pray, what happens to those of us that can no longer do?They say that God never turned his back on his people, why does his church?**Answer Hi,It is with a heavy heart that I come and answer your question. Heavy because, like you, there are many who still feel hurt and not accepted in the Church. Yet, I do stand behind the fact that the Church in the Great Jubilee Year of 2000 asked forgiveness for all mistakes it had done, past and present. I quote the document of John Paul II:As the Successor of Peter, I (John Paul II) ask that in this year of mercy the Church, strong in the holiness which she receives from her Lord, should kneel before God and implore forgiveness for the past and present sins of her sons and daughters. All have sinned and none can claim righteousness before God (cf. 1 Kgs 8:46). Let it be said once more without fear: “We have sinned” (Jer 3:25), but let us keep alive the certainty that “where sin increased, grace abounded even more” (Rom 5:20). (no. 11 from “Incarnationis Mysterium – Bull of Indiction of the Great Jubilee of the Year 2000”). My heart is also heavy, because all the eggs are put in the same basket. By this I mean, that unfortunately, because of one who is to represent the church makes a bad reaction or mistake the Church ends up taking the blame.I apologize for the sense of loss and hurt that you were put through, for you are right again, we are to be a forgiving Church, a welcoming Church, a compassionate Church, etc. But, we have a bad habit of failing to be Christ like, at the most sensitive times. That is why, I enjoy the “penitential right” at the beginning of the Eucharist, for it permits me to ask forgiveness for sins I have done. “I confess to almighty God, and to you, my brothers and sisters, that I have sinned through my own fault, in my thoughts and in my words, in what I have done, and in what I have failed to do; and I ask blessed Mary, ever virgin, all the angels and saints, and you, my brothers and sisters, to pray for me to the Lord, our God.” One of my students shared with me the other day. “The fruits that we bear are not always good, that’s why we are never “worthy to receive Jesus in the Eucharist, yet Jesus only has to say a word and we will be healed.”As for not being able to pray, that’s normal, for when we are hurt, the anger, the pain, the suffering takes over our heart. Yet, by the grace of God, our anger, our pain and our suffering become a very powerful prayer. Believe me; God hears the cry of the poor and the suffering, more than any other prayer. That is probably why God is his wisdom, sent us the Holy Spirit, whom as St. Paul tells us, prays for us. “…because (we) are children, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!”” [Gal 4:6] As for your last question, I truly cannot answer it, for that is one that I carry myself in my heart. The only thing that I can say, is that as children of God, we only have to believe in God as a loving Father, full of compassion and forgiveness; in Jesus Christ, who because of the love that he had in his heart, gave his life for the forgiveness of our sins and in the Holy Spirit, who continues to guide us to the love of God.I will pray with and for you, asking God to forgive those who have caused you pain, using the words of Jesus on the cross: "Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing."I will also pray that God’s healing love fill your heart with peace, so that you may also feel and believe that God hears yours prayers, even those in the form of pain and sadness.May God Bless you and keep you in his loving arms. +Sr. Marie ***
The sister who answers the questions does not even ask the person what her complaint is against the Church. She totally assumes that the person was wronged. Sometimes, unfortunately, the Church has no choice but to refuse communion to a person. If someone insists on continuing in a life of sin, it is his or her choice to separate from the Church.
I believe this sister is not giving good advice and is wronging the Church.
Peace of Christ to all,
Shiphrae