I’m going to stick my womanly foot into it and say, “Inadequate parenting resulting in young adults unprepared for real life.”
I work in a hospital lab. The younger women who work with me get up at 4 a.m. to get themselves and their babies and toddlers ready for “school”. (They never call it “daycare” anymore.)
They drop their babies/toddlers off at “school” by 6:30 a.m., and report to work by 7:00 a.m. Since we are short staffed, they often do not leave work until 4:00 p.m.
Their babies/toddlers have spent 9.5 hours out of 24 in an institutional setting along with dozens of other babies and toddlers before they are finally picked up by their mother, who hands them a computerized game or tablet for the ride home, and allows them to keep playing that game while she prepares a dinner (usually something that she knows the children will eat, like pizza or chicken nuggets or peanut butter sandwiches.
The children often keep their games during their “dinner” so that mom and dad can eat in peace. Then mom and sometime dad clean up, and the babies/toddlers FINALLY get to play without a computer. But by now, it’s nearly 6:30 or 7:00 p.m. and they need to start winding down so that they will be asleep by 8:00 p.m. And mom’s exhausted and falls asleep in front of her phone or the television by 9:00, knowing that at least once during the night, one of her little ones will cry and need mom’s comforting arms and possibly mom and dad’s bed.
I don’t see how any child grows up under these conditions. I am so privileged that my husband was on board with me staying home with our daughters, spending hours each day reading to them, teaching them to read, playing with them, singing to and with them, taking them on field trips, eating with them, letting them help me prepare their meals and clean up afterwards, teaching them about God and praying with them, and just lying in the sunshine with them being together. Both of my daughters were working at paying jobs by the time they were 14, and both of them have good jobs today and totally reject the idea of socialism.
I think a lot more parents could do this if they thought hard about it and made some tough decisions (e.g., NOT following Dave Ramsey’s unrealistic “no debt” plans while they have young children!).