Speakers tell pope, synod that parishes should welcome same-sex couples

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I’m fine with the bishops hearing this couple’s message. They’re religious leaders for real people with real problems like the one given in this example. They should know what some in the flock are experiencing and they should be concerned with helping the faithful to navigate these situations.
 
We have to try and have faith in the Holy Spirits involvment in this process. When Jesus constantly welcomed prostitutes and tax collectors and other sinners to eat with Him, I’m sure there were many of the same fears among the congregations that are happening now. I think this synod is an important one for Priests in taking back a greater leadership role in their parishes to take some of the weight off the parishoners to protect the integrity of the law that leads us to judge and discriminate.

I think that ultimately there has to be a return to the spiritual leadership of the parish Priest in opening up the doors of the Church to modern day sinners. He has to serve by leading. What makes me hopeful of the propects of this is my experience of all the African Priests that we now have in Australia. They engender a trust in the Priests that had diminished and that’s what we need. Jesus welcomed prostitutes, tax collectors and sinners to eat with Him and we have to feel that we too can break bread with those who’ve veered off path, confident that the Holy Spirit can reach them within the bosom of the Church.
Notice that when Christ ate with tax collectors and showed mercy to prostitutes he got to work on them. The unnamed tax collector gave half his possessions to the poor and repaid anyone he had defrauded fourfold. The other tax collector - Thomas - gave up his profession altogether. The prostitute was told to sin no more. The sinful woman who approached Christ was already sobbing out her repentance.

Is there any hint this couple are suggesting to the Church that parishes should welcome homosexual/lesbian couples and likewise go to work on them, urging them to repent and give up their lifestyle? Somehow I don’t think so.
 
Just remembered it was Zachaeus who gave half his possessions to the poor. My own impression is that the sinners who approached Christ or received him by and large were not happy with their lives and sensed that Christ could help them do something about it. Zachaeus climbed that tree for a reason.
 
Personally, I think that if we “welcomed” same-sex couples, we would be indirectly condoning their same sex relationship and since same sex unchastity is gravely sinful, we should not be condoning whether directly or indirectly a same sex relationship which, in all likelihood, contains same sex unchastity.
 
Personally, I think that if we “welcomed” same-sex couples, we would be indirectly condoning their same sex relationship and since same sex unchastity is gravely sinful, we should not be condoning whether directly or indirectly a same sex relationship which, in all likelihood, contains same sex unchastity.
Very Good! This is the whole issue. How can I welcome a sax sex couple, or a divorced and remarried (without annulment) couple, without addressing the impediment to full communion with the Church?

How do you make these couples feel “welcomed” without feeling marginalized, and at the same time not create scandal?
 
repentance, renewal, interior conversion – being bathed in the waters of the Gospel.
Be very careful here, lest you offend the efforts directed toward love, tolerance and unity!

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Very Good! This is the whole issue. How can I welcome a sax sex couple, or a divorced and remarried (without annulment) couple, without addressing the impediment to full communion with the Church?

How do you make these couples feel “welcomed” without feeling marginalized, and at the same time not create scandal?
But don’t you think that this measure is specifically addressing those couples who already come to Mass faithfully for years but not receive Communion? I do. I don’t think this is about us sinless folks forming guards of honour at the Church entrance for people who couldn’t care less about the Church teaching and the Sunday Mass obligation. I’m imagining the ‘welcoming’ or ‘accepting’ that is spoken of, specifically relates to those couples faithfully practicing sans comunion and how things can be made right with the Church in some way for their specific situations.
 
But don’t you think that this measure is specifically addressing those couples who already come to Mass faithfully for years but not receive Communion? I do. I don’t think this is about us sinless folks forming guards of honour at the Church entrance for people who couldn’t care less about the Church teaching and the Sunday Mass obligation. I’m imagining the ‘welcoming’ or ‘accepting’ that is spoken of, specifically relates to those couples faithfully practicing sans communion and how things can be made right with the Church in some way for their specific situations.
I think I agree. But, what is not welcoming for that couple in the irregular marriage? The fact that the Church considers they are in a state of mortal sin due to adultery (if they are having relations)? How does the Church make them feel more welcome?

Remember, it’s not the prohibition against Communion, per se. It’s the underlying determination that it is adultery to divorce and remarry without an annulment.

The reason this is such a huge, deep, problem is that some people have gotten themselves into situations where there is no good resolution.
 
I think I agree. But, what is not welcoming for that couple in the irregular marriage? The fact that the Church considers they are in a state of mortal sin due to adultery (if they are having relations)? How does the Church make them feel more welcome?

Remember, it’s not the prohibition against Communion, per se. It’s the underlying determination that it is adultery to divorce and remarry without an annulment.

The reason this is such a huge, deep, problem is that some people have gotten themselves into situations where there is no good resolution.
I think this sort of sums it all up here. People need to know that the Church and God loves them but loves them enough to change and not stay in the same place(sin). The problem I see is that people have dulled their conscience and don’t even see what they are doing as sinful. I hear many excuses from well meaning Catholics all the time and most end up saying that they think God will understand them and everyone else is doing it. I think the church is welcoming enough and people need to accept the invitation.
 
Pope Benedict gave this insight into the type of scenario that might not be without some sort of resolution here…

“Those who were married in the Church for the sake of tradition but were not truly believers, and who later find themselves in a new and invalid marriage and subsequently convert, discover faith and feel excluded from the sacrament, are in a particularly painful situation. This really is a cause of great suffering and when I was prefect of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, I invited various bishops’ conferences and experts to study this problem: a sacrament celebrated without faith. Whether, in fact, a moment of invalidity could be discovered here because the sacrament was found to be lacking a fundamental dimension, I do not dare to say. I personally thought so, but from the discussions we had I realized that it is a highly complex problem and ought to be studied further. But given these people’s painful plight, it must be studied further.”

So the thought is perhaps a “moment of invalidity could be discovered” within the original sacrament.
 
I can’t imagine being barred from Holy Communion for the rest of my life because of early mistakes I made. I’ve always tried to do the right thing as a life long Catholic, but I was blessed to have been born into a deeply religious environment and thoroughly catechised from birth. Lucky me. But I can’t help feeling a similar sorrow to the holy Fathers at the plight of those whose inner conversion came at a time after they understood fully what’s what. It’s at least worth having a good look at through a synod to see what the Holy Spirit might come up with!
 
Pope Benedict gave this insight into the type of scenario that might not be without some sort of resolution here…

“Those who were married in the Church for the sake of tradition but were not truly believers, and who later find themselves in a new and invalid marriage and subsequently convert, discover faith and feel excluded from the sacrament, are in a particularly painful situation. This really is a cause of great suffering and when I was prefect of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, I invited various bishops’ conferences and experts to study this problem: a sacrament celebrated without faith. Whether, in fact, a moment of invalidity could be discovered here because the sacrament was found to be lacking a fundamental dimension, I do not dare to say. I personally thought so, but from the discussions we had I realized that it is a highly complex problem and ought to be studied further. But given these people’s painful plight, it must be studied further.”

So the thought is perhaps a “moment of invalidity could be discovered” within the original sacrament.
Okay, thank you. Good quote. If marriages can be invalid (which we know is true), is this a change or just a call to be more sleuthy (the art of being a sleuth:rolleyes:) to find impediments to validity? If it were simple, the bishops’ conferences would have agreed.

Very complex problem. Also, there is the dimension of how the Church appears to the world. Expanding the incidence of “Catholic divorce” can’t be a good thing, can it?
 
I love all this talk about being welcoming, like these thousands of alienated people are beating down the doors of cold-hearted, conservative run Catholic Churches. Church attendance has been in decline SINCE the SIXTIES. Solid 50 years of “opening” up the Church. The conservatives have barely made a dent in that. The trend continues; the results will be the same.
Everything in this world is cyclical, even time. Attendance is up, it’s down It’s to hard, it’s to easy, we are a hard headed people. What is our faith if it changes with the new thought of every generation. If I didn’t believe the faith of our fathers I would not be Catholic. If the theology changes are we not saying, “they got it wrong”. This is nothing new , I’ll have God on my terms, not his, is not new or compassion. The teachings of Jesus Christ have stood the test of time, and will continue to do so.
 
Personally, I think that if we “welcomed” same-sex couples, we would be indirectly condoning their same sex relationship and since same sex unchastity is gravely sinful, we should not be condoning whether directly or indirectly a same sex relationship which, in all likelihood, contains same sex unchastity.
When the SACRIMENT of Marriage is no longer of man and woman, the Church will be lost. The door to all kinds of perversion are then opened. This is a sin of LUST. I like my devil out in the open for all to see, he is most effective when he works in the quiet.
 
Everything in this world is cyclical, even time. Attendance is up, it’s down It’s to hard, it’s to easy, we are a hard headed people. What is our faith if it changes with the new thought of every generation. If I didn’t believe the faith of our fathers I would not be Catholic.** If the theology changes are we not saying, “they got it wrong”. **This is nothing new , I’ll have God on my terms, not his, is not new or compassion. The teachings of Jesus Christ have stood the test of time, and will continue to do so.
Not necessarily. As an analogy, Einstein didn’t disprove Newton, he only expanded the theory to include uncommon situations where an observer is moving near light speed. Newton is still valid when velocities are small compared to the speed of light. It’s about develpment, not change. I firmly believe we need to look at the margins and find a way to bring them into full communion. If it involves a change to cannon law I’m okay with it. It’s not up to me and will probalby never happen but I can hope. As Thomas Merton put it, Christianity teaches us to hope in a hopeless situation.
 
At every parish I’ve been in, I’ve never noticed anyone at the door checking to see if anyone entering might be a homosexual couple. They don’t even check to see if some couple might be shacking up, or if there are fornicators, masturbators or adulterers entering. As far as I can see, it is entirely welcoming.
Exactly–and not just entering a church, the same can be said with regards to who is administered Holy Communion. The “rules” are in the missalette and the catechism, but no one is verifying who is following them and who is not and barring people who shouldn’t receive.

It makes these discussions seem purely ideological, since these issues don’t exist in real life.
 
I can’t imagine being barred from Holy Communion for the rest of my life because of early mistakes I made.
Keep in mind you’d only be barred from Communion if you were in a perpetual state of sin. Once the unlawful relationship ends, the person is free to go to Communion (after Confession). Most people won’t give up their unlawful relationships and that is the issue.
 
Galatians 1:8
But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach a gospel to you besides that which we have preached to you, let him be anathema
I sincerely ask, when does this verse begin to take effect in this Synod? St Paul is clear in his instruction. Although Doctrine is not being changed, Tradition possibly is. As Catholics, we hold Tradition and Doctrine as equally important, they are both part of the Gospel. Is St. Paul instructing not to follow any changes?
 
I love all this talk about being welcoming, like these thousands of alienated people are beating down the doors of cold-hearted, conservative run Catholic Churches. Church attendance has been in decline SINCE the SIXTIES. Solid 50 years of “opening” up the Church. The conservatives have barely made a dent in that. The trend continues; the results will be the same.
I disagree there. Most Church traditions have been abandoned for one thing. And where once marriage separation was taboo, divorce is now widely accepted. Cohabitation and birth control are prevalent. There’s very little mentioned on sin and Hell. And we want more desensitization against sin, especially sexual ones? I suggest it’s not the fault of conservatives that Church attendance has declined.
 
Not necessarily. As an analogy, Einstein didn’t disprove Newton, he only expanded the theory to include uncommon situations where an observer is moving near light speed. Newton is still valid when velocities are small compared to the speed of light. It’s about develpment, not change. I firmly believe we need to look at the margins and find a way to bring them into full communion. If it involves a change to cannon law I’m okay with it. It’s not up to me and will probalby never happen but I can hope. As Thomas Merton put it, Christianity teaches us to hope in a hopeless situation.
I’m not a believer in science as my guiding light, especially on Jesus Christ. All knowledge of man has changed or expanded, that does not make it right or wrong, only constantly changing. This life, this existence will come to an end, the alfa and the omega, cyclical. I look to Jesus for my answers in life not man. It has worked ever well for me. Thomas Merton, great man and I hope a Saint someday. Hope can be every illusive if we look in the wrong direction, away from God, and to man for our answer. I think Father Merton would agree with me on that subject.
 
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