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I married the wrong guy the first time around (I didn’t have a sensible list like yours, though) and that has been annulled, and I found the right one many years later. I wasn’t looking for a husband at all - I put remarriage totally in God’s hands and thought if God willed it, it would certainly be years and years in the future (I wanted to wait til my son married first). But I unexpectedly met and “against my will” fell in love with a guy that the Lord soon made clear was right for me.
So I highly recommend trusting in the Lord for the guy on your list. And if some of your things are not to be, you will have a total peace about it. God CAN be trusted with this, i am sure of it!
I also want to say that I once developed adult asthma to cats (and other things, as tested), and I have always had cats and I love them. First thing I did was thoroughly wash our bedroom, bedding and curtains (I did not have carpet) and kept the door closed at all times because I had seen in a medical book that you can have pets in the home if an adult or child is pet allergic if you NEVER let the pet in the allergic person’s bedroom EVER. Because the 8 hours dander free respite per day is enough to quell the allergic reaction for almost everyone. It requires vigilance, though. I have seen people install screen doors on bedrooms for this.
The best known allergist in my city said my allergies were so bad that I needed needed to breath in this cortisol thing DAILY, probably forever, plus carry the usually allergy breather thing (Ambuterol?). Well I searched for natural alternative and found Buteyko breathing (also described in book by Teresa Hale, “Breathing Free”). Within 2-4 months I ended my asthma forever with this, and others can too. I joined a free online Buteyko support group while I was learning. But children are very learners of this technique, and can often learn in minutes how to breath to end an allergy attack, and then practice 5 minutes a day for prevention. You won’t find this on TV or in magazines because no one is going to make money on this cure, since you don’t have to buy a thing! (except maybe a book or a workshop, but those are one-time purchases, not like allergy meds which are a never ending money pit).
You sound like a sensible girl and you end up with a child allergic to dogs I am sure you would have the natural love of a mother and choose child over pet, if it came to that, and not just “up the meds”! However, know that if that ever happens, there is an effective med-free solution that is well worth looking into.
Finally I want to ask, have you ever doe a Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator test? If you know your 4-letter type, I will share some interesting relationship info that you might even find helpful. : )
P.S. If you have any trauma and/or PTSD issues, a good time to deal with that is now. Psychological and psychiatric therapy, I think I read, even the very best and the very most expensive and intensive and the super long-term, is ultimately 10% effective, at best. But Jesus heals hearts. And He does it thoroughly and forever. Seek healing from Jesus. You will find it.
I have some lovely friends in that category.