I am sorry but I am offended by this statement as I saved myself for marriage and did not jump into bed as u mentioned.
I agree with you and after all, wasn’t St Paul single anyway? I have friends who liken him to the wookie in Star Wars.
That doesn’t answer the question.
Well, you did your best and it sounds he was the one who opted out. Its hard to work with a flat leaver.I am sorry but I am offended by this statement as I saved myself for marriage and did not jump into bed as u mentioned.
Not everyone does that u know!!!
I did make mistakes in my marriage as I tried to be the perfect wife and got frustrated with the whole thing… the thing that I regret the most is that I did not stick it out… just let it go…
I think that love means different things to different people, however the bible does call for husbands to love, it just fails to clearly define what that means.
my lawyer did try to do that but i was not interested in the venom. I dont need to be vindictive as I dont know how hurt my husband is with this divorce and whether it is justified on his part. I am leaving it up to God to give me justice whichever way it might be.
Oh no! I think that that there’s a beautiful explanation, probably written even by Wookie Paul…it starts like this:
And the one who loves, must do so in submission to the Lord.
You know, I do have a sense of humor, but I really don’t like seeing ST. Paul, one of our most respected Saints, Apostles, and Evangelists referred to as a wookie. I’m as much a Star Wars fan as anyone (and am married to the SW version of a Trekkie) but there’s a time and a place.
I think the thing to realize with the discomfort with submission is that no one is opposed to all submission. No one favors ignoring traffic laws, etc because we think they are good and necessary. The thing about the wife’s submission is that it is gender-based, and this implies, perhaps not intentionally, that there’s something about women that makes this necessary— that women as a group need to be governed.
If you ask me, it is gender-based, and it’s not that there is something about women, but more that there is something about men. Men are challanged to not only love but to also take the responsiblity of taking care of the family. If men are left to be unattached to a family, they can very well leave society in trouble. Free to make all kinds of trouble and waste all kinds of resources, espcially leaving women left alone with full responsiblity of the children – having all their time spent either at work or caring for the children.
He hands his paycheck over to me, and trusts me to do all the budgeting, etc. He doesn’t question me about where the money is going or anything, because I am better with money. But whenever there is a decision to be made and we each have our own preferences, I let him be the deciding vote. This helps when I can’t or don’t want to make a decision- I tell him- “you pick! It’s YOUR responsibility.” That way if it was a bad decision, it won’t be my fault!!
Our marriage is wonderful, and I think giving him this little bit of power has done wonders for his male ego and confidence. It was as if he realized he had a God-given responsibility and he had to rise to the challenge as head of the family. I remind him that that includes being the *spiritual *head of the family… leading us in prayer, etc. It has made for a wonderful marriage. Young women who bristle at the thought of submitting to a man should examine their own pride issues. If you are serious about following Christ, you must learn to die to yourself. It doesn’t matter what millenium we are in. Happy New Year to All! 
I agree marriage is a partnership, And here is a website made by those people who believe that a wife should be submissive.
I agree marriage is a partnership, And here is a website made by those people who believe that a wife should be submissive. ladiesagainstfeminism.com
I haven’t read much of the Bible yet, but I love this part :heaven:
Please note that when the bible says that wives are to be submissive to their husbands you must look at the word “submissive.” Sub means under and missive means mission. Therefore the wives are called to be under the mission of their husbands. Now before the wives cringe, you must look at the next part of that passage to find what the husband’s “mission” is. Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the Church. The Church is the bride of Christ. We, as husbands are to love our wives that way. WOW!! What an honor that must be for all wives. To be loved and treated that way.
That’s an nice way to put it!
But some people interpret it VERY differently, and that’s my point…If Don said “I’m going out.” and just left, how would Susan feel?
Again, Susan’s wishes are MORE IMPORTANT than Don’s? Trouble ahead here. Again, compromise is required. This can’t be done without mutual respect.
oooh. This is not good. However, let me turn the tables a bit… Susan tells Don that she’s going out with her friend for the night… Well, turns out she’s really meeting her friend with “the guys from work” and they are out dancing the night away. And it was no accident, I assure you. What should Don think now?
You can put in or take out what ever words you want to in your vows, BTW…
At one time I thought so too. But I finally figured out it’s a long way from where we need to be.
This is a somewhat different issue. Although it is realted in the sense that a person who is a spendthrift isn’t really grown up. Part of the definition/process of growing up is learning to delay gratification–that we don’t always get what we want, when we want it. That means that people have to save for big purchases (and parties), but also that we die to ourselves for others. So maybe a wife cooks the same 7 meals each week because those are her husband’s favorites. And the husband shoves his lounger, deerhead, and TV in the back room and never sits on the white furniture in the living room unless he’s just showered and changed.