They just have trouble seeing that all men aren’t monsters that can’t be trusted.
No, but many are. Men are predators by nature. The statistics for incest, alone, should prove that our natural instincts are too easily disordered into harming those we’re charged to protect. That’s the bald faced truth, and women know it.
Marriage only offered partial protection, in that it blocked all the men a woman wasn’t married to from having sex with her. It didn’t block or provide protection from her husband, if he was a bully or a brute.
Christian marriage flatly forbids such animalistic behavior and the objectification of your spouse, but these things have never been emphasized historically the way female submission has.
The failure of the Church to consistently defend women in the past from male domination was, in my opinion, what seeded the modern feminist movement and the call to be able to divorce oneself from a controlling spouse.
This hasn’t ended male-on-female abuse, and in fact has only opened up the field. Now, not just her husband, but any man can sexually use and objectify her.
Women have turned predatory themselves to survive this sexual free-for-all. But in the battle of the sexes, she still ends up on the losing side, biologically. Look how many women have HPV. Look at increasing rates of other STDs. Women, by design, are anatomically more vulnerable to contracting these.
To be equals, they have to be doing paid work, have to do the same work as men, while dealing with leering men on streets.
And they still are the ones that deal with pregnancy.
This is frankly why I suspect that many Western women are converting to Islam. Perceiving the failure of the Church, and then secular society, they are now trying something else - segregated sexes, in a system with clearly delineated rules, roles, and rights.