Wow, cazayoux, what an eloquent and peaceful post! I have noticed over the month thatI have been in the forums, that the posts have quite a varity of tones! Some come across as angry and acuusatory, or condescending; so it is always nice to read one like yours. Another aspect of debate and discussion, is the fact that because of our humaness, we tend to interpret, or perceive things differently(one of the beautiful things about us all). Anyway, my point is; you and I and maybe 10 other people either read something or see something, and each one of us sees or reads the same thing, and yet, we don’t all necessarily see the same thing. What if, Jesus meant, if someone sins against you, you may choose to forgive them, or not! Who knows, who’s right and who’s wrong? Personally, I do not feel the need nor the desire to go to a priest, or even a pastor, and confess my sins! How do I know I can trust this “man”? Where I am at in my Christian walk, I am more attuned to impure thoughts and feelings, and when I recognize that they are wrong; I confess them to God, repent, and thank Him for His forgiveness!!! When Christ died on the Cross, He took care of all sin; past present and future. I have no problem with catholics who feel the need or obligation to go, what is it, weekly to confession. I’m just speaking for myself, in saying that I don’t need a human priest for confession. I have a Priest in the order of Melchizedek!
Your being so attuned to your shortcomings is something we should all strive for.
I hope you see that Catholics feel the need to go to confession to a priest because that is how we see that Jesus set up the normal method to receive forgiveness via John 20:21-23.
Yes, Jesus died for all of our sins for all time, but this does not mean all that have sinned are saved. Something is required of the individual, I think you agree.
i think asking for forgiveness involves several things:
- knowing you did wrong
- saying you did wrong
- being sorry for having done wrong
- apologizing for having done wrong
- promising not to do that wrong again
We are human and not always perfect at fulfilling all of this.
That doesn’t keep us from being sincere in the effort every time.
We all have sins that we have asked for forgiveness for more than once.
Read what I pray after confession:
O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended Thee, and I detest all my sins, because I dread the loss of heaven, and the pains of hell; but most of all because they offend Thee, my God, Who are all good and deserving of all my love. I firmly resolve, with the help of Thy grace to confess my sins, to do penance and to amend my life. Amen.
It’s a beautify prayer.
Notice who the prayer is to.
Jesus didn’t tell the apostles to choose whether or not to forgive sins personally against the apostles.
We know in the Lord’s prayer that we ask God to ‘forgive us our sins
as we forgive others’.
In your sense, if you choose not to forgive someone, then God will not forgive you.
I dont’ see that John 20:21-23 cannot be regarding the sins personally against the apostles.
You mentioned the frequency of confession.
We should go to confession when we have mortal sin on our soul.
At the beginning of mass, there is a portion where we consider our sins as a community and are forgiven them. This is in reference to what we call venial (non-mortal) sin.
While it may only be necessary to go to confession for mortal sin, it is a good practice to go to confession often even without mortal sin.
Keeping such a constant focus on ALL sin will help you to recognize sin in your life and even help to avoid the near occasion of sin.
I think we can fall into a trap if our sinful nature is hidden.
We can fool ourselves into thinking we have forgiveness even when we are not fully repentant.
Having a priest for guidance can help to keep us honest.
The forgiveness that a priest gives during confession has nothing to do with the trust or sinfulness or piety or impeccability of the priest.
We are a church of sinners, that is who Jesus came for.
My confessions is based on Jesus and the authority that
He gave men to forgive sins.
You asked ‘how do i know i can trust this man’.
It’s not the man I trust, it’s Jesus.
Regarding tone in email and discussion groups.
I am guilty of getting a little aggravated every now and then, and I’m sure this comes through in some of my messages.
I always kick myself afterward for getting worked up.
I’m sad when I have, what I think is, a soft tone, and it’s read by others as having a bad tone.
It’s the paradigm of communication that we are in.
I try even harder to not read bad tone from others, just in case they didn’t ‘mean it’ that way.
Cheers, brother!
michel