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When I ask for forgiveness, I am not in essence saying “I will try to do better.” The essence of my prayer is the following, “Change my heart and renew a right spirit within me because if you don’t work within me I will not be able to overcome this sin.”If I am trying not to sin, I am doing something, in the same way that trying to live up to the image and likeness of God in which I was created is doing something. In asking for forgiveness of sins, I am in essence saying ‘I will try to do better’. That to me constitutes a doing.
It probably would be “worth” something to you. If I destroyed my dad’s really valuable car, I’d say that because I felt so guilty I’d be willing to do anything just to prove to him how truly sorry I was to abuse his trust and property in such a way.This is the part that I do not understand, going back to the car analogy, let’s say that the car is priceless/rare/not able to be replaced or fixed. I say to my dad, I am really sorry, I know that I cannot fix the car but I will shovel your snow for the entire winter as a token. I know full well that shoveling is not going to replace his loss, even if it has been the longest winter ever, but it is a sign of goodwill on my part.
I would think that this is worth something.
However, I doubt my father would care how eagerly I begged to shovel snow. He would probably just be grateful that I was still alive and not dead in a ditch. The car is not what is priceless to my father. I am what is priceless.
Me volunteering to do something to symbolically make up for my father’s loss may make me feel good, but it doesn’t fix the car. When it comes to my relationship with my father, his love for me outlasts his anger over the car.
Well, you should have sorrow for wrong doing. You should have “godly sorrow” knowing that you did wrong, and you should commit to be a better son, obeying your father, and earning his trust again.In comparison to ‘Thanks for forgiving me you are the best…good luck with your jobs I have to go play tennis’, or maybe without the acknowledgement that work even needs to be done.
Your father forgives you. He may punish you for being irresponsible. Speaking outside of the analogy, you may have to go through struggles that you could have avoided if you just obeyed God in the first place. But any struggles you go through as a result of you messing things up is not going to bring the car back. You may have to walk everywhere or ride a bike for a while until your dad trusts you enough to let you drive his new car. But nothing you do will bring the car back. It’s wrecked but you are alive, and you father’s love toward you will ultimately be enough to heal the breach.
In other words while it is certainly appropriate to want to “make things right” as much as you can with your father, it is not any work that you do that earns you your father’s forgiveness. You are forgiven because you are your father’s son/daughter.