The moral case for Polygamy

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Do you think that baptism makes any diffference? I’m not sure if any of the examples that have been given include people who had been baptised or not.
Trinitarian Baptism makes one a Christian, bound by the tenets of the Church. Polygamy is not allowed post baptism, even Christian-leaning Emperors waited until deathbed to avoid the stricter rules for the baptized.
 
It is not simply that God “tolerated” polygamy, but rather he actively facilitated it. The former would involve sitting around and watching, but the latter involves taking action to progress and sustain these relationships. This is completely contrary to a God who doesn’t want polygamy.
Since we’re trying to interpret behavior, I think it would be unreasonable to state that “This” is exactly what “This” behavior means, as we may be potentially unaware of tangential, but more important concerns than the polygamous union - as would be Gorgias’ reasonable point.

I think it’s also possible that God didn’t particularly care. Or that the Church that God has empowered has done some authoritative “binding” on the issue.
As for your point about the Catholic Church, I don’t really have an issue about interpreting writings that you helped compiled. However, I would hope that the Church is also bound by truth and accuracy, and that when one of its views do not square with LOGIC and EVIDENCE, then they’re willing to retract.
Well, one thing you may need to remember when confronting the Catholic Church is that God-Incarnate gave it the power to “bind and loose” on spiritual matters. Also, it would appear that the “truth and accuracy” of the old texts mentioned in this discussion is obviously subject to some debate. Ergo the “truth and accuracy” of the texts may not stand as objectively, independently and authoritatively as one may wish on this matter.

As to whether the Church is willing to retract, I sure hope she is. Galileo taught us the importance of that.
 
AgnosticBoy,

I am late to this thread and have not read all the posts. so I apologize if this has been cover previous.

You and others have made a good argument that during biblical times polygamy was moral, others have made arguments that the bible only shows that God only tolerated polygamy and that is not proof that he approves. For the sake of argument let’s assume you are correct and polygamy was moral. If so is polygamy still moral? If is moral should western governments legalize it? Or are you just saying that based on the bible Catholics should approve of polygamy?
 
You’re missing the key point which is the number of women that God wanted Jacob to love. It’s TWO… doesn’t matter which of the two women came first.
I think you have yet to prove that God wanted Jacob to love TWO women.
In Genesis 29:30-33, there is an indication of what God wanted. He saw a polygamist that loved only one wife. God’s wants is clarified through His actions, since He acted to increase the satisfaction in the marriage rather than breaking it up. Clearly, God would only act on things that he wants.
Really?

Let’s apply your logic to some modern day situations.

Your premise is that God lets people get pregnant when he sanctions the relationship, so you’re saying that when God let Rielle Hunter get pregnant, we can assume that he is giving his blessing on adultery?

(BTW: the fact that one is described in Scripture and one is a current example is irrelevant. Your premise still applies today: “God letting someone get pregnant means that he thinks the relationship is A-OK!”)

Another example: Arnold.

God is pleased with Arnold cheating on Maria, yeah?
 
When a man and woman unite, they become one flesh. They are no longer two but one flesh [Matthew 19:4-6] …to unite with a further person would be an abomination to that newly created one flesh.

Also, this would cause one of the party to sin… there would be envy, jealousy, selfishness, rivalry, bitterness etc. [Matthew 18:6]
 
Ok, lets pretend your premise is true, that God wanted polygamy in the OT, so what, its not allowed centuries prior to Christianity, according to the majority of Rabbinic authorities
Polygamy was practiced during the early period of Christianity. Josephus, 1st century historian writes about polygamy. Justin Martyr, 2nd century figure, talks about the Jews taking multiple wives in his day.
 
Polygamy was practiced during the early period of Christianity. Josephus, 1st century historian writes about polygamy. Justin Martyr, 2nd century figure, talks about the Jews taking multiple wives in his day.
You need to offer examples of the Early Christian Fathers endorsing polygamy.

Not examples of people engaging in polygamy.

A parallel: abortion is practiced by Christians today. Newsweek writes about abortion. Chelsea Handler, a 21st century figure, talks about her abortion.

So what? This doesn’t mean that we can conclude anything at all about its morality, and whether God endorses abortion.
 
Whoah…Not so fast pal.
Jacob was already ‘entangled’ with the two women before The Lord alleviated Leah’s distress. Her distress was the direct result of the jealousy and competitiveness that comes from such love triangles
It is true that God did not start helping Jacob’s polygamous marriage until after Jacob had married his two wives. However, there are other points in time that God can intervene to show his support for polygamy. God wanting a man to love two women and helping Jacob impregnate them are just some examples. You failed to address those points.
No - that does NOT follow logically.

it is NOT a logical implication that just because person ‘X’ did such and such in the bible therefore it must be morally OK for me to do so.
Saul of Tarsus persecuted Christians. Peter denied Christ. Judas betrayed Him.
How about you read Psalms and learn all the regrets David had.
Seriously!
I’m not just talking about just anyone doing actions but rather I’m referring to actions done by an all-GOOD God. In other words, all of God’s actions are morally good, so if it’s good for Him for a man to love TWO wives and impregnate them then I fail to see why or how that doesn’t translate into being a good for man to also do it. Hek, God’s actions involved Jacob doing a lot of the work, God just threw in some miracles and blessings to make it successful!
So? What’s your point? We all sin.

And only God can judge sinners.
…and forgive them as His Grace and Mercy allows.
If polygamy was a sin, and men practiced it then sure, it was a sin for them to do so. However, when you have God directly involved in facilitating these relationships, then no sin is involved. God is all-good, so it stands to reason that polygamy is and was never a sin in the first place.
This is called an argument from silence.
Neither you nor I know what judgment anyone deserves or gets.
There’s enough data to conclude that God would not have judged anyone for polygamy and here are some reasons:
  • God Himself helped out these relationships
  • Adultery, as explained in the Torah, only restricts married men from having sex with other men’s wives. Otherwise, married men can add additional unmarried women to be their wife.
  • God was big on calling out people, especially those in leadership positions, for sexual immorality. Yet, many of the leadership were openly practicing polygamy, and unrepentantly so.
QUOTE=Lion IRC;14667220]I recommend you read up on casuistic and apodictic law.
If any of these applied to polygamy then please present your case for when, why, and how. Hopefully you have some Scriptural basis for your claims, and I don’t mean Scripture in terms of just simple theology, but also in terms of a historical record/data. Last thing I want are claims without a shred of evidence behind it.
 
It is true that God did not start helping Jacob’s polygamous marriage until after Jacob had married his two wives. However, there are other points in time that God can intervene to show his support for polygamy. God wanting a man to love two women and helping Jacob impregnate them are just some examples. You failed to address those points.

I’m not just talking about just anyone doing actions but rather I’m referring to actions done by an all-GOOD God. In other words, all of God’s actions are morally good, so if it’s good for Him for a man to love TWO wives and impregnate them then I fail to see why or how that doesn’t translate into being a good for man to also do it. Hek, God’s actions involved Jacob doing a lot of the work, God just threw in some miracles and blessings to make it successful!

If polygamy was a sin, and men practiced it then sure, it was a sin for them to do so. However, when you have God directly involved in facilitating these relationships, then no sin is involved. God is all-good, so it stands to reason that polygamy is and was never a sin in the first place.

There’s enough data to conclude that God would not have judged anyone for polygamy and here are some reasons:
  • God Himself helped out these relationships
  • Adultery, as explained in the Torah, only restricts married men from having sex with other men’s wives. Otherwise, married men can add additional unmarried women to be their wife.
  • God was big on calling out people, especially those in leadership positions, for sexual immorality. Yet, many of the leadership were openly practicing polygamy, and unrepentantly so.
QUOTE=Lion IRC;14667220]I recommend you read up on casuistic and apodictic law.
If any of these applied to polygamy then please present your case for when, why, and how. Hopefully you have some Scriptural basis for your claims, and I don’t mean Scripture in terms of just simple theology, but also in terms of a historical record/data. Last thing I want are claims without a shred of evidence behind it.

OT only
 
There are atheists, who are ex-Catholics.
And there are ex-atheists who are now Catholic. Your point?
And there are many different ways that different Catholics interpret the Bible.
Sure. This is permissible on issues that have not been dogmatically, infallibly defined.

On issues that have been, these “Catholics” are far more accurately known as “heretics”.

For example, a “Catholic” that denies the trinity is only “Catholic” via labeling error.
 
Since we’re trying to interpret behavior, I think it would be unreasonable to state that “This” is exactly what “This” behavior means, as we may be potentially unaware of tangential, but more important concerns than the polygamous union - as would be Gorgias’ reasonable point.

I think it’s also possible that God didn’t particularly care.
If I told you something that is clear, like my car is red, what is there to interpret? Usually information that is clear requires little to no interpretation, and that’s what we have with the passages that I’ve been using. The author clearly tells us what God was thinking and what He did in response to his thinking. If you continue reading the passage, you will see that both Rachel and Leah confirmed that they knew God was helping them out, and they took this to mean that their husband would love them more.
Or that the Church that God has empowered has done some authoritative “binding” on the issue.
A lot of Catholics tend to bring up “authority” but this does not justify the reasons and evidence that the Church used to establish their views. I’m here to examine the reasons and evidence behind the Catholic view through the lens of logic and all available evidence just like the Bereans did to the apostle Paul. To resort to “authority” and ignore presenting or defending your reasons is a logical fallacy. Not to say that everyone does this, but a lot of people tend to bring up authority just to avoid getting into the reasons behind their view or they may do so when they have no answers to an objection to their view.
 
And there are ex-atheists who are now Catholic. Your point?
The point is that one does not need to subscribe to a particular point of view in order to have a proper criticism of it.
Sure. This is permissible on issues that have not been dogmatically, infallibly defined.
This alleged “infallibility” is self-asserted. A short dialog:

Catholic: The church is infallible in the teachings of faith and morals.
Skeptic: How do we know that?
Catholic: It is an infallible teaching of the church.

Better known as circular “reasoning”. Which is not convincing. 🙂
 
If I told you something that is clear, like my car is red, what is there to interpret?
What you are doing is taking my statement, like “My car is red” and then declaring, "This clearly means that PR had an investment in the company that makes red paint. Otherwise, why would she buy a red car?
 
One act of God would hold in all situations in terms of morality
No. To make that claim, you betray a lack of understanding of Christian moral theology. Let’s take your argument to its logical extreme, in order to see it if holds up, ok? By your standard, if God approves of one war, then He approves of all wars. Looking at the Bible, we know that’s not true – so we already have a counter-example that disproves your assertion. Nevertheless, even on its face, your argument demonstrates its inherent weakness: a discussion of morality requires an understanding of the particular situation (e.g., ‘intent’ of the moral actor); therefore, the assertion that “one example holds for all cases” simply fails to hold. 🤷
Sure, God can act out of charity but He must also act out of moral goodness. Under your view, God commanded for a man to have ONE wife, and if that’s to mean anything, then you can’t have God being involved in breaking his own rules.
You’re missing the example of Jesus’ discussion of divorce, which trumps your argument here. Jesus pointed out that, although it was God’s intention from the beginning that there be no divorce, He allowed a concession based on the hardness of His people’s hearts. Same thing holds here: He desired marriage to be a one-man-one-woman thing, but allowed a concession in a particular period of time, due to His people’s inability (in that time) to follow His will. He didn’t give up on it… just allowed it for a time. In other words: no “God breaks His own rules”… but rather, “God has mercy, and allows His people to develop.”
Here you have God carrying out man-made rules that directly conflict with His rules. This would be like God helping the Jews practice incest, idolatry, and divorce
No, I would say that this isn’t what’s in play here. Rather, we see that – in an unjust situation – God comes to the aid of the person who is aggrieved. By that same standard, we see God approving (tacitly if not explicitly) those who resort to incest to correct an injustice (Tamar with Judah), allowing for mercy for those who resorted to idolatry (the soldiers of Judas Maccabeus), and allowing for the hardness of hearts of those who had embraced divorce (cf Matthew 19). In each of these cases, God isn’t “helping Jews sin”; He’s showing mercy in response to human weakness. That doesn’t “implicate God in the sin” – it implicates Him in the opportunity for mercy and forgiveness.
Under a monogamy-only worldview, which is your view, if a man already has one wife, then sleeping with another wife would be adultery. It doesn’t matter if the man calls the second woman a wife.
You’re still trying to have your cake and eat it too. Either we analyze under the ‘monogamy’ context, or the ‘polygamy’ context. We can’t attempt to make one context apply to the other. Sorry. 🤷
This is no different than how it is now, … God and/or the Church would simply not recognize the second marriage.
Anachronize much? :rolleyes:
According to you, Jesus banned polygamy, but interestingly polygamy was still a custom in Israel even during his time (please read up on Josephus and Justin Martyr). Jesus had no problems going against that custom, so this alone shows that adultery that fits in with monogamy (as you claim Jesus taught) can be imposed on a polygamist society,
There are murders in the U.S.; are we a “murdering society”? There are kidnappings and rapes in the U.S.; are we a society that condones kidnapping and rape? Of course not. These things exist, but are not characteristic of the society. Same thing in the example you raise. To call the society of 1st century AD Palestine a “polygamist society” just doesn’t hold up. I mean… it’s a nice try, in order to rationalize your argument… but it doesn’t hold up to scrutiny. 🤷
 
This alleged “infallibility” is self-asserted. A short dialog:

Catholic: The church is infallible in the teachings of faith and morals.
Skeptic: How do we know that?
Catholic: It is an infallible teaching of the church.

Better known as circular “reasoning”. Which is not convincing. 🙂
That’s cute.

I mean… it’s not accurate, and it’s not how the Church justifies its teachings. But it’s cute. :rolleyes:
 
AgnosticBoy,

I am late to this thread and have not read all the posts. so I apologize if this has been cover previous.

You and others have made a good argument that during biblical times polygamy was moral, others have made arguments that the bible only shows that God only tolerated polygamy and that is not proof that he approves. For the sake of argument let’s assume you are correct and polygamy was moral. If so is polygamy still moral?
Yes, I believe that all of God’s moral laws would still be binding today, and that would include polygamy. This whole premise that polygamy was only allowed for a short time is unsubstantiated.
If is moral should western governments legalize it? Or are you just saying that based on the bible Catholics should approve of polygamy?
I actually believe that the main reason the Catholic laity don’t approve of it is because their Church leadership says it’s wrong. If the leadership declared it was moral, then polygamy would’ve been in widespread practice. This is why I try to address the moral issue, before moving on to the legal issue in society at large. I believe that governments should legalize polygamy that is practiced between consenting adults.

I won’t speak too much more on this aspect of polygamy because I want to focus on a specific topic.
 
When a man and woman unite, they become one flesh. They are no longer two but one flesh [Matthew 19:4-6] …to unite with a further person would be an abomination to that newly created one flesh.
Matthew 19:4-6 is one piece of biblical information that relates to marriage but there are other pieces of info. as well. Your reference does not disprove nor even address the passages that I used in post #1 - it does not explain what adultery is, it does not explain why God wanted to get a man to love TWO women, etc. This is the information that I want to focus on before moving on to any other topic.
Also, this would cause one of the party to sin… there would be envy, jealousy, selfishness, rivalry, bitterness etc. [Matthew 18:6]
This is a separate topic. I have a response to this point and the “one flesh” point as well but that’s not my focus right now.
If any of these applied to polygamy then please present your case for when, why, and how. Hopefully you have some Scriptural basis for your claims, and I don’t mean Scripture in terms of just simple theology, but also in terms of a historical record/data. Last thing I want are claims without a shred of evidence behind it.
OT only
 
When a man and woman unite, they become one flesh. They are no longer two but one flesh [Matthew 19:4-6] …to unite with a further person would be an abomination to that newly created one flesh.
Matthew 19:4-6 is one piece of biblical information that relates to marriage but there are other pieces of info. as well. Your reference does not disprove nor even address the passages that I used in post #1 - it does not explain what adultery is, it does not explain why God wanted to get a man to love TWO women, etc. This is the information that I want to focus on before moving on to any other topic.
Also, this would cause one of the party to sin… there would be envy, jealousy, selfishness, rivalry, bitterness etc. [Matthew 18:6]
This is a separate topic. I have a response to this point and the “one flesh” point as well but that’s not my focus right now.
Polygamy was allowed only during the Old Testament time period? I disagree. All of God’s moral laws are still binding even into the new covenant. Adultery is in the 10 commandments which came directly from God, and it did not restrict men and women in the same way. I elaborated on this more in post #55. If you understood the biblical concept of adultery, then you would’ve realized that there was no restriction on men taking additional wives (i.e. polygyny).
 
If I told you something that is clear, like my car is red, what is there to interpret?
I think some of the objections you’re getting may stem from the idea that perhaps the interpretation your argument is based on is not as “clear” as your argument hopes.

I would agree that you would be one of the primary experts on the color of your car. I’m not sure that applies to your understanding of polygamy as shown in scripture.
Usually information that is clear requires little to no interpretation…
All information requires interpretation. Now there may be some information out there that has few interpretive options, but that isn’t limited or determined by the author. It’s done by the reader. Oftentimes, a reader may have some bias present that would cause them to interpret in a particular way - perhaps a way different from the authorial intent.
If you continue reading the passage, you will see that both Rachel and Leah confirmed that they knew God was helping them out, and they took this to mean that their husband would love them more.
Gorgias has done a fine job raising other interpretations of this particular text. No need for me to re-tread.
A lot of Catholics tend to bring up “authority” but this does not justify the reasons and evidence that the Church used to establish their views.
As God gave the Church the power to bind and loose doctrine, it sort of does. So we disagree here.

As an auxiliary concern, you seem to assume that the Church most be beholden to independent evidence in order to carry out this “binding and loosing”. Christ made no such stipulation when granting the power.
I’m here to examine the reasons and evidence behind the Catholic view through the lens of logic and all available evidence just like the Bereans did to the apostle Paul. To resort to “authority” and ignore presenting or defending your reasons is a logical fallacy.
It’s only a logical fallacy when the authority involved is not actually authoritative (as a question of “soundness”).

From Stanford’s philo page:
  1. The ad verecundiam fallacy concerns appeals to authority or expertise. Fundamentally, the fallacy involves accepting as evidence for a proposition the pronouncement of someone who is taken to be an authority but is not really an authority. This can happen when non-experts parade as experts in fields in which they have no special competence—when, for example, celebrities endorse commercial products or social movements. Similarly, when there is controversy, and authorities are divided, it is an error to base one’s view on the authority of just some of them. (See also 2.4 below.)
A Catholic would argue (I think rightly) that the Church is the authority on the doctrines of the Church.

I enjoy your rhetoric. Keep it coming. 🙂
 
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