The Role of a Christian husband

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I am interested in the CATHOLIC
view of the God assigned role of
the husband.

It would be great to see scriptures
or church fathers in the answers, to show that the church is the source.

Not liberal society.
 
The Knights of Columbus have a website called Fathers for Good. The link is here:

fathersforgood.org/ffg/en/index.html

Under the link “Fathers Bookshelf” there are several St. Joseph booklets that you can download in PDF and read. Perhaps this can get you started at least for now?
 
as Christ so loved His Church, is how men are to be good husbands to their wives.

So, as long as men follow those beautiful words of Christ…they will be good Catholic husbands! 🙂
 
Marriage:
usccb.org/catechism/text/pt2sect2chpt3art7.shtml
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This is what the Apostle Paul makes clear when he says: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her,” adding at once: "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one. This is a great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ and the Church."110
usccb.org/catechism/text/pt3sect2chpt2art6.shtml

Fatherhood:
usccb.org/catechism/text/pt3sect2chpt2.shtml#art4
 
But it does bring about a good point…if one makes a good father to his wife’s children, he’ll be a good husband, too. 👍
 
This site has many of the quotes from the Bible(see below also). Keep in mind these are just the quotes, anyone will tell you to get the full meaning of what is being said, you should read the whole verse and perhaps verses before and after these.😉 The CCC gives excellent guidance as well.

scripturecatholic.com/husband_headship.html

"Scripture
The Holy Catholic Church teaches, through Scripture and Tradition, that the husband is the head of his family and has God-given authority over his wife and children. This gift of authority does not give a husband any greater dignity than his wife. Both are equal members of the marital covenant, as is reflected by God creating woman from the side of man (as opposed to his head or feet). Instead, this order of authority reflects the divine order between God, Christ and man. God blessed the marital covenant with this order to maintain peace and harmony in the family, the “domestic church.” Just as Christ is the Head of the Catholic Church (the family of God), so the father is the head of his domestic church (his family).

1 Cor. 11:3 – “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a woman is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.”

Eph. 5:22-24 – “Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of his wife, as Christ is the head of the church, His Body, and is himself its savior. As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.”

Col. 1:18 – “Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”

Titus 2:5 – Wives should be submissive to their husbands, that the word of God may not be discredited.

1 Peter 3:1-2 – “Likewise you wives, be submissive to your husbands, so that some, though they do not obey the word, may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, when they see your reverent and chaste behavior.”

1 Peter 3:5-6 – “So once the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves and were submissive to their husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are now her children if you do right and let nothing terrify you.”

Gen. 2:18; 1 Cor. 11:9; 1 Tim. 2:12-13 – while some people argue that God imposed the submission requirement upon women as a punishment for the original sin, this is not true. God designated the man as the head of his family from the very beginning of creation, even before the original sin. Therefore, man’s authority over the woman was not imposed as a punishment for the original sin, but to reflect the order of creation.

Gen. 3:16 – in fact, God revealed that women would want to usurp their husband’s authority as the result of the original sin. After the original sin, God tells Eve: “Yet your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” Thus, as a result of the original sin, Eve would desire to rule over Adam, but God ensured that Adam would rule over Eve.

Gen. 4:17 – also shows that the Hebrew word for “desire” refers not to a hunger for affection, but a desire to rule over someone. Here, God tells Cain “sin is couching at the door; its desire is for you, but you must master it.” Sin wants to rule over Cain, but Cain must rule over sin.

Isaiah 3:12 – the prophet laments about how women were usurping the authority of men, during the height of Israel’s covenant apostasy.

Just as wives must be submissive to their husbands as the head of the family, husbands must love their wives sacrificially, as Christ loves the Church:

Eph. 5:25,28 – just as wives must submit to their husbands, husbands must “love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…husbands should love their wives as their own bodies.” Just as the Church is legally and morally obligated to submit to Christ, wives are obligated to submit to their husbands. This is why Paul makes the comparison between husbands and Christ, wives and the Church.

Eph. 5:33 – “let each one of you love his wife as himself.”

Col… 3:19 – “husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.”

1 Peter 3:7 – “Likewise you husbands, live considerately with your wives, bestowing honor on the woman as the weaker sex, since you are joint heirs of the grace of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered.”"
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The scriptures used are what I was raised to believe. Todays society seems to be in rebellion against this.

I agree that husband is head of house hold. As a matter of fact,
(1 Peter 3:7) " Likewise, you husband’s should live with your wives in understanding, showing
honor to the weaker female sex, since we are joint heirs of the gift
of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered."

Here husbands are to be understanding. Not put the wife under tyranny. Its so serious that husbands exercise headship lovingly that the Lord may not hear
there prayers.

If God will not even listen to you, then you may as well be excommunicated from the Catholic Church.

So How dose a Husband be firm in
upholding bible principals, and loving at the same time?
 
The scriptures used are what I was raised to believe. Todays society seems to be in rebellion against this.

I agree that husband is head of house hold. As a matter of fact,
(1 Peter 3:7) " Likewise, you husband’s should live with your wives in understanding, showing
honor to the weaker female sex, since we are joint heirs of the gift
of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered."

Here husbands are to be understanding. Not put the wife under tyranny. Its so serious that husbands exercise headship lovingly that the Lord may not hear
there prayers.

If God will not even listen to you, then you may as well be excommunicated from the Catholic Church.

So How dose a Husband be firm in
upholding bible principals, and loving at the same time?
A man should lead by example. When a man shows love and respect for his wife…when he is responsible and caring…when he doesn’t lead with tyranny, as you say…then, the wife will have no issues in naturally viewing him as head of household. It’s not as hard as people make it out to be, really. But, men who are not respectful, loving, caring or responsible…if those types of men expect their wives to hold them as leaders in the home, it might be an uphill climb for that man.

Would such a man lead a company? Lead a country in battle? Lead a ministry at the church? Would you trust someone to lead you, who was thoughtless, and didn’t care about your needs or feelings? Likewise for husbandship.

Men shouldn’t expect to be given a leadership role, just because they are biologically men. It takes work, patience, love and the sacrificing of self, for a man to be a true leader in his home.

I have that type of man as a husband…my ‘following’ of him, comes quite easy. (I will say though, before I grasped that principle, it was hard) :o
 
Here’s some adviice I got from a talk given by Fr. Phillip Chavez at a Men’s retreat sponsored by our Diocese last year. A man’s role is to Lead, Protect, and Provide. This is especially important for husbands and father’s.
 
A man should lead by example. When a man shows love and respect for his wife…when he is responsible and caring…when he doesn’t lead with tyranny, as you say…then, the wife will have no issues in naturally viewing him as head of household. It’s not as hard as people make it out to be, really. But, men who are not respectful, loving, caring or responsible…if those types of men expect their wives to hold them as leaders in the home, it might be an uphill climb for that man.

Would such a man lead a company? Lead a country in battle? Lead a ministry at the church? Would you trust someone to lead you, who was thoughtless, and didn’t care about your needs or feelings? Likewise for husbandship.

Men shouldn’t expect to be given a leadership role, just because they are biologically men. It takes work, patience, love and the sacrificing of self, for a man to be a true leader in his home.

I have that type of man as a husband…my ‘following’ of him, comes quite easy. (I will say though, before I grasped that principle, it was hard) :o
No I would not want someone that
was NOT thoughtful or loving.

You are correct.

No I don’t believe you should be a family head simply because you are male, just like a person should
not be a deacon priest or bishop
simply because of being a male.

These roles are given after training.

Husband should be no different,
If a man is not loving or thoughtful
etc…I would not marry him.

but since Im a man, I would not marry a nother man even if he had
great qualities LOL
 
No I would not want someone that
was NOT thoughtful or loving.

You are correct.

No I don’t believe you should be a family head simply because you are male, just like a person should
not be a deacon priest or bishop
simply because of being a male.

These roles are given after training.

Husband should be no different,
If a man is not loving or thoughtful
etc…I would not marry him.

but since Im a man, I would not marry a nother man even if he had
great qualities LOL
*😃 good to know!

I believe that Christ, when choosing 12 men to be His Apostles, did so, because they were biologically men…BUT…He spent time teaching and training them up, before handing over the reigns. Jesus trusted that they would eventually be good leaders…(He was also Divine, He could see into the future lol) :o

That being said…some women follow men right into the ground…the men are abusive, hurtful, irresponsible, etc…etc…So, yes, men …you are called to be leaders to your families…but, with that, comes WORK. Sacrifice, love, and patience. That being said, my husband doesn’t make decisions without discussing with me–we are a team. But, it’s comforting knowing that when I defer my judgement to him, I know he is going to make the right decision…most of the time. ;)*
 
*😃 good to know!

I believe that Christ, when choosing 12 men to be His Apostles, did so, because they were biologically men…BUT…He spent time teaching and training them up, before handing over the reigns. Jesus trusted that they would eventually be good leaders…(He was also Divine, He could see into the future lol) :o

That being said…some women follow men right into the ground…the men are abusive, hurtful, irresponsible, etc…etc…So, yes, men …you are called to be leaders to your families…but, with that, comes WORK. Sacrifice, love, and patience. That being said, my husband doesn’t make decisions without discussing with me–we are a team. But, it’s comforting knowing that when I defer my judgement to him, I know he is going to make the right decision…most of the time. ;)*
Well the way I was raised,
we would have a family meeting
once a week.

There we could all discuss our concerns, or talk about ways we could improve.

The family meeting was very nice because everyone got to speak about there concerns, even the children and were respected.

we may not have always liked the decisions, but we were all on the same page.

I think its good for the husband to think of himself last. Like Christ said the greatest should be the servant. But the wife should back her husband up when tough decisions are made.

none of that I told you so stuff.
 
Well the way I was raised,
we would have a family meeting
once a week.

There we could all discuss our concerns, or talk about ways we could improve.

The family meeting was very nice because everyone got to speak about there concerns, even the children and were respected.

we may not have always liked the decisions, but we were all on the same page.

I think its good for the husband to think of himself last. Like Christ said the greatest should be the servant. But the wife should back her husband up when tough decisions are made.

none of that I told you so stuff.
You sound like you’ll make a good husband some day…🙂
My husband is all inclusive of everyone’s feelings…sometimes to a fault. He is a great decision maker…better than me…I am typically indecisive. 😊
 
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