The Role of Men! POLL

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netmil(name removed by moderator):
Are you married?
If so, your wife is very blessed.
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I am. She’s not as blessed as I am. Often I fail to meet all that is asked of me, but seldom does she make it known.
 
I guess, for some of you, a man is to be ahttp://bestsmileys.com/horses1/9.gif and ahttp://bestsmileys.com/religous/1.gif. And, still others think we ought to behttp://bestsmileys.com/jack/2.gif. When all we want to be ishttp://bestsmileys.com/aliens/8.gif.
 
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Trelow:
I am. She’s not as blessed as I am. Often I fail to meet all that is asked of me, but seldom does she make it known.
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Her biggest blessing is that you know you are not perfect.
It’s what I love about my hubby as well. He knows that he is not the best but he is the best to me! (I’m no great prize myself, BTW!)

No matter what kind of tiff we have, or how much we want to stick our tongues out at each other, our kiddies love both of us so we work for that common good.

Being a good Daddy is the best gift a man can give his wife. I don’t care if he does a stitch of housework, paints a room, builds a deck or fixes the car. His children love that he plays with them.

That’s all I need.
 
I realize the question is about men but I must add that men and women should imitate Jesus.

Diaper changes on the baby?..optional…I think that depends on the guy.

My guy might have changed the babies 3 or 4 times under duress…he is not really into nurturing that way. He is more into oil & filter changes.
 
I’m not a big enthusiast of switch gender roles in families. Our psychology isn’t programmed for that. I’m not a big fan of the “lord and master” kind of view on the guy’s role. Whenever I’m in charge of anything, second person infinitive or future is the last kind of grammar I want to use. The word “please” has a very nice ring to it, as well.

She’s told to submit… he’s told to love her like Christ loved the Church. Christ said he didn’t come to be served but to serve, He washed the Apostles’ feet and he died on the cross. That would be it about submission in the shape some men tend to see. 😉

Heheh… the job is done right when SHE wants you to be in charge. As it is between Christ and the Church.
 
Black Jaque:
Masculine perspective. The world is a dangerous place. The world is a real place. And because of those facts, the world is a wonderful place (THANK GOD it is nothing like a Disney movie). Skilsaws can cut off a finger, water will drown you, fire can burn you, guns can kill you, cars can crush you. Mom’s tend to want all of dangers just removed from the world, Dad’s job is to teach children that these dangerous items can be handled safely. Mom says, “Don’t touch!” Dad says, “Come here, let me show you how…”
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Sooooooo true.
Black Jaque:
Fight. All forms of competition are really a fight. Sometimes we must fight each other. Sometimes holding hands and singing Kumbaya doesn’t work. Men are built to fight. Our minds, our bodies, and our spirits. The problem is men have been sidelined, told our role is unimportant. Men are overly distracted with silly fights like, Ford vs. Chevy, or Packers vs. Bears. Imagine if all that competitive energy was put into abortion. Imagine a Sunday afternoon debate where millions of males went to a bar and argued about the morality of euthanasia? or homosexual marriage?
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Count me in, give me the time and place (just not a bar, I’m underage). I wish this would happen. My friends are too busy asking me whether I think Alpine or Sony amps are better for their car.

Oh, and for the record…Ford and the Packers 😉

Eamon
 
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puzzleannie:
men are useful for many things. changing the oil in my truck. parallel parking. taking out the garbage. programming the remote. crawling under the trailer to install phone and DSS cable. washing the car. powerwashing the driveway. blowing leaves and weeds away (I have never seen a woman operating a leaf blower). balancing the waterbed so I don’t sink toward the middle. we should not underestimate their contributions.
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Although I can’t change the oil in my truck - either can my hubby. However 😛 , I can, and have, used a leaf blower - a weed wacker - and a lawnmower -= LOL = - much to the amusement of my neighbors! Especially when I’m pregnant. I don’t allow much to stop me, but on the other hand, my husband can scrub a pan better than me! We work together, what needs to be done gets done by whoever sees it first. Of course, we are getting a little crafty. Somehow, we seem to not see as much as we use to :rolleyes: !
 
Men should be like St. Joseph. For me he was always the “quiet saint,” but as I’ve gotten older I understand in a much deeper way the role of the magnanimous St. Joseph. He is a man whom men can emulate in all ways; in his love for his family, his love of work, his discretion, which truly brought forth his valor. He is a man’s man. Good St. Joseph, a man for all seasons, a man whose attributes transcend time. :angel1:
 
What a blessing to have a husband who emulates Christ in all things and is the spiritual leader of the family. And if you have a wife who’s willing to submit to the authority of her husband then everything is in balance and everything falls into place. Believe me it’s noticeable.
 
TurboE Dvo,

You might find the book “Liberty” by Thomas Flemming an interesting read. There’s some interesting gems in there that really paint a picture of life in the Colonies up to and through the Revolution.

One thing I found interesting was that men would gather at taverns and read newspapers and hold political debates. This was considered as an envigorating way to spend and evening. Swill coffee or beer and argue till the veins in your neck pop. Today we think of taverns as a collosal waste of time and money. Wouldn’t it be great if getting together with other men and guzzling your favorite beverage could be seen as a vital civic duty!

Another beautiful gem that I got from that book I believe perhaps best answers this conundrum between man being the head of the house and both husband and wife mutually submitting. My understanding is that the Church teaches BOTH are true. Husband and wife submit to each other, yet the man remains the head of the house.

Thomas Flemming explains that when Baron Von Stueben came over from Germany to train the Continental Army while they were wintering at Valley Forge, he came with a revolutionary concept. He told the officers that they needed to put the needs of their men ahead of their own needs!! At the time this was really a tough concept for military men to swallow. But in reality, these are exactly the words of Christ when he rebuked the Apostles for bickering over who was the most important disciple. He turned it upside down and said the greatest is the servant.

However Baron Von Stueben also insisted that the men take orders directly from their officers. So Officers remained in primacy.
 
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puzzleannie:
. blowing leaves and weeds away (I have never seen a woman operating a leaf blower). .
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Hey, hey, hey now. I love running the leaf blower!
Daddy mows, I weedwack and run the leaf blower. I feel like one of the Ghostbusters!

“Who ya gonna call…”

And Daddy fixes all the computers. We have 12 networked together.
 
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puzzleannie:
(I have never seen a woman operating a leaf blower). .
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Sweeping the driveway (we have a very long one, & we have lots of trees) has fallen to me. If my husband gave me a leaf blower for my birthday I’d be thrilled. By the way, the 80 year old lady across the street uses a leaf blower; she’s my inspiration.
 
My husband’s job, outside of bringing home the bacon, is to fix the cars, mow the lawn and kill bugs.
And he’s very, very good at these things! I’m keepin’ him. 🙂
 
Black Jaque:
You might find the book “Liberty” by Thomas Flemming an interesting read.
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I’ll be sure to check it out. I’m driving to Boston with my dad this summer, so I’ll try to buy it, and read it on the way. It is gonna be a long drive…

Eamon
 
tom.wineman said:
Mate and then die. Its a woman’s world.
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If it’s a woman’s world how then did I manage to get raped, sexually assalted and emotionally abused only a couple of years ago?
Woman’s world my tush!
 
Cadence,

Very sorry to hear about that. I truely wish this wouldn’t happen.

I think the “woman’s world” lament was supposed to be taken in jest. But, I know how you feel. I’m always annoyed when I hear the reciprocal statement made; “it’s a man’s world”.

Please do not judge all men by the actions of evil men. There are men out there who are willing to sacrifice all for you.

Please do all you can to encourage these good men, because they have weaknesses and can get discouraged. Learn how to spot the good men, and build them up. Learn how to attract the good men.
 
They are to be supportive and loving. Basically, if they follow St. Joseph and Christ, then they should be fine. Let’s not bash them for being men.
 
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turboEDvo:
Wow, this seems like one of those threads that could get some guys into trouble…maybe that’s why not many guys posted in it.

I am of the opinion that men are called to follow Christ, honor their wives, and provide for their family in the way that is needed (this is assuming he is married). Though I do enjoy doing many things with which guys are stereotyped (playing with tools, hooking up wires, cleaning cars…meticulously, killing bugs when my mother screams, etc.), I think that is an ever so slightly narrow view of what men are good for.

But then again, what do I know, I’m just some dumb guy…pardon me while I go powerwash my driveway and listen to Kiss and Poison while watching reruns of the SuperBowl and knocking back a six-pack (if you couldn’t tell, I’m being sarcastic 😃 )

Eamon

OK, back to homework…wow, I just realized that this was a major thread RESURRECTION!!!
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you aren’t too terribly dumb… that is what some guys are stereotyped as… (I have uncles who do that)
 
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