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dbreit2000
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Thanks, BQ, I appreciate your sage advice and will try to emulate it going forward! DBI hear you and can empathize – as I said above, sometimes criticism is merited, and it can be difficult to know how to deal with it.
Personally, I get a little disappointed when I feel like the Mass is being rushed. For example, we haven’t said the longer form of the Penitential Rite (“I confess to Almighty God …”) at Mass in months. I miss it, as I think it’s a beautiful prayer. But I also get annoyed when I feel like someone is trying to make the Mass about them rather than God. For example, a long time ago the choir director at a Mass I would attend would always choose exclusively songs that required an extensive vocal range to sing and that sometimes weren’t in the hymnal, and so really only the choir was able to sing them, and I would find myself wanting to shout, “The Mass is NOT ABOUT YOU!” (Okay, these were not grace-filled moments on my part either.)
As far as Confession goes, I can only say that I don’t envy the job of priests. There have been times when I’ve needed a good kick in the butt and have received it. Then there have been times when I’ve needed a reminder that God still loves me and have received that. But, I’ve also gone to confession and had priests who came across as attacking, while others came across as not being too convinced of the Church’s moral teachings, and still others seemed to just want to get through the line as quickly as possible and weren’t even listening. When I have a really great Confession experience, I praise God for it, and when I don’t, I praise God that I have received absolution, and ask for the wisdom to find whatever value might be found in the priest’s response, difficult as it might be to see.
These days I am trying (not always successfully) to keep in mind that, whatever form the Mass or Confession take, to just be grateful for the gifts of the Eucharist and Absolution, and to focus on the fact that these gifts are infinitely valuable in and of themselves.