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Havard
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Or chaste converts and reverts.
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bekalc
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That’s true. There are girls in their late 20s who are virgins too. To be frank though I’m more concerned about current chastity than I am about someone being a virgin now. I mean the way I look at it is put me in different circumstances/life I might not be a virgin…So I don’t see the wisdom in turning down some guy because he made a mistake(s) a couple of years ago. As long as he’s trying to live by the teachings of the Church now-that’s my main concern.
I wonder if someone could start a matchmaking service like the one Country goes to (not online but real life) for chaste people? I mean this service wouldn’t have to be just Catholic-but could venture out to offer seperate services for different religions. They could have one for Catholics, one for Protestants, Muslims, and Jewish, and even for agnostics/atheists. OF course people would be matched in their appropriate religious section. Muslims with Muslims, Protestants with Protestants etc…But I bet it could be a money maker.
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chevalier
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I fish for religious symbols and objects with my eye. If someone has a rosary somewhere or Catholic religious pictures in his wallet, that person is likely not to want premarital sex. By contrast if we allow someone to see a religious object or symbol or slip a mention of being Catholic, it will give that person hints. But this *is *tricky.
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Jay82
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Agreed.
It would be good. There is an online dating site dedicated to people who are virgins (of course this is on the honor system). I forget the name of it, but I read about it in a news article a while back. It isn’t religious oriented, so there is a reasonable chance some on the site want to have pre-marital sex, they just haven’t yet, but it does bring other people who are virgins together… some of which may be chaste and waiting for marriage.
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joandarc2008
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Quick run out and see if anyone has patent - maybe Chev can start practicing law for you too. 
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CountrySinger
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I would not wish that on my worst enemy. But I’m not paying for it, so that’s a plus (I’m not getting the plastic surgery, and this was the compromise). It’s a sevice for “highly educated professionals” (why does the word professional make me think of ahem streetwalkers) to meet other people. I personally think it’s trying to break my spirit and my personality.
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CountrySinger
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Nope. It’s an evil lady. It’s a full service (for example, I’m scheduled for an image “enhancement”). In order to be a client, I had to go through a credit and background check (to weed out broke criminals I guess). And go through an interview that makes the convent interviews seem like a nice chat.
The convent seems very nice right now, lol.
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Lost_Wanderer
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Nah, it’s definitely a gullible, innocent girl for me.You need a reformed “bad” girl. Someone who had lived life in the past, and is a little too feisty for a convent.They seem to appreciate a good guy more. Plus, a virgin has just not had sex. They might have done everything else (like my best friend, who lorded her virginity over everyone).
Reformed bad girls always struck me as tough and cool. They’d make excellent friends since I can actually relate to someone who’s seen the “bad” but they’re not the type to need protecting either. I want a girl who would have child-like faith in both me and my ability to protect her. Call me traditional (chauvinistic even) but no other type of girl attracts me more than that. Hmm… that may not be a bad idea…Lost Wanderer, the Catholic Spawn
As a writer, I’ve often imagined my self-inserts to be of similar nature.
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Norseman82
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Sure, let’s try to match chaste converts with each other, the same for chaste reverts.Or chaste converts and reverts.
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flyingfish
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I think it’s sweet, I like protective guys myself (unless they confuse protective with controlling). But I’m definitely not innocent, or even reformed:blush:Nah, it’s definitely a gullible, innocent girl for me.
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Norseman82
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It’s virgin2virgin.com . It was actually posted in another thread here awhile back.
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chevalier
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“Separate but equal?”
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CountrySinger
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Just remember, that if you are not a virgin, you are only to be cast away and burned, according to some.“Separate but equal?”
Maybe I really shouldn’t have joined the Catholic church then. 
I just make the Church worse.
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Rose71
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I suspect I am still single because I play by the rulesAnyone else feel like that?!
I am sure it is partly to do with the fact that I am really busy, deliberately so, to prevent me from getting bored and feeling lonely. I’ve ended up being too busy and am now taking bookings for dates in 2011
The only man I have been really interested in for a long time is divorced with no annulment, so that’s a big ‘no’ - but oddly enough, he is the one person with whom I have felt totally confident discussing my beliefs with. He respects the fact that I go to Mass; don’t get drunk and loud; dress modestly and generally don’t throw myself in the direction of all and sundry. He is just what I’d expect a Catholic man to be…but he isn’t
Another really frustrating thing is that despite having known me for over a year, never (my choice) had any physical relationship and been through one really awful experience together, he is still a really great friend and still makes it clear he would be interested, without putting any pressure on me to change my mind. For the first time in my life, I feel I have met someone who actually likes me for being me; respects me and my beliefs and is quite devastatingly handsome - just to make it even more frustrating
It makes such a lovely change from all those other men who disappear as soon as they realise they are not going to get to sleep with me after about 3 dates and few drink
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chevalier
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Not really. Any person willing to have casual sex will find partners but marriage is a whole different thing, even a modern “relationship” (concubinage) is. The last ex did break up with me over differences regarding future children if any, but that’s a different issue from being willing or not to have premarital relations. Otherwise, different factors were at play each time.
Anyone else feel like that?!
As long as you are able to *make *time.I am sure it is partly to do with the fact that I am really busy, deliberately so, to prevent me from getting bored and feeling lonely. I’ve ended up being too busy and am now taking bookings for dates in 2011
The problem is not about the amount of time at your disposal, as much as the avenues you have (or don’t have, which is a problem) for finding people.Sounds like a good guy, but he’s to be regarded as married to someone else, despite the civil divorce, and so… tough luck, he’s someone else’s husband already (unless he’s a Catholic with a merely civil wedding under his belt, then you can be sure of the nullity of his marriage).It makes such a lovely change from all those other men who disappear as soon as they realise they are not going to get to sleep with me after about 3 dates and few drink
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CountrySinger
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People tells us to keep busy, but when we are busy, they tell us that we are too busy. You can’t win. Rule #1- the House always wins.
Anyone else feel like that?!
I am sure it is partly to do with the fact that I am really busy, deliberately so, to prevent me from getting bored and feeling lonely. I’ve ended up being too busy and am now taking bookings for dates in 2011
The only man I have been really interested in for a long time is divorced with no annulment, so that’s a big ‘no’ - but oddly enough, he is the one person with whom I have felt totally confident discussing my beliefs with. He respects the fact that I go to Mass; don’t get drunk and loud; dress modestly and generally don’t throw myself in the direction of all and sundry. He is just what I’d expect a Catholic man to be…but he isn’t
Another really frustrating thing is that despite having known me for over a year, never (my choice) had any physical relationship and been through one really awful experience together, he is still a really great friend and still makes it clear he would be interested, without putting any pressure on me to change my mind. For the first time in my life, I feel I have met someone who actually likes me for being me; respects me and my beliefs and is quite devastatingly handsome - just to make it even more frustrating
It makes such a lovely change from all those other men who disappear as soon as they realise they are not going to get to sleep with me after about 3 dates and few drink
How bad do you want this man? You could always hire someone to “take out” the other woman. Voila, no marriage.
And then his is single and can date you. Just kidding.
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Rose71
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:thumbsup:the cheque is in the post!!! Please do the decent thing and donate it to a good causePeople tells us to keep busy, but when we are busy, they tell us that we are too busy. You can’t win. Rule #1- the House always wins.
How bad do you want this man? You could always hire someone to “take out” the other woman. Voila, no marriage.
(I’m only kidding too, before we both get ex-communicated)
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CountrySinger
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I don’t think the Pope would understand. Dang it. puts down gun He doesn’t know what it is like to be a single woman, so that defense wouldn’t work.:thumbsup:the cheque is in the post!!! Please do the decent thing and donate it to a good cause
(I’m only kidding too, before we both get ex-communicated)
I would donate the money to the “Grad School Fund for CountrySinger”.
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Rose71
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Before some high and mighty intellectual weighs in here and berates us for being flippant in the face of a social crisis…
…I recall the Borgia family were Catholics and they did a lot worse:thumbsup: at least we’re only kidding!
…I recall the Borgia family were Catholics and they did a lot worse:thumbsup: at least we’re only kidding!
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