The "Why are you still single?" quiz, sorta

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I see. In that case you also know about the vetitum, which means an invalid marriage doesn’t necessarily mean the person can go on and marry again, even in case of winning. Wasn’t asking for details and aren’t now, either, just letting you know how hard it is to contract an invalid marriage (“how hard it is to get a nullity declaration” is no concern of itself, and it should be just as hard as it is for a null marriage to come about, which is hard).
 
Yes, I am aware of it. I did my research thoroughly and I do realise there is only a miniscule chance of us ever being more than friends.

The irony I was trying to draw attention to is that the only man I have met who has the qualities I would look for in a Catholic partner is a divorced non-Catholic-which is my answer to the question ‘why are you still single?’

I could renounce my faith and start something with him: I would only have to ask!I choose not to and despite the way he feels, he respects this. We value one another and our friendship too much to spoil it.

So… I am single because I know there are lovely, genuine men out there who are capable of falling in love with me-and respecting my beliefs but sadly I have yet to meet one who is a Catholic!
 
Norseman82 said:
Well, if both people are practicing Catholics, the subject of “no pre-marital sex” should not have to come up at all, should it? And if it does, it should not be a deal breaker, but rather a deal sealer.

Now, as far as sexual pasts are concerned, that can be tricky on how to start such a conversation. I wouldn’t consider it first date conversation, although some people’s pasts may be open books (you may have known the other person for a while and the other person may have been openly cohabiting, or vice versa, or one of you could be a never-married parent).
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I must admit, I’ve often wondered how you approach girls with this. 😃 Ok, honestly, I have pictured you just walking up to a girl and asking “are you a virgin?” before asking anything else. :eek:
 
Lost_Wanderer said:
Nah, it’s definitely a gullible, innocent girl for me. :o Reformed bad girls always struck me as tough and cool. They’d make excellent friends since I can actually relate to someone who’s seen the “bad” but they’re not the type to need protecting either. I want a girl who would have child-like faith in both me and my ability to protect her. Call me traditional (chauvinistic even) but no other type of girl attracts me more than that. :o

Hmm… that may not be a bad idea… 😃 As a writer, I’ve often imagined my self-inserts to be of similar nature. 😛
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Traditional…Chauvinistic…You said to…😃
 
SeekingWisdom said:
I must admit, I’ve often wondered how you approach girls with this. 😃 Ok, honestly, I have pictured you just walking up to a girl and asking “are you a virgin?” before asking anything else. :eek:
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To tell you the truth, the only time it ever came up in conversation was when the woman brought it up!! (Or when I try to get rid of female telemarketers who call me).

Although in the future I may tie it to any inquiries regarding my salary.
 
Norseman82 said:
To tell you the truth, the only time it ever came up in conversation was when the woman brought it up!! (Or when I try to get rid of female telemarketers who call me).

Although in the future I may tie it to any inquiries regarding my salary.
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I thought if the woman said she wasn’t a virgin, you would spray her with holy water yelling “the power of Christ compels you, come out demon!” 😃 I’m joshing you, it’s payback for the comments about my biological clock. 😛
 
Three pages ago you said call me traditional and chauvinistic, but…
 
joandarc2008 said:
Three pages ago you said call me traditional and chauvinistic, but…
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I’m still not following you here. Just to be clear I only said that because me wanting a meek, damsel-in-distress type is usually something seen as medieval and chauvinistic by the standards of secular society particularly with its ideas of feminism and girl-power independence.
 
Lost_Wanderer said:
I’m still not following you here. Just to be clear I only said that because me wanting a meek, damsel-in-distress type is usually something seen as medieval and chauvinistic by the standards of secular society particularly with its ideas of feminism and girl-power independence.
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Huh. Well even if I don’t see why you would feel the way you do, at least you are honest! Props to you for that! 👍 I personally always say I want to be worshiped, and that you can’t do better than me, but some people don’t see eye-to-eye. 😦 (I know, I don’t get it either :confused:)
 
dakotagirl said:
Huh. Well even if I don’t see why you would feel the way you do, at least you are honest! Props to you for that! 👍 I personally always say I want to be worshiped, and that you can’t do better than me, but some people don’t see eye-to-eye. 😦 (I know, I don’t get it either :confused:)
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Well if it helps clarify, I have eh, self-esteem issues. :o I just can’t see myself being my own personal cheerleader throughout my whole life (I don’t even know if I can do it past 23 tops). Make no mistake, I don’t want a weak girl because I want to be the stronger one, I want a weak girl so I would want to be the stronger one. I’m just so unsure by myself you know. Dreaming about this girl’s smiling face, saying how I can do it, how she believes in me… well, let’s just say it fires me up more than when I hear my parents say it. :o
 
Lost_Wanderer said:
Well if it helps clarify, I have eh, self-esteem issues. :o I just can’t see myself being my own personal cheerleader throughout my whole life (I don’t even know if I can do it past 23 tops). Make no mistake, I don’t want a weak girl because I want to be the stronger one, I want a weak girl so I would want to be the stronger one. I’m just so unsure by myself you know. Dreaming about this girl’s smiling face, saying how I can do it, how she believes in me… well, let’s just say it fires me up more than when I hear my parents say it. :o
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Your exact words a couple of pages ago were “Call me a traditionalist or chauvinistic.” So I did. It wasn’t a commmentary it was taking what you said literally and having fun.

Rule 1 of dating: Don’t take yourself too seriously.
 
joandarc2008 said:
Your exact words a couple of pages ago were “Call me a traditionalist or chauvinistic.” So I did. It wasn’t a commmentary it was taking what you said literally and having fun.

Rule 1 of dating: Don’t take yourself too seriously.
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Oh I see, you were joking. drives head into wall >w<;;
Forgive if I am like that. It shows how badly insecure I am. TwT

Another situation that I have always toyed with (but also feared) in my head is that I get scolded by one of my more feminist friends saying: “Lykex, may I remind you that she’s a woman not a stuffed doll.”
 
Lost_Wanderer said:
Another situation that I have always toyed with (but also feared) in my head is that I get scolded by one of my more feminist friends saying: “Lykex, may I remind you that she’s a woman not a stuffed doll.”
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I’ve heard worse.
 
IT’s OK, you men are going to be OK afterall. I heard it on the news this morning and the Y chromosone is evolving. No, seriously they found it on an MIT study.
 
*I feel saddened reading the odd generalizations about women and what women supposedly ‘‘want’’ or ‘‘expect,’’ here. 😦 Each woman in the world is unique and an individual, just as each man is. I think that if you go into dating with these generalizations, you will be disappointed. If a woman is independent, and is strong minded, that doesn’t make her a feminist, and I’m sad to read those views that dance around that, or somehow infer that. 😦
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