Thinking about leaving the Church over NFP

[mas1966]

My advice - don’t discuss your struggles with the busy-bodies in your parish, or anyone else who will unfairly judge you. If you need guidence talk to your priest. We are all sinners and we can all be forgiven.

 

[migurl]

The thing about this situation is that there are only two options she really has, but she doesn’t want to take either of them. So often in our lives we pray for help or for answers but when we get the answers, if we don’t like them we act/feel as if we didn’t get an answer. Her solutions are tough, and in all honesty, they both suck. But, they suck a lot less than being crucified after being scourged to the point of near death (like Christ) or being burned at the stake (like St. Joan of arc). So, while it may be hard to do, she really has to accept this cross and live her faith or suffer the consequences. God is merciful, but He is also just, and being scared or thinking that we can’t make it is not a good enough excuse for commiting a mortal sin. Besides, we can’t do anything without God, she should realize this and turn to Him for strength instead of relying on herself or her husband to make it through her situation.

 

[Black_Jaque]

Tough cases make for absolutely glorious stories when the moral choices are followed.

Mamaquelly, you have a wonderful opportunity here. I promise you, that if you choose one of the morally acceptable options you will find happiness like you never imagined. You very well could be the saint (or your husband) that leads our culture against the culture of death. Your example could be told around the kitchen tables in millions of homes for generations.

My wife and I just learned that we share a genetic malady that could pass on to 1/4 of our children. The malady is serious. Any children that have this disease will need a transplant to survive to see adulthood. Yes, we face the possibility of burying 1/4 of our children. The culture of death can offer us many evil solutions, including “Savior Siblings” as is done in Sweden, none of which we’ll ever consider. We will continue to use NFP. We will trust that God will reward us generously for our troubles.

I am truly convinced that we are entering a period in church history where there will be a number of martyrs recorded. In order to breathe new life into the Church she’ll need people willing to die for what they believe.

 

[Black_Jaque]

We are all sinners and we can all be forgiven.

We can only be forgiven if we repent. Repent means we intend to stop the sinful behavior. Otherwise it’s like expecting a wife to forgive for beating her while showing no intentions of stopping.

 

[valient_Lucy]

Agreed. If she is to leave, she should become Orthodox. But she should not become Orthodox simply if she wishes to use Birth Control.

I would also hope that an Orthodox Priest would be somewhat dismayed to hear a person say, “I want to become Orthodox because I want to use birth control.” It’s a bit like George Costanza wanting to become Latvian Orthodox because of “the hats. the hat have that pious look you want in a faith.”