St. Gianna had no problem going to work and taking care of the children - it doesn’t have to be an either or - I thank GOD that I have a carrer and a family and there is nothing wrong with my family because I have a career. And I am not SELFISH to want a career - thank God the CCC never came out and said what Portrait has put forth - that women should quit work upon marriage or upon having children and that women shouldn’t be judges or have any other position that would place them in charge or above a man. I was even military for a time and wish I could have stayed in to fly - yes - combat missions if necessary. There is nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom - it’s commendable - but so is having a career and a famly. I love God, I love my family and yes, I love having a career.
No woman should have to defend having a career outside the home after being married - someof you want to go back to a society where that’s all a woman is basically allowed to be - a wife and a mother (and again if that’s what she feels called to do - wonderful!) - but don’t imply that those of us that just have a career or have both a career and family are doing something that goes against Church teaching - because we’re not.
God Bless
Rye
Never once did I say women cannot have careers. Go back and read my posts. My opinion is simple, we are here for God, not ourselves, and we are to build-up His kingdom, not our own empires. The best scenario is to have one parent at home, and in most cases the best person to be home would be the Mother, yet as I have said, there are other arrangements that we see all the time. In my opinion, if a couple can find a way to have one person stay home, than they should do so. Kids are much better off with a parent at home.
The thing I think many people do NOT understand (or accept) is that raising children fulltime in the home is a career, and it is also much more than just a career–it is a true vocation. It is beyond any doubt the greatst of all possible lay careers on earth. What stay-at-home parents put into their kids will be reflected in the culture 10, 20, 40 years from now!
I believe every woman has a right to a career if they choose, yet those choices should be made as a couple, and they should be made with God at the heart of every decision. The fact that you can write, “
some of you want to go back to a society where that’s all a woman is basically allowed to be - a wife and a mother.”, is something I find disturbing because it belittles the incredible importance of being a Mother and a Wife, and it belittles the men who are staying at home caring for their children. There simply is no greater “career” than personally staying at home raising Godly children. In the end, who cares what income work we did…what matters is what kind of people we were, what sort of children we raise, and how much we loved God and others…the rest is all incidental required “stuff” that has to be done, but is no where near as important as the actual raising and forming of children.
**Today’s children become tomorrows adults. **
In truth, life tends to make things straight over time. We are seeing many millions of women opting to work fulltime in careers (it is their legal right to choose that path), and many of their husbands are choosing to remain at home to care for the kids. Many of those dads are learning the lessons that now appear lost on many women…they are embracing and loving raising their kids. Those dads get to impart the lion-share of who and what those kids will be as adults. Honestly, for many men today, it is a vocation that gives them a responsbility that they simply never had in the regular workforce–the opportunity to help create future adults! So, I suspect more men will embrace that path, which means women will become more and more free to pursue their careers of choice. Men tend to have lofty goals, they want to conquer the world, and many are now realizing that they can fill their own natural instincts by helping create future adults. It is quite possible that stay-at-home dads could end-up being a huge plus for the world and for Christianity in general. I once read a survey that said 75% of all kids who have a dad who is inactive in the faith, will grow-up to be inactive in the faith; while, 75% of all kids who have a dad who is active in the faith, will grow-up to be active in the faith. Perhaps dads being fulltime raisers of kids is exactly what is needed at this time. We shall see how this all unfolds.
