Tired of being the nice girl šŸ‘§

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I have been a christian for 24 years and I am so tired of being nice to people. It seems like the nicer I am the more I get walked on. However, I love Jesus and I have to ā€œturn the other cheekā€ bit here lately my emotions are getting the better of me and I feel like I just canā€™t do it anymore.
So, how do you be a follower of Jesus when you canā€™t stand the human race?
 
We accept suffering but also include justice which is not allowing to be trodden down by others
 
Jesus himself wasnā€™t nice. He did what needed to be done and said what needed to be said regardless of how you felt about it.

Turn the other cheek =/= being a doormat.
 
I think the trick is learning how to be kind while also setting boundaries.

It is possible to be both kind and not a doormat. Learning that balance isnā€™t easy though.
 
Here is the question ā€” are you nice because you genuinely believe in peace?

Or are you nice because you fear reprisals for standing up for yourself.

Know that if you stand up for yourself, the other person wonā€™t always just back down. You might actually have to fight and stand your grounds, and keep fighting over and over.

Does this scare or exhaust you?

Or could you totally put the other person in their place, but choose not to?

Meekness from a place of weakness is not virtue.
Meekness from a place of strength and total control is.
 
Our lady wasnā€™t a ā€˜nice girlā€™ she was a tough cookie. Same with Mary Magdalene. And the risen Jesus appeared to the women first. Jesus loves women and he wants you to be kind but he doesnā€™t want you to be a pushover.
 
We are family. If you love God then try to love people because flawed though we are we have God within us. Made in the likeness of God doesnā€™t refer to our bodies but our souls, I believe.
 
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So, how do you be a follower of Jesus when you canā€™t stand the human race?
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Nice and doormat are not the same thing.

As you continue to mature, you learn to establish and enforce boundaries, remove abusive people from your circle, and learn how to be nice and giving while also being firm and smart.

Also, nice and virtuous arenā€™t the same thing either. We are called to virtue, not to niceness.
 
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Iā€™m both if that makes any sense. Sometimes Iā€™m scared but other times I know I could totally put them in their place.
 
Maybe thatā€™s part if my problem. I need more female role models
 
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