aria13:
I have read most of the posts on this thread, and I keep seeing the same words over and over. Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems that most people that have replied seem to think that the only reason for divorce is adultry. Then someone posted the other “acceptable” reason for divorce is “a non-beliver spouse.” People, there are other reasons for divorce, and that have also been acknowledged by the Catholic Church for reasons to get out of a marriage. Abuse is a pretty darn good reason to get out!!
No doubt someone in an abusive marriage should get out! But that doesn’t mean you are not divorced and are entitled to remarry. Jesus’ cross wasn’t too heavy to bear. Is not remarrying too heavy for someone in this situation to bear? When did entitlement become a part of Christianity? Christianity is founded on suffering.
I find this “man made tradition” to be one of the most cruel things that a church could possibly do!
Do you not recall that it is Christ Himself who said if one divorces and remarries, they are committing adultery? Is the burden of living the Christian life is too difficult for some people? And if the burden of picking up your cross and following Him is too difficult should we just start a new religion to make it easier?
You call annulments “man-made” yet your religion is called
Lutheran.
What in the bible supports your contention that you should be able to marry someone who was married to another?
To love again is not adultery, it is to live as God would like us to love! If this is sinful in the eyes of the Catholic Church, then we will have to deal with it.
Perhaps you should examine what God really wants you to do with your life, instead of telling Him what *you *want to do. But yes, your boyfriend is free to leave the Church if he is not happy with Christ’s teaching on divorce and remarriage. The Church cannot change what it is not free to change. The “deposit of faith” is not ours to alter.
You need to look beyond what the ancient writings of never before married men tell you!
I wonder if Jesus had anything valid to tell us since He never married. Does being married mean we can better know God’s truth? I didn’t know Christians must be married in order to understand and teach His truth. Bad news for St. Paul indeed.
Yes, scripture says divorce is wrong, but it was also written LONG before people had a voice. And it written not to be taken so literally that people can’t think for themselves. You can’t condemn on scripture, because then you’re picking and choosing what scripture to live by, and that’s a whole different thread!
You either believe the Bible is the Word of God or it’s not. You don’t think people in the pagan world had “a voice”? Christianity is now a democracy?
Being Christian actually means something, picking up your cross and following *Him *- not
your desires. He didn’t say it would be easy and neither does the Church.
I know our culture makes it seem that everyone has rights, if it’s not fair - just sue. The other churches bend to popular opinion but the Catholic Church is protected by the Holy Spirit and will never change its teachings on the sacredness of matrimony.
I hope that you do not feel persecuted after reading my post. But I would not be doing you any favors if I tried to avoid hurting your feelings.
May God bless you on your journey!