Traditions of Man - Divorce and Remarriage

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Kirane:
I don;t speak for Protestant ministers, but a guess would be similar to what I alread said in post #265, concerning the policy of the Eastern Churches in full communion with the Roman Church before 1054 according to which they granted divorces, and allowed remarriage, but considered that these divorces were sinful to a greater or lesser degree, depending on the circumstances and to be judged by God. But like any other sin, it could be forgiven, which in the case of an Eastern Orthodox person, would be via the confessional. That would be just a guess on my part.
I have noticed this trend recently on these forums; Protestants aligning themselves with the Orthodox on issues like “papal authority” and now here you are aligning the two on “divorce”. I find that very interesting considering the Orthodox view Protestants as even less legitimate than the Catholic Church.
 
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Eden:
You have turned a thread about the Protestant traditions of men concerning remarriage after divorce into a thread on annulments. .
That’s because I don’t see too much difference with reference to the question of the spirit of the law. My view is the the Catholic theory on annulments, as it has been practiced after Vatican II (but not so much before Vatican II) is, in most cases where the grounds for the annulment are defect of consent, much the same as the Protestant theory on divorce, except that it is in diferent packaging. As such, if you say that the Protestant practice on divorce violates the letter of the law, then similarly one could argue that the Roman Catholic practice today in the USA of giving out annulments to just about anyone who applies for it, violates the spirit of the law.
 
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Kirane:
That’s becasue I don;t see too much difference with reference to the question of the spirit of the law. My view is the the Catholic theory on annulments, as it has been practiced after Vatican II (but not so much before Vatican II) is, in most cases where the grounds for the annulment are defect of consent, much the same as the Protestant theory on divorce, except that it is in diferent packaging. As such, if you say that the Protestant practice on divorce violates the letter of the law, then similarly one could argue that the Roman Catholic practice today in the USA of giving out annulments to just about anyone who apllies for it, violates the spirit of the law.
I found this statistic: " 90% of all annulments in the world occur in the U.S."

If you want to criticize the American Catholic Church for abusing the “spirit of the law” - fine.

But to make a wholesale condemnation on the teaching of annulments by the Church by referring to “Vatican II”, I can’t agree with that. The Philippines accounts for only 1% of all annulments. It seems the common denominator is American culture which does not take the marriage commitment very seriously.

Americans make up around 6% of the worldwide population of Catholics.

www.catholicity.com/mccloskey/articles/state_of_the_church_2006.html

The Church is universal - not just American.
 
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Eden:
If you want to criticize the American Catholic Church for abusing the “spirit of the law” - fine.
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I am happy to find out that you agree with me on this.
 
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Kirane:
I am happy to find out that you agree with me on this.
I hope in the future you will specifically refer to the American Catholic Church then. As they are only 6% of the world’s Catholics, it is inaccurate to refer to “the post-Vatican II Church” on this issue.

I can’t say that I know if those annulments are valid or not. It could be that the sacred aspect of marriage with American Catholics is not fulfilled and that the majority of annulments are valid in the U.S.

You have set about to show that the Catholic teaching on annulments is flawed and all that you have shown is that American Catholics act more American than Catholic as a whole. How is that an indictment of the universal Church though?
 
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Kirane:
It might be, but what is the best way to handle it? For example, the Eastern Churches, which were in full communion with the Roman Catholic Church before 1054 AD, practiced divorce, according to people speaking for the Eastern Orthodox Church, and this was allowed. But the provision was that the divorce was a sin, but like any other sin, it could be forgiven via confession…
I think Christ said specifically that the divorce/remarriage was what amounted to adultery.

Confessing about the divorce hardly stops the remarriage from being adulterous.

Seems the best way to handle it is to maintain what Christ said. It’s adultery.

Peace.
John
 
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sandusky:
What is the reason?
I stated the reason. He is showing his divine nature by knowing local history and law that he wasn’t taught. It is very similar to when His adversaries asked Him about healing on the Sabbath. He then uses the moment to further teach that divorce is simply not allowed.
Man’s history, and his sinful condition are the relevant issues in divorce, not the history of towns.
Another example of Protestant mis-interpretation. The history of Scripture is vital to being able to accurately interpret Scripture. The history of the specific towns are very relevant. They wouldn’t be noted otherwise. For example, the “good Samaritan” is noted because the town itself was generally lawless and its inhabitants quite sinful. Scripture, being divinely inspired, was relevant then, now and will be tomorrow. Knowing the context of Scripture gives a much more authentic interpretation. As some have said on this board, “To be deep in history is to cease to be Protestant.”
The scriptural teaching on divorce is straightforward.
Protestants have been taught this term “straightforward” by their individual pastors. It is used to justify an individual belief. If it were so straightforward, neighboring pastors would not disagree.
Divorce is a concession to man’s sinfulness, and for it to meet that concession, it can be granted only on the basis of adultery, or desertion by an unbelieving spouse, or at the request of an unbelieving spouse.
I would agree with you that this is an accurate interpretation of the Old Testament teaching. Moses was “merely” a prophet. His interaction with the Old Covenant was exactly this. Jesus however, is The Messiah. Nothing in His New Covenant allows us to stay in sinfulness.
 
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LittleDeb:
Another example of Protestant mis-interpretation. The history of Scripture is vital to being able to accurately interpret Scripture. The history of the specific towns are very relevant. They wouldn’t be noted otherwise. For example, the “good Samaritan” is noted because the town itself was generally lawless and its inhabitants quite sinful. Scripture, being divinely inspired, was relevant then, now and will be tomorrow. Knowing the context of Scripture gives a much more authentic interpretation. As some have said on this board, “To be deep in history is to cease to be Protestant.”
Another example of Catholic caricature of Protestantism. Thankfully, at this point, I am amused by it.

Your quote about deep in history is nothing more than a catchy advertising slogan that is not borne out in truth.

I think a more accurate, and truthful slogan is, “You’ll wonder where the yellow went, when you brush your teeth with Pepsodent.
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LittleDeb:
Protestants have been taught this term “straightforward” by their individual pastors.]/quote]Another ill-informed, caricature.
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LittleDeb:
I would agree with you that this is an accurate interpretation of the Old Testament teaching. Moses was “merely” a prophet. His interaction with the Old Covenant was exactly this. Jesus however, is The Messiah. Nothing in His New Covenant allows us to stay in sinfulness.
Actually, Moses typifies Christ, and Christ’s concession regarding divorce on the grounds of adultery, provides a way out of sin for the innocent party. Oh the deep, deep love of Jesus!

How do you explain Christ’s withholding of faith from the Jews? Certainly you would agree it is sinful not to believe in the Son of God?
 
Kay Cee:
So is for better or for worse. Adultery certainly falls under the category “for worse.”
I am certain that is not what is meant; IMHO, your statement is ek eritheia.
 
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sandusky:
I think a more accurate, and truthful slogan is, “You’ll wonder where the yellow went, when you brush your teeth with Pepsodent.
Nice. But can you pass “The Baby Boomer” test?

www.bransonsavings.com/areboomer.asp
Your quote about deep in history is nothing more than a catchy advertising slogan that is not borne out in truth.
Really? Cardinal John Henry Newman lived in the 19th century. I hardly think he would be familiar with “catchy advertising slogans”. Perhaps he was just ahead of his time.

“History is not a creed or catechism, it gives lessons rather than rules; still no one can mistake its general teaching in this matter, whether he accept it or stumble at it. Bold outlines and broad masses of colour rise out of the records of the past. They may be dim, they may be incomplete; but they are definite. And this one thing at least is certain; whatever history teaches, whatever it omits, whatever it exaggerates or extenuates, whatever it says and unsays, at least the Christianity of history is not Protestantism. If ever there were a safe truth, it is this. And Protestantism has ever felt it so. . . . This is shown in the determination already referred to of dispensing with historical Christianity altogether, and of forming a Christianity from the Bible alone: men never would have put it aside, unless they had despaired of it. . . . Our popular religion scarcely recognizes the fact of the twelve long ages which lie between the Councils of Nicaea and Trent, except as offering one or two passages to illustrate its wild interpretations of certain prophecies of St. Paul and St. John. . . . To be deep in history is to cease to be Protestant.” - Cardinal John Henry Newman (convert from the Anglican church)

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Eden:
You have set about to show that the Catholic teaching on annulments is flawed and all that you have shown is that American Catholics act more American than Catholic as a whole. How is that an indictment of the universal Church though?
If you agree that the American annulment process is flawed, it would involve the entire Catholic Church, because if someone obtained an annulment in the USA it is recognised as such in each and every Roman Catholic Church in the world, and that person would be free to remarry in any Roman Catholic Church in the entire world.
 
john ennis:
I think Christ said specifically that the divorce/remarriage was what amounted to adultery.

Confessing about the divorce hardly stops the remarriage from being adulterous.

Seems the best way to handle it is to maintain what Christ said. It’s adultery.

Peace.
John
I don;t know all the details of how this was handled by the Eastern Churches in full communion with the Roman Church before 1054 AD.
The Catholic annulment process as it is practised in the USA after Vatican II, would still appear to be problematical in many cases from the standpoint of obeying the spiriit of the law as set down by Christ.
 
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sandusky:
Another example of Catholic caricature of Protestantism. Thankfully, at this point, I am amused by it.
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LittleDeb:
Protestants have been taught this term “straightforward” by their individual pastors.
Another ill-informed, caricature.
Ill-informed caricature? I can give you at least three local pastors off the top of my head who have used this very same word to teach 3 different interpretations of Scriptural teaching on divorce. All three teach their version of “Biblical” yet none agree. Despite my somewhat rural location, I did not fall off the turnip truck as a Catholic. I attend many different services with friends to understand what they are taught. (In addition to Mass of course.) In a wedding at Calvary Chapel in San Diego, I was given this very same word, “straightforward” about Scripture interpretation on the definition of marriage. The Catholics in attendance weren’t the only one’s disagreeing.

Sorry, but straightforward is a buzzword among Protestants. Calling it a caricature of Protestants after using the word does nothing to forward the discussion. If Scripture is so straightforward, and only the Catholics were in error on it, it would be simple to show that Protestant pastors are in unison. They aren’t, not even close. So how does this make the passages in Scripture addressing divorce straightforward? Straightforward implies any believer can just read it and get a pretty solid gist of the meaning. The Ten Commandments, the Golden Rule, those I will concede are pretty straightforward. Not much else in Scripture is or everyone would agree.

Maybe someday unity will happen. Until then payer and patient discussions like these are a step in the right direction.
 
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sandusky:
I am certain that is not what is meant; IMHO, your statement is ek eritheia.
Care to elaborate? As I’ve already mentioned, I don’t speak Greek.

Just dismissing my statement without an explanation is not much of an argument.
 
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Kirane:
If you agree that the American annulment process is flawed, it would involve the entire Catholic Church, because if someone obtained an annulment in the USA it is recognised as such in each and every Roman Catholic Church in the world, and that person would be free to remarry in any Roman Catholic Church in the entire world.
I don’t know that the American annulment process is flawed. I have no way of accessing all of the tribunal records to determine if annulments were declared without valid reasons or if American Catholics tend not to fulfill the requirements for a marriage to be sacramental so we have more null marriages from the start. As I stated before, we as a culture do not take the sacredness of marriage very seriously and that may be reflected in the number of annulments here.
 
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Sandusky:
ek eritheia
This website shows ek eritheias to mean “selfishly ambitious”:

www.preceptaustin.org/romans_27-8.htm

BUT TO THOSE ARE SELFISHLY AMBITIOUS: Tois de ek eritheias: (Pr13:10; 1Co11:16; 1Ti6:3,4; Titu3:9)

If you specifically Google “ek eritheia” as Sandusky wrote it, a Google search finds no matches and an msn search gives only this thread.

Look here to:

www.studylight.org/lex/grk/view.cgi?number=2052


  1. *]electioneering or intriguing for office

    1. *]apparently, in the NT a courting distinction, a desire to put one’s self forward, a partisan and fractious spirit which does not disdain low arts
      *]partisanship, fractiousness

      This word is found before NT times only in Aristotle where it denotes a self-seeking pursuit of political office by unfair means. (A&G) Paul exhorts to be one in the mind of Christ not putting self forward or being selfish (Phil 2:
 
I have read most of the posts on this thread, and I keep seeing the same words over and over. Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems that most people that have replied seem to think that the only reason for divorce is adultry. Then someone posted the other “acceptable” reason for divorce is “a non-beliver spouse.” People, there are other reasons for divorce, and that have also been acknowledged by the Catholic Church for reasons to get out of a marriage. Abuse is a pretty darn good reason to get out!!

My ex threatened my life, told me that I just may not live to see our youngest daughter graduate from high school. I got out to save all of our lives. Did it bother me that my marriage was over? Of couse it did. I took a vow for a lifetime, not just 23 years. I took those vows as sacred, and oddly, I think my ex did too. But there are things in peoples lives that can’t be controlled…such as hidden family “illnesses.” Problems that don’t surface for many years.

I’m not Catholic, I’m Lutheran. But I’m in love with a Catholic man and would love to marry him someday. But the problem now lies within the Catholic Church and it’s beliefs on annulment. I will have to dredge up ALL of the old pains from my marriage, things that I, and my daughters, have worked through for the past 6 years just so I can get married. THEN the Church expects my ex to sign something saying that he acknowledges the fact that he did wrong in the marriage, and is partly to blame for the divorce! This is supposed to come from a man who NEVER said he was sorry for anything! It won’t be happening anytime soon! I find this “man made tradition” to be one of the most cruel things that a church could possibly do!

So, now how does the Catholic Church deal with this problem?? I’ve asked priests about this, and they honestly don’t know what will happen. I’m divorced from my ex, I’ve had counseling with pastors, I got out to live not to die, and in my heart I’m free to love and live. The man that I love knows all about the divorce and the years before it…he loves me, and my girls. God knows all, and loves and forgives. To love again is not adultry, it is to live as God would like us to love! If this is sinful in the eyes of the Catholic Church, then we will have to deal with it. I could have said “he” will have to deal with it, because I’m not going to become Catholic, but this is OUR “problem” and we will have to see it through together.

I’m sorry if this is rambling, and seems a bit disjointed, but I just needed to say that not everything is black and white…there are a lot of grey areas…in many shades of grey! You need to look beyond what the ancient writings of never before married men tell you! Yes, scripture says divorce is wrong, but it was also written LONG before people had a voice. And it written not to be taken so literally that people can’t think for themselves. You can’t condemn on scripture, because then you’re picking and choosing what scripture to live by, and that’s a whole different thread!

Blessings to all!
 
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aria13:
I have read most of the posts on this thread, and I keep seeing the same words over and over. Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems that most people that have replied seem to think that the only reason for divorce is adultry. Then someone posted the other “acceptable” reason for divorce is “a non-beliver spouse.” People, there are other reasons for divorce, and that have also been acknowledged by the Catholic Church for reasons to get out of a marriage. Abuse is a pretty darn good reason to get out!!
No doubt someone in an abusive marriage should get out! But that doesn’t mean you are not divorced and are entitled to remarry. Jesus’ cross wasn’t too heavy to bear. Is not remarrying too heavy for someone in this situation to bear? When did entitlement become a part of Christianity? Christianity is founded on suffering.
I find this “man made tradition” to be one of the most cruel things that a church could possibly do!
Do you not recall that it is Christ Himself who said if one divorces and remarries, they are committing adultery? Is the burden of living the Christian life is too difficult for some people? And if the burden of picking up your cross and following Him is too difficult should we just start a new religion to make it easier?

You call annulments “man-made” yet your religion is called Lutheran. :hmmm:

What in the bible supports your contention that you should be able to marry someone who was married to another?
To love again is not adultery, it is to live as God would like us to love! If this is sinful in the eyes of the Catholic Church, then we will have to deal with it.
Perhaps you should examine what God really wants you to do with your life, instead of telling Him what *you *want to do. But yes, your boyfriend is free to leave the Church if he is not happy with Christ’s teaching on divorce and remarriage. The Church cannot change what it is not free to change. The “deposit of faith” is not ours to alter.
You need to look beyond what the ancient writings of never before married men tell you!
I wonder if Jesus had anything valid to tell us since He never married. Does being married mean we can better know God’s truth? I didn’t know Christians must be married in order to understand and teach His truth. Bad news for St. Paul indeed.
Yes, scripture says divorce is wrong, but it was also written LONG before people had a voice. And it written not to be taken so literally that people can’t think for themselves. You can’t condemn on scripture, because then you’re picking and choosing what scripture to live by, and that’s a whole different thread!
You either believe the Bible is the Word of God or it’s not. You don’t think people in the pagan world had “a voice”? Christianity is now a democracy?

Being Christian actually means something, picking up your cross and following *Him *- not your desires. He didn’t say it would be easy and neither does the Church.

I know our culture makes it seem that everyone has rights, if it’s not fair - just sue. The other churches bend to popular opinion but the Catholic Church is protected by the Holy Spirit and will never change its teachings on the sacredness of matrimony.

I hope that you do not feel persecuted after reading my post. But I would not be doing you any favors if I tried to avoid hurting your feelings.

May God bless you on your journey!
 
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Eden:
This website shows ek eritheias to mean “selfishly ambitious”:

www.preceptaustin.org/romans_27-8.htm

BUT TO THOSE ARE SELFISHLY AMBITIOUS: Tois de ek eritheias: (Pr13:10; 1Co11:16; 1Ti6:3,4; Titu3:9)

If you specifically Google “ek eritheia” as Sandusky wrote it, a Google search finds no matches and an msn search gives only this thread.

Look here to:

www.studylight.org/lex/grk/view.cgi?number=2052

  1. *]electioneering or intriguing for office

    1. *]apparently, in the NT a courting distinction, a desire to put one’s self forward, a partisan and fractious spirit which does not disdain low arts
      *]partisanship, fractiousness

      This word is found before NT times only in Aristotle where it denotes a self-seeking pursuit of political office by unfair means. (A&G) Paul exhorts to be one in the mind of Christ not putting self forward or being selfish (Phil 2:

    1. Eden:

      Thanks for the explanations and the links. I don’t understand how sandusky could find my statement “selfishly ambitious” when I’ve made it clear all along that I would remain faithful to my husband even if he is not faithful to me. If he committed adultery, that would certainly make my marriage worse, but I vowed to stay married to him “for better or for worse.”
 
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