Traditions of Man - Divorce and Remarriage

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Eden:
Catholicism is not a denomination. It is His Church. “Denominations” are an invention of men.
i would have to disagree with you based on scripture but this is a whole diffrent thread
 
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Kirane:
The Catholic teaching on divorce is a fiction because the explosion in the breakup of the family unit has hit the Catholic Church harder than any other Church since Vatican II.
Why do you make claims like this without any statistical backup?

20% of Catholic and Protestant marriages

40% of Jewish marriages

Source: www.divorcepeers.com/stats32.htm

Denomination (in order of decreasing divorce rate)****% who have been divorced

Non-denominational (small conservative groups;independents) 34%

Baptists 29%

Mainline Protestants 25%

Mormons 24%

Catholics21%

Lutherans 21%

Source: www.religioustolerance.org/chr_dira.htm and here: www.fbcsurgoinsville.lifewaylink.com/templates/aso01lv/details.asp?id=23631&PID=98205

**Baptists have the highest divorce rate of any **
Christian denomination, and are more likely to get a divorce than atheists and agnostics, according to a national survey.

Of major Christian denominations, Catholics and Lutherans** have** the lowest divorce rate at 21 percent, according to Barna. People who attend mainstream Protestant churches have an overall divorce rate of 25 percent.

Source: www.divorcereform.org/mel/rbaptisthigh.html

I have very little tolerance for people who make up fake statistics to support their views.
 
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Eden:
Why do you make claims like this without any statistical backup?

Of major Christian denominations, Catholics and Lutherans** have** the lowest divorce rate at 21 percent, according to Barna. People who attend mainstream Protestant churches have an overall divorce rate of 25 percent.

Source: www.divorcereform.org/mel/rbaptisthigh.html

I have very little tolerance for people who make up fake statistics to support their views.
Ok so lets agree with you that RC has the least amount of divorce rate, What does that make the Vatacan Church of the year!

What about all historic attrocities the Vatacan and popes have commited in the name of God!

You dont seem to get the picture Edan we’re all christians we all belive in God and Christ but views like yours that RC is the ONLY church is a Lie and it does no good but devide the body of Christ.

Maby you sohold think of that and lets tear down barriers instead of keeping them up.
 
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blackbelt:
Ok so lets agree with you that RC has the least amount of divorce rate, What does that make the Vatacan Church of the year!
Why are you upset with me for providing statistics that show Kirane’s claims about the Church are “poppycock”?
What about all historic attrocities the Vatacan and popes have commited in the name of God!
Start a new thread please, you are getting way off track here.
You dont seem to get the picture Edan we’re all christians we all belive in God and Christ but views like yours that RC is the ONLY church is a Lie and it does no good but devide the body of Christ.
There was only one Church founded by Christ. The rest is a lie. Protestantism is a lie. Are Protestants Christians? If they are baptised, they are but they do not have the fullness of faith that Christ left us in his Church. The Catholic Church was founded in Jerusalem in 33 A.D. When was your church founded?

www.prayertools.com/Founders.htm
Maby you sohold think of that and lets tear down barriers instead of keeping them up.
I’m not trying to put barriers between faiths. I’m trying to show you Truth. I would not be doing you any favors by telling you that your church is just as valid as the one He founded.

Please read “Pillar of Fire, Pillar of Truth”:

www.catholic.com/library/Pillar.asp
 
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Eden:
When was your church founded?
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LOL thas cuite My Church was founded the second Christ died on the cross which is before catholicisim
 
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Eden:
You continue to state that porneia includes adultery. I have already told you that you are mistaken as the word for adultery is “moicheia”.
I don’t know how much Greek you have studied, Eden, but I have studied it enough to know that it is you who are mistaken. All of our pastoral staff is well-versed in the Greek language, some even teach it at our seminary where we have on staff one of the foremost N.T. Greek scholars in the world.

The information you are receiving is biased toward your theology, and it is incorrect.
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Eden:
Allowing divorce and remarriage maintains purity?
You twisting what I have said, Eden.
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Eden:
Unfortunately, growth is not an indicator that you are correct. Is the fact that Islam is growing or that secularism is growing an indicator of purity and truth?
Again you twist. IMHO, that chip on your shoulders is covering the eyes of your heart as well.

What a pity.
 
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sandusky:
You twisting what I have said, Eden.
Sandusky, if you think she’s misrepresented what you said, please demonstrate it. Don’t just make the comment and then run away.
Again you twist. IMHO, that chip on your shoulders is covering the eyes of heart as well.
What a pity.
Please keep the editorial comments to a minimum. The issue here is truth, not weak analogies to “chips on shoulders”, “eyes of the heart”, etc.

If you can’t stand behind what you said and support it with facts, you might want to leave the debate to someone who can.
 
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Eden:
Why do you make claims like this without any statistical backup?
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Since you are asking me for a statistical backup here it is:
Divorces in the USA
1930: 195, 961
1979: 1,179,000
1998: 1,135,000
Annulments given out by the Catholic Church:
1930: 9
1989: 61, 416.
The divorces have increased by a factor of about 6 (5.9)
The annulments in the RCC have increased over the same period by a factor of 6824, or more than one thousand times as much as the divorces in the USA at large.
My main point in this has been that there is not a dime’s worth of difference between a marriage broken by a divorce or a marriage broken by an annulment. Ask any eight year old child of divorced or annulled parents and see if he can feel any difference. I think not.
 
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Kirane:
Since you are asking me for a statistical backup here it is:
Divorces in the USA
1930: 195, 961
1979: 1,179,000
1998: 1,135,000
Annulments given out by the Catholic Church:
1930: 9
1989: 61, 416.
The divorces have increased by a factor of about 6 (5.9)
The annulments in the RCC have increased over the same period by a factor of 6824, or more than one thousand times as much as the divorces in the USA at large.
My main point in this has been that there is not a dime’s worth of difference between a marriage broken by a divorce or a marriage broken by an annulment. Ask any eight year old child of divorced or annulled parents and see if he can feel any difference. I think not.
She will ask you for your source, so please have it ready.

Nice stats, bravo.
 
In all Christianity believes. Divorce is not allow,

1 corinthians 7: 27 → Do you have a wife? don’t seek a divorce, are you divorced from your wife? don’t look for another one, but if you do you have not sinned, but these people will have trouble and i would like to spare them from that.

Annulment and divorce make no different to me, is still a failure in their first marriage.

Well sadly to say, i have came across believer (catholic/protestant) friends who filed for divorce (in my country, one need to get a lawyer to prepare divorce paper for both party to sign to consider both are legally separated) is not from the church, even if your marriage is confirm by the witness of the priest and if you did not registered for your marriage in my country you are consider not a husband and wife. So i wonder how does religion really confirm your status as husband and wife simply through your church?
 
yes thats very true we need FACTS so please,

I’m still waiting for bibical proof for annulment, if the word is not in scripture I would be happy with a verse on annulment.
 
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Kirane:
Since you are asking me for a statistical backup here it is:
Divorces in the USA
1930: 195, 961
1979: 1,179,000
1998: 1,135,000
Annulments given out by the Catholic Church:
1930: 9
1989: 61, 416.
The divorces have increased by a factor of about 6 (5.9)
The annulments in the RCC have increased over the same period by a factor of 6824, or more than one thousand times as much as the divorces in the USA at large.
My main point in this has been that there is not a dime’s worth of difference between a marriage broken by a divorce or a marriage broken by an annulment. Ask any eight year old child of divorced or annulled parents and see if he can feel any difference. I think not.
The point she asked you to back up with statistics is this:

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The Catholic teaching on divorce is a fiction because the explosion in the breakup of the family unit has hit the Catholic Church harder than any other Church since Vatican II
Your statistics show that annulments grew by a large percent (because practically none were granted in 1930), while remaining a fraction of the number of divorces.

This logically has nothing to do with your statement that the breakup of the family has hit the Catholic Church hardest.

Peace.
John
 
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Kirane:
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My main point in this has been that there is not a dime’s worth of difference between a marriage broken by a divorce or a marriage broken by an annulment. Ask any eight year old child of divorced or annulled parents and see if he can feel any difference. I think not.
This fact, I will not disagree with. Anyone, Catholic or not, should regret the shattering of a child’s family, whether the marriage was legitimate from the start or not.

Peace.
John
 
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sandusky:
I don’t know how much Greek you have studied, Eden, but I have studied it enough to know that it is you who are mistaken. All of our pastoral staff is well-versed in the Greek language, some even teach it at our seminary where we have on staff one of the foremost N.T. Greek scholars in the world.
I am sure that staff well-studied in Greek would realize that the word for adultery is “moicheia”. I have shown you articles in which this is stated and yet you continue to ignore the distinction between “porneia” and “moicheia”. The fact that your Greek scholars continue to understand “porneia” (fornication) as including adultery is their mistake. Can you please tell me the difference between “porneia” and “moicheia” in your theology?
You twisting what I have said, Eden.
Here is what you said
Another ill-informed caricature. We are not interested in retaining members, but we are interested in maintaining purity, and if we do that, God will cause the growth (1 Cor 3:7), and I assure you that He has done so with us.
How did you intend for divorce and remarriage to relate to purity in this quote?
Again you twist. IMHO, that chip on your shoulders is covering the eyes of your heart as well.

What a pity.
I just find the claim by “biblically-based” faiths that the Church has “traditions of men” (which is false) very amusing in light of the fact that the other Christian faiths have so many.
 
john ennis:
This fact, I will not disagree with. Anyone, Catholic or not, should regret the shattering of a child’s family, whether the marriage was legitimate from the start or not.

Peace.
John
Marriage is holy to all believers. Marriage is given by God, whatever divorce or annulment is consider rejecting gift given my God!!!
 
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Kirane:
Since you are asking me for a statistical backup here it is:
Divorces in the USA
1930: 195, 961
1979: 1,179,000
1998: 1,135,000
Annulments given out by the Catholic Church:
1930: 9
1989: 61, 416.
The divorces have increased by a factor of about 6 (5.9)
The annulments in the RCC have increased over the same period by a factor of 6824, or more than one thousand times as much as the divorces in the USA at large.
My main point in this has been that there is not a dime’s worth of difference between a marriage broken by a divorce or a marriage broken by an annulment.
Are your statistics in the first category Catholic divorces or an illustration of how divorce rates have risen in the United States across the board over the last half-century? It appears that you have used general statistics on divorce and you have provided no source (link) for your information.

O.K. I’m going to root around in my mind for my old Social Science Methodology knowledge here and state that statistics can have outside influences (a third factor) that is not being taken into consideration in the equation. Society has changed drastically since 1930. Marriage is not taken as seriously in our culture as it once was. There is a lot more intermarriage in which someone who is “Catholic” is lukewarm in their faith and does not understand the sacrament they are receiving. It is quite possible that more and more people marrying in the Church are not making valid vows. We already know more marriages end in divorce than they did in 1930 in our culture. There is certainly not the social pressure to remain married that was present in our culture in 1930.

The more significant number would be the fact that Catholics have the lowest percentage of divorce in comparison to the rest of American society. How many of those 21% end in annulment?
Ask any eight year old child of divorced or annulled parents and see if he can feel any difference. I think not. {/quote]

Unless your parents had an annulment, please do not speak for children of annulled marriages.

You are relying heavily on the after-affects of divorce or annulment to support your position that divorce and annulment are the same. But if you look at the “Pauline privilege”, for instance, you will see that St. Paul does not say one can only have a marriage declared null if noone is emotionally scarred by it or if there are children. He says that a marriage can be declared null if the two who marry are unbaptised and one of them later is baptised - no qualifiers.
 
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happygal:
Marriage is holy to all believers. Marriage is given by God, whatever divorce or annulment is consider rejecting gift given my God!!!
I agree that the factors that make a marriage null are a rejection of the gift of God - the Sacrament of Matrimony. What annulment means is that one or both of the parties who participated in the Sacrament of Matrimony did so under false pretenses. That the intention to live the Sacrament and join in this union was not there from the very day of the marriage:

A declaration of nullity within the Catholic Church is a decision that a given marriage lacked one of the essential elements listed below from the beginning and was therefore not a sacramental marriage. It is a judgment that one or both of the parties did not give proper consent to marriage. This judgment is reached through a full and careful inquiry into the history of the individuals and the marriage. A marriage is presumed to be valid unless proven otherwise.
  • Did you and your former spouse freely enter into this marriage?
  • Did you and your former spouse know who you were marrying?
  • Did you and your former spouse know what it meant to be married?
“A very basic premise is that marriage is so sacred that all marriages between Christians are considered sacramental and valid unless proven otherwise.”

“The Catholic Church says in order for this sacrament to be valid, certain conditions should be present. If these conditions are not present, it does not necessarily mean that the sacrament lacks validity. It does mean that there may be cause to investigate further to determine if the relationship was of a sacramental nature or not. This process is what is referred to as the process of annulment. Any person has the right to request that the Catholic Church investigate whether his or her marriage was sacramental and to request a Decree of Nullity.”

www.lcdiocese.org/Annulments/coverpage.htm

The Catholics here have been very free and willing to discuss annulments despite the fact that this is not the thread topic. Our teaching is biblical. But I would like to mention that the other posters here continue to attack annulments rather than answering how their own faiths justify the unbiblical teaching of remarriage after divorce.
 
john ennis:
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Your statistics show that annulments grew by a large percent (because practically none were granted in 1930), while remaining a fraction of the number of divorces.

This logically has nothing to do with your statement that the breakup of the family has hit the Catholic Church hardest.

Peace.
John
Statistically speaking RC does have the lowest rate of divorce, but those are divorces that went through an annulment process, what rate have divorced and not gone through the annulment process is difficult to know. Also many elderly widows I know are co habituating with a partner and instead of marrying what they are doing is having there persist bless the rings, they do not want to marry because then they will lose there widows pension,

But the point is all denominations are facing the same problem, I think RC and Assemblies of God need to unify and begin teaching about the family unit again among other things also. We’re defiantly living in the end times and more than ever all Christian’s worldwide need to put there theological differences aside and unite THE WORLD NEEDS US.
 
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blackbelt:
yes thats very true we need FACTS so please,

I’m still waiting for bibical proof for annulment, if the word is not in scripture I would be happy with a verse on annulment.
Do you see the word “Trinity” in your Bible? It is the idea of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit that is present in the Bible. The Church calls it the “Trinity”.

In the same way, you see examples in the Bible of how a marriage can be declared null - “Pauline privilege” and “porneia”. The declaring of a marriage null is called “annulment” because annulment means “to declare null”.
 
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sandusky:
By the time someone is put out of the church, they have usually left on their own, and in so doing they remove themselves from our authority. If they are remarried in another church, there is not much that we can do.
Okay, this didn’t quite answer the question. If a person is “put out of the church” due to divorce, what happens if he returns? What if, by then, his wife has remarried someone else? Is he then allowed to take another wife?
The consequences of such actions are fully explained in advance of their being put out.If one, or the other has committed adultery, then there is no remarriage prohibition. I understand that you do not see it that way, but scripturally, in that situation, there is no prohibition. Adultery is the biblical grounds for divorce that Christ lists; Paul lists others. As Moses did, so Paul also permits divorce, and Paul gives no admonition against remarriage. Read all of 1 Cor 7 thoughtfully. Paul does not put the body under further bondage.
I obviously did not state my question well. You took it to mean adultery committed *before *a divorce. I meant it as *after *a divorce–let’s say in both cases a civil divorce was granted because of irreconcilable differences. Now here’s what I’m seeing in many Protestant churches: Two such divorced persons get married to each other. If we take seriously Jesus’ statement that if they remarry, they commit adultery, they are entering into an adulterous relationship, with the full blessing and sanction of their church. I hope I explained it well this time.
What removes your responsibility from the vow is your husband’s unfaithfulness. In that situation, if the offended party wants to honor the vow that they made, I would certainly not discourage that. But I would inform them that the “unchaste” actions of their partner certainly freed them from that vow.
What really bothers me about this is that in such a situation, another person’s sin would be voiding a sacred vow I personally made to God, without my desire or consent. That vow is not just between me and my husband, it’s also between God and me. Nobody has the right to void a sacred vow I make to God but God. Sin is evil. How can evil void a sacred vow I made to God? If that’s the case, isn’t evil greater than sanctity?
Chesteron’s sweeping generalization is not true of every non-Catholic Church, and I am certain he knew that when he made that statement.
I just put in the quote by Chesterton to illustrate my point. I’m very disturbed by someone standing before God and breaking one vow by making another.
The Lord says:

Matthew 19:9

*9 “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife *[or her husband], *except for immorality, and marries another woman *[or man] [that one] commits adultery.”

A partner’s immorality is grounds for divorce.
Well, that’s another ball of wax, and if we want to debate the meaning of porneia, we should start another thread.
 
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