Perhaps you’ve discovered his one and only endearing quality…
…or, maybe, he is just a buttlicker when he feels he could personally profit from a 'friendship?..
Or maybe I dislike him so much I’m just too cynical…Who knows
With all due respect, Vouthon, and you know I like you as a person, I think your last sentence hits it on the head. I do think, for one thing, that European ways of speaking might be different from American ways.
(This is really hard to explain, and I’m not sure I can. But I’ll try.)
Among some, but not all Americans, there is a sort of cultural affinity for making bluff, confrontational statements that have more implied content than stated content. I think that’s more common in certain geographical areas and among certain classes of people than in others.
So, for example, if you express a “politically correct” statement to an American Southerner, he might just comment that’s just what one would expect from a “Commie” or even a “Commie pinko b----rd”. Now, that doesn’t mean he really thinks the speaker is a communist, or that he thinks communists are all over the place. It isn’t even necessarily intended as an insult. It’s just an expression of distaste for a type of discourse and political worldview.
Working class people almost everywhere in the U.S. are given to the same kind of bluff expression. (there are a lot more expressions, but some of them I can’t say on here)
Where I live, it’s extremely common, and among all classes of people who, for whatever reason, have not adapted their modes of expression to that extremely mannerly understatement to which society now seems so intent on requiring of everyone. Tell an Ozark hillbilly, for example, that you think homosexual marriage is just one more human right, he’s just as likely to say you’re “hell-bound” as not. That doesn’t mean he literally think you will inevitably go to hell. It’s his way of saying vehemently that it’s an immoral belief, and if you want to talk about it any more, you already know where he stands, and that he won’t budge.
Trump is full of those kinds of things; “lyin’ Ted”, “crooked Hillary”, “little Marco”. And to those who, either culturally or politically feel constrained in their expression to expressing themselves only in “acceptable” ways, it seems much worse than it really is.
A lot of people are put off by Trump. For the most part, I truly do think it’s his way of expressing himself. Add to that the fact that he hasn’t spent a lifetime training in the urbane forms of political lying that is so common anymore that a person like me finds it not only almost nauseating, but a kind of imposition on my personal freedom.
It extends outside the political arena more and more all the time. There are more and more things we “can’t say” . There are more and more constraints masking as “good manners”. There are more and more things we “have to accept” that we really don’t accept, but are almost compelled to affirm that we at least give them deference. And one has a niggling suspicion that if we become well enough trained in our language, we are simultaneously training our minds, even our souls along paths set for us by those who would like to control us to our very depths.
I am often put to mind of some of Solzhenitsyn’s observations, probably because I have read and re-read so many of his writings. One of the things he said that sticks in my mind is his elucidation of how one’s speech became more and more limited in the Soviet society, out of fear. As time went on, there were more and more things one couldn’t say; more and more things one had to say. He compared it to having our mouths sewn shut, stitch by patient stitch.
At some point, one simply feels like shouting something deemed outrageous just to jar people out of their torpor. I think Trump (instinctively?) understands that, and I think that’s a big part (though not all) of his appeal. He says a lot of things people would like to say, but don’t dare to say. No, the thoughts are not completely elucidated and are often overstated. But they have meaning. And the meanings are almost never what the politically correct societal “schoolmarms of speech” take them to be, or represent them to be.