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queenofheartscv
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I absolutely disagree with you. It’s my job to train my children so that they will be safe. The safest thing to do is to report any abuse right away–this must be taught everywhere, and I know it is. Children must be taught the best way to ensure safety, not what they feel like doing. They must know to go to someone they could trust and report straight away. If this is not taught, they are less likely to do so and as a result they will incur much more hurt.How you might like a victim to respond and how he or she might actually respond are two different things – and the difference is exceptionally important. You’ve stated that you would be “upset” with your daughter if she waited even a week to tell you she’d been victimized. You’ve stated that if your child doesn’t tell you for months, either she hasn’t been traumatized or you must have a relationship problem. All of these statements demonstrate a need for heightened education about how victims respond to being assaulted. And I’d gently suggest that focusing on how you think she should respond rather than how trauma might affect her responses won’t be particularly helpful to her as a victim.
