No. Blame is not the opposite of forgiveness. One whose loved one was killed by James Holmes, for example, might forgive him, but Holmes is still to blame for the murder. Blame=properly attributed responsibility.
True, in the objective sense. But blame usually carries judgment with it, which Jesus specifically tells us not to do. The answer to our compulsion to judge is to forgive, which will put all of us in the mode of empathy rather than condemnation of all the parties involved. The UN pointed to the settlements and said “law violation”. Did they say “this is a law violation, so you Israelis deserve condemnation”? Perhaps so. But this is precisely the opportunity we have as those who adhere to our monotheistic religions to have a different voice: “Okay, there is a rule violation when Israelis are building those settlements on occupied territory, but we can forgive those Israelis. Now instead of battling over who is right, let us forgive, get together, and resolve these issues so that everyone can get their needs met.” Would you join me in such an approach? Can you see this as a more compassionate, Christian approach?
A lot of your previous post, which I just now read, contains assumed foundations. Perhaps the most erroneous one is unspoken; the assumption that Israelis exclude Arabs from settlements in the West Bank out of some kind of ill will. It is simple self-protection. Those settlements are analgous to the walled towns of history; places where people can be protected as they go about their lives. Jews have always been in Palestine, including the West Bank. They cannot live there safely in the same way we in the U.S. live in reasonable safety in our individual homes. This isn’t some precaution against some ancient offense that hasn’t been forgotten or forgiven. This is a precaution against the presently existing reality.
Well, let me look again:
Originally Posted by OneSheep
Okay, let me be more specific. You are a Palestinian farmer whose land has been confiscated for “security reasons” by Israel, and they tear down your olive groves and use your water to feed Jewish settlements and/or farms elsewhere. A few years later, settlements are being built on your land, or on land once in Palestinian hands and confiscated by Israel. Your family, who are compassionate, law-abiding people, who have lived for hundreds of years in this area, is denied access to a home in the settlement because you have the wrong religion card.
Would you feel angry about this? Sure, there are other things happening in their lives, things that happen on a daily basis. But can you see why such anger is something shared by so many? Please, I don’t want to hear a response about all the atrocities that Palestinians have carried out against Israelis, because I already know all this, and I already empathize with the Israelis on this. My question centers on trying to discern whether you can empathize with the Palestinians as I can empathize with the Israelis. The solution begins with empathy, with forgiveness, not with finger-pointing. Can you empathize with their anger and resentment?
Perhaps I was not clear enough when I said “I already empathize with the Israelis on this”. Let me describe with what specifically I empathize:
I empathize with the fear that Israelis have of Arabs, specifically Arabs who live in the occupied territories. I would feel a great deal of anxiety getting on a bus with a person who looked the least bit Muslim. I could see what happened to my ancestors in Germany and elsewhere as a huge injustice, and that if there is a God, then Israel is truly a land given to us. I could resent, hate Palestinians for the death and terror they have done to us. I could, therefore, easily justify confiscation of Palestinian territory and disallowing Arabs in the settlements. I understand it. I could have the same feelings and opinions if I were in their shoes.
This is not, as you say, a matter of “ill will”, for what empathizing person could possibly surmise that the Israelis want any more than justice and security.
So my question is whether you, too, can empathize with both sides. If you were that farmer, could you also feel great anger and resentment? Can you see why such anger is shared by so many?
Please, join me in being a peacemaker. It is not saying that those who oppose Israel are “right”. It is a matter of empathizing, forgiving both sides. And this isn’t a matter, either, of me “winning” this discussion. The whole world wins if we can get the Palestinians and Israelis to forgive each other. Reconciliation and peace will follow forgiveness. Can such forgiveness begin with us? If we cannot forgive, (that is, to withhold judgment and let go of desire to punish) as persons essentially outside the arena, then how are we to encourage others to forgive? Forgive we must.
How about others reading this thread or posting here? Can we all forgive both sides? Whom among you is already “there”?