Uncommitted Dating

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I was embarrassed that I liked to him so much. It broke my heart when he liked another.
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You won’t have real love until you are open to being in that state with someone else.
The trick is both getting there together.
 
If someone has shown to like someone else, what do you do fight for them or cry? I didn’t know what to do. I thought I’d seem possessive if I showed I cared. Technically you cannot become upset at an uncommitted date for liking another. Rationalizing feelings never works
 
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If someone has shown to like someone else, what do you do fight for them or cry? I didn’t know what to do. I thought I’d seem possessive if I showed I cared. Technically you cannot become upset at an uncommitted date for liking another. Rationalizing feelings never works
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Yes, how one responds is important, you don’t want to scare the person away 🙂
Instead of ‘being upset’ maybe try sharing that you like the person and would like to move it into a more committed relationship. At a certain point it’s better to make the call ‘sit or get off the pot’. ?

If the feeling aren’t mutual, isn’t it better that you start healing and move on? I don’t think you want to torture yourself by staying in an uncommitted relationship. It doesn’t make one more attractive, the non-verbal cues will be noticed.
 
The reality that the feelings were not necessarily mutual hurt. C’est la vie. I’d start wondering if I did something wrong or if I wasn’t pretty, smart, etc enough if they decided to ask someone else instead of me
 
Romantic rejection is another part of life I guess. I shouldn’t have postponed the pain.
 
If you’re not dating exclusively, you should probably make that explicit after the second date at the latest to avoid hurt feelings when/if they find out, I’d say.

It’s bad manners to flirt with someone else in front of someone you’re currently going out with, especially if you’re at a social gathering. It’s not going to look good on you to either potential partner and it has the potential to cause a scene, which would make things uncomfortable for the host and the other party-goers.
 
Come on now Jump…

What do you think? Shouldn’t you treat all people with respect? The rules are not different whether you just met, are casually dating or are actually dating, (since you seem to think there is some line you cross from one to the other.)

It has nothing to do with dating, it has to do with respect, period. Everyone deserves it until they don’t.
 
All the respect you would owe everyone and then a little bit more seeing as how you like them enough to consider them romantically. If you’re not going to respect them, have off and let them find someone else who will.
 
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Some people defended his right to ask out a girl while I was around. I was being jealous and possessive after all he’s not mine
 
Well I wouldn’t have. That was rude and disrespectful of him. And if a guy did that to you, he isn’t someone you should want to be involved with anyway. Really, you deserve better than that.
 
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