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Here again, it is not up to the couple. “Internal forum” requires the involvement of the priest/spiritual director. The reasons would be shared with that person, subject to the confidentiality of the “internal forum” ie confession. So, that priest would be making the determinition in conjunction with the couple and therefore it would still “be up to the church”.
Which is why I said:
“A couple can easily shop for a spiritual director who will rubber stamp what they already want.”
In an extremely weak way, it will still be up to the Church. I wasn’t arguing it would go against doctrine. It would, however, be an awful pastoral approach that would, in practice, make any marriage trivial to annul. I could go to the courthouse, get a divorce, and go to a spiritual director who would annul the marriage, in the same afternoon.
This is much easier to do than go to a tribunal of Canon lawyers to see, objectively, the state of the marriage as it pertains to Canon Law.
Sorry, but there are more weak spiritual directors than there are solid spiritual directors, and most would just go along with whatever the person wants than give a harsh truth.
The annulment process should be long. The annulment process should be painful. The annulment process should be intrusive. Deeming a marriage invalid is a very serious undertaking and should not be done by only the couple and one other person who might not even be well versed in Canon law.
Which is why I said:
“A couple can easily shop for a spiritual director who will rubber stamp what they already want.”
In an extremely weak way, it will still be up to the Church. I wasn’t arguing it would go against doctrine. It would, however, be an awful pastoral approach that would, in practice, make any marriage trivial to annul. I could go to the courthouse, get a divorce, and go to a spiritual director who would annul the marriage, in the same afternoon.
This is much easier to do than go to a tribunal of Canon lawyers to see, objectively, the state of the marriage as it pertains to Canon Law.
Sorry, but there are more weak spiritual directors than there are solid spiritual directors, and most would just go along with whatever the person wants than give a harsh truth.
The annulment process should be long. The annulment process should be painful. The annulment process should be intrusive. Deeming a marriage invalid is a very serious undertaking and should not be done by only the couple and one other person who might not even be well versed in Canon law.