Anyone who has watched the relationship between women religious and the hierarchy unfold much more than recently will understand that the situation, for lack of a better analogy, very much resembles a protracted divorce which refuses to conclude. It did not start yesterday or even in the 1980’s. According to these women, io some degree it can be said to pre-date Vatican 2. However, with Vatican 2, came a sense among reliigous that they were due more autonomy, or would soon have more autonomy, than in fact they were ever intended to have. Women religious for many, many years have complained about being infantilized by hierarchy both within the Vatican and without. I’m not talking about vows of obedience here, but what they viewed as heavily paternalistic over-reaching and a lack of trust in the sister’s more than adequate self-governance, before there was any justification for concern about doctrinal and lifestyle matters.
(I am just reporting on what I have been told; not verifying what did and did not happen, or playing advocate.)
It has often seemed to women religious that the hierarchy alternated between treating them like young children and ignoring/neglecting them altogether (for long periods). Again, I cannot verify how accurate that is, merely that it is a long-standing theme among very many women religious, especially older women, and I think that’s the crux of it. It’s not just a matter of today’s younger sisters being more faithful and cooperative; it’s that the younger ones did not experience a much “older” model of authority and assumptions. I think women in general in all walks of life are respected much more by clergy today. So some of these older sisters are carrying some very outdated baggage, i.m.o., in that they are clinging to old resentments of conditions and assumptions not operating today.
And that’s why there will never be “dialogue,” let alone “equality” sufficient enough to please them. They went through the mental marital separation quite some time ago, establishing their own practical and spiritual residencies “elsewhere.” And like many people in a divorce, the sisters are magnifiying all the previous injustices done to them, to include not only some potentially real ones, but features of the “partner” that are crucial to his identity. (It’s a destructive “divorce.”) Now they not only hate what they maintain was done to them, they reject the very “personality” of the partner, his essence. That means patriarchy and manhood itself.
There’s a logic to this, but here’s what I don’t get: At what point did they discover that the Roman Church is patriarchal in its governance? Hmmm. They in fact always knew. They certainly knew when they made vows. That would include the knowledge that the vow of obedience is linked with obedience to Mother Church. But this is about emotional rejection. The intellectual stuff is merely the cover and the vehicle for the emotional separation.
Only my opinion.