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Natural Family Planning Program
Secretariat for Laity, Marriage, Family Life & Youth
3211 4th Street NE
Washington, DC 20017
Email: nfp@usccb.org
Telephone: 202-541-3040
You can also go to www.usccb.org and look to the left. Click on Life Issues. You will find much useful information on this subject and all of it is orthodox.
The best example that I can give you is St. Giana Molla. She was a wife, mother, doctor, Catholic and wore pants. Like her there have been other great Catholic women, who are not saints, but were exemplary Catholics. One of them is Maria Montessori. I believe that she was the first female physician in Italy. She too was a mother and a devout Catholic.
I’m a religious, but the Executive Director of Respect Life for my diocese is a devout and holy woman who is a mother, wife and holds a key position in the diocese.
If you look at this forum, one of the senior apologists is a woman, Michelle Arnold and she’s an excellent apologist.
Most of our Catholic schools are staffed by women who are wives and mothers, as are our Catholic hospitals.
If the Church adopted this mindset, it would have to close down and limit its operations to Sunday mass. The fact is that the Catholic Church runs on women who are wives and mothers. These women are the largest number of employees in the Catholic Church. There are more of them than there are bishops, priests and brothers put together. If we took the Catholic School teachers alone, we have an army of Catholic working wives and mothers. Dr. Alice Von Hildebrand was a wife, Catholic professional and very anti-feminist movement.
I’ll offer a simple example. I share a 1999 Nissan with four brothers. We live in three houses. The car is used by the person who needs it the most. The rest of us walk, take buses, get rides from friends. The car works fine. The first time that we had to put it into the hospital in 11 years was last month. We spent about $400.00 to fix a few things. Well $400.00 amortized over 11-years is not a lot of money. It’s less than $40 per year. Would we like one of those new cars that has a built in GPS, TV or whatever that thing is where you can watch movies, individual AC settings and other gadgets? Nope.
I live in a three-bedroom townhouse with another brother in a poor neighborhood. We don’t have a dining room. The third bedroom serves as the chapel. There is not much of a backyard. To be alone, we walk around the lake outside of the house. Would we like to live in a large monastery as do Benedictines? No. We don’t need it. The Benedictines do. The amenities offered by a monastery are necessary for the life of a monk. We’re not monks.
Before I was a religious, I was a widower and a father of two. My kids and I were in the mission in the Amazon for three years. They did not have all the comforts of home in the USA. Today, they have a great understanding for poverty and people of other cultures.
My point is that we must learn to tailor our material possessions, even our homes, to our needs, not our wants. Holiness is achieved through detachment. Just look at the great saints. They were the most detached people, even those who were parents. Look at a woman like Elizabeth Ann Seton. She was the mother of five. She lived with the minimum, ran a religious community, founded schools, orphanages and a hospital. How did she do this? She believed in miracles.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF
You’ll have to define what you mean by a “pre-Vatican II mentality”. I’m a Franciscan who belongs to one of the reformed communities. We’re trying to get back to the 13th century way of life. Not everything that came before Vatican II was great, nor was it all bad. The Church did not end in 1962, but it was not born in 1962 either. Help me understand what you mean by a pre-Vatican II mentality.The problem with the Fraternity of St. Peter is that a lot of the priests there have completely pre-Vatican II mentality.
I belong to a religious community that does nothing but preach and teach the Gospel of Life. I can tell you with great surety that NFP was meant to be used with great caution, after a lot of prayer, never for an extended amount of time, and only for the most serious reasons. The term says it all Natural Family Planning. It’s not Catholic Birth Control. As Catholics, we remain open to the gift of life, regardless of how many children God sends us. We abstain from sexual intercourse with our spouses when it is necessary to do so and only when both parties agree. Your bodies belong to each other. In a nutshell, this is what the Fathers should be teaching you. For more information, you can contactMost of the priests frown upon NFP, almost in any circumstance.
Natural Family Planning Program
Secretariat for Laity, Marriage, Family Life & Youth
3211 4th Street NE
Washington, DC 20017
Email: nfp@usccb.org
Telephone: 202-541-3040
You can also go to www.usccb.org and look to the left. Click on Life Issues. You will find much useful information on this subject and all of it is orthodox.
This is not something endorsed by the Catholic Church. Nor should it be something that is promoted by the FSSP. I cannot speak for individual priests. Human beings are what we are. Some of us do and say things that are over and beyond what the Lord expects of us.The people that attend the FSSP masses frown upon a women wearing pants, or working at all.
The best example that I can give you is St. Giana Molla. She was a wife, mother, doctor, Catholic and wore pants. Like her there have been other great Catholic women, who are not saints, but were exemplary Catholics. One of them is Maria Montessori. I believe that she was the first female physician in Italy. She too was a mother and a devout Catholic.
I’m a religious, but the Executive Director of Respect Life for my diocese is a devout and holy woman who is a mother, wife and holds a key position in the diocese.
If you look at this forum, one of the senior apologists is a woman, Michelle Arnold and she’s an excellent apologist.
Most of our Catholic schools are staffed by women who are wives and mothers, as are our Catholic hospitals.
If the Church adopted this mindset, it would have to close down and limit its operations to Sunday mass. The fact is that the Catholic Church runs on women who are wives and mothers. These women are the largest number of employees in the Catholic Church. There are more of them than there are bishops, priests and brothers put together. If we took the Catholic School teachers alone, we have an army of Catholic working wives and mothers. Dr. Alice Von Hildebrand was a wife, Catholic professional and very anti-feminist movement.
I’m not sure what they’re advising you, so I can’t speak to that. However, I will quote Mother Teresa who said that we must live simply so that others may simply live. We have to examine ourselves and our possessions, maybe our homes too. “Do I need this or do I want this?” There is a difference. Our lives cannot be driven by what we want.If I followed the advice of the FSSP I’d be completely in debt, living in a small cramped apartment, and my wife would be suicidal. The FSSP is not for me!![]()
I’ll offer a simple example. I share a 1999 Nissan with four brothers. We live in three houses. The car is used by the person who needs it the most. The rest of us walk, take buses, get rides from friends. The car works fine. The first time that we had to put it into the hospital in 11 years was last month. We spent about $400.00 to fix a few things. Well $400.00 amortized over 11-years is not a lot of money. It’s less than $40 per year. Would we like one of those new cars that has a built in GPS, TV or whatever that thing is where you can watch movies, individual AC settings and other gadgets? Nope.
I live in a three-bedroom townhouse with another brother in a poor neighborhood. We don’t have a dining room. The third bedroom serves as the chapel. There is not much of a backyard. To be alone, we walk around the lake outside of the house. Would we like to live in a large monastery as do Benedictines? No. We don’t need it. The Benedictines do. The amenities offered by a monastery are necessary for the life of a monk. We’re not monks.
Before I was a religious, I was a widower and a father of two. My kids and I were in the mission in the Amazon for three years. They did not have all the comforts of home in the USA. Today, they have a great understanding for poverty and people of other cultures.
My point is that we must learn to tailor our material possessions, even our homes, to our needs, not our wants. Holiness is achieved through detachment. Just look at the great saints. They were the most detached people, even those who were parents. Look at a woman like Elizabeth Ann Seton. She was the mother of five. She lived with the minimum, ran a religious community, founded schools, orphanages and a hospital. How did she do this? She believed in miracles.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF